What do you think about a man who chooses to have no involvement with his child except financial support?

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He didn't want the child. The mother went ahead with the pregnancy knowing he didn't want the child.
I'm hearing different opinions on this. Some say it's okay, some say it's wrong.

Adoption is obviously less common now due to abortions

@Stella8686 ofc women have more control over what happens to a foetus. As a pp said, you need to take any issues re unfairness about how human bodies operate to a higher power.

So the 16 year old boy now grown older (who's ex has had 3 more to 3 different dads) should be dumped! Other people have posted to leave him as he's 'scum'

In countries where abortion is illegal, yes they absolutely do ‘put their babies up for adoption’.

Men get the easy ride in this situation: how many fathers what to have a baby, then decide they can't handle the responsibility and then walk off without a second glance.

It's shocking how many cases there are. And I became yet another one. Planned baby, etc etc etc. But as soon as reality hit (and he started hitting me) he just walked away. Not a second glance. Hasn't seen our daughter for over two years. Contributes the bare minimum (another one who decided he was 'unemployed' to avoid maintenance). Made my life utter hell, domestic abuse etc, but when I tried to stand up for myself, I was accused of being an unfit mother etc...

I will never understand why someone wouldn't walk over hot coals for their child. But hey, in most instances mothers don't get the choice, so they!

Any man who can do that to a child, or another woman, is not a man.

@jessstan2

zaffa: "But, what about sperm donors, they have someone sharing their DNA and they don't know they are ok or have a relationship with them, but they know the sperm will result in a baby." ...... They don't care, they're paid.

But do you view them the same way? people on this thread are very vocal in sme cases about the OPs DP being scum and saying how can he not be interested in a child of his DNA etc (and as I said personally I don't know where I sit on this but I do know that nothing could stop me being fully involved in my child's life, there are no circumstances I would walk away) I'm just curious if they also view sperm donors as scum and abandoners? I do think adoption is somewhat different but I'm not sure why I think that - I imagine it's because I think you chose to put your baby up for adoption if you can't offer them a good life, you do it for their benefit, not because you don't want them to impact your life, so you cut contact for your own benefit. But I'm projecting so I can't be sure.

My ex is one of those men who abandons the child but is paying not because he wants but because he has to . I conceived in the relationship but he decided to cheat and leave to be with OW when I was pregnant. He is a doting father to the DD they have together and his DSS but has never wanted anything to do with our Child. He too was abandoned by his father as a child. I just feel sad and guilty for bringing a child into this world to suffer a pain and abandonment I cannot take away. I have never forgiven myself for choosing such a heartless man to have a child with and not knowing better.
My ex is still with OW many years later so if you know you can leave with his poor decision to abandon his flesh and blood , then good luck to you . After all he loves you and might work out for you both