My husband said I had a gunt and I'm so fucking hurt

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We fell out today over something trivial at my parents and then got in the car to come home. We were bickering about it on the way home and he said he was annoyed and wanted to go home because I was walking round with a gunt swilling wine and I looked like an embarrassment.

I had a baby 15 weeks ago, so I'm not looking my best. This hasn't really done anything to boost my self esteem if I'm honest. I did have a large glass of wine (with ice) but it's Sunday, I wasn't driving, I didn't think it was an issue.

He's not apologetic, he went upstairs when we got home and left me to do bath and bedtime for both children.

I'm so unbelievably hurt that I gave birth 15 weeks ago, I've been steadily loosing at 1-2lbs a week and now I feel ridiculous and so embarrassed that's what my husband thinks of me. He does sometimes say really cutting things like that, never anything this bad. I feel so deflated and shit. I struggled through bedtime and now I'm just sat quietly crying. Who is this cunt I'm married to.

Sorry, pity party for one.

That would be a deal breaker for me I'm afraid. To say something so so hurtful even in an argument is just awful. He wouldn't have said that if he really cared about you

He's waited until now to show his real self, or you've been blind to it.
You said he's done it before.
Horrible man I'd be showing him the door, absolutely no respect for you at all.
Where do morals come into it, and what's a gunt.

I don’t think I could be married to someone that cruel! Sounds like it’s not a one off, either.

I'm sorry you're married to such an unrelenting arsehole. I hope you leave him at some point

whoops sorry, last bit wrong thread, but the rest is yours

What's a gunt?!

I haven't heard the word gunt before so I don't know how insulting it is but if it's upset you he should at least be apologetic

Never heard of gunt so googled it

Your husband is a twat.

Gunt is a portmanteau of gut and cunt.
Pertains to someone grossly overweight that their gut hangs by their cunt.

He's a prick.

I've never heard of a gunt, sorry, but either way I'm guessing it's an insult. I think he's behaved horribly towards you. I still looked shit 15 weeks after giving birth - (hell, I gave birth 2 years ago and I still look like shit ) but no one ever commented apart from to say I looked well, and especially not my partner. He's supposed to be your biggest supporter, you're the mother of his children and he's saying you're an embarrassment for having one glass of wine on the weekend? He sounds awful.

What an arsehole. I had a baby the same time as you so I know how you feel. Xxx

What is a hint?!

What’s a gunt?

Gunt not hint

Wow that's unreasonably cruel and mean. He's embarrassed your body shows signs of birthing his child less than 4 months ago?
Unacceptable.

Lose the gunt, show him the door.

If it were a one off incident then it'd be different but you say it isn't. You don't want your children growing up thinking that a) this is an acceptable way to treat someone in a relationship and b) that it's ok to accept that kind of behaviour.

Aww OP, that’s horrible.
I don’t know what a gunt is but I can imagine that you do and you know your husband meant it to hurt. It’s never nice when someone we love and trust not to hurt us does so.
I hope you are feeling better soon, 1-2lbs loss a week after a baby is incredible. My youngest is one and im still the same weight 🙈 so well done you!

Christ after seeing what it means that makes it even worse. What a vile thing to say to the mother of your children.

Gunt - not quite a gut, not quite a cunt.
A bulgy belly basically. From below belly button to public area.

Public? Pubic.

I’ve never heard the word, is it like a gut? Whatever it is, he’s upset you and he doesn’t seem to care. He thinks he can say personal things about your appearance and judge you for having a glass of wine. I’d bet my bollocks these aren’t the only ways he disrespects you.

Now is not the time to worry about leaving the bastard, just bunker down with your baby(ies) and keep an eye on his behaviour in other ways, while you imagine and plan for a life where you don’t end up in tears because you’re living with a cunt.

And one day you’ll be physically and emotionally recovered from birth (which at 15 weeks it’s unlikely that you are yet) and more able to concentrate on building a good life away from this tosser.

You were at your parents’ and having a nice time, guard down, nice glass of wine. You’ve just got through the first 15 weeks of having a new baby and an older dc.

And he looks at you and feels contempt?

Fuck him, OP.

Just googled the meaning of gunt.

Your husband is a cunt.
How despicable.

He was out of order for being so callous, but it's not a deal breaker. He needs to apologise and think about how he would feel if you insulted him in such a disrespectful way. Ignore him and give him time to reflect on his behaviour. Sending you a virtual hug as you definitely need one!

So sorry OP. What a total, total arsehole. So you're meant to pop out his baby and then immediately become some bit of eye candy who behaves herself and quietly looks after the kids and he can do what he wants. Fuck that.