My husband said I had a gunt and I'm so fucking hurt

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We fell out today over something trivial at my parents and then got in the car to come home. We were bickering about it on the way home and he said he was annoyed and wanted to go home because I was walking round with a gunt swilling wine and I looked like an embarrassment.

I had a baby 15 weeks ago, so I'm not looking my best. This hasn't really done anything to boost my self esteem if I'm honest. I did have a large glass of wine (with ice) but it's Sunday, I wasn't driving, I didn't think it was an issue.

He's not apologetic, he went upstairs when we got home and left me to do bath and bedtime for both children.

I'm so unbelievably hurt that I gave birth 15 weeks ago, I've been steadily loosing at 1-2lbs a week and now I feel ridiculous and so embarrassed that's what my husband thinks of me. He does sometimes say really cutting things like that, never anything this bad. I feel so deflated and shit. I struggled through bedtime and now I'm just sat quietly crying. Who is this cunt I'm married to.

Sorry, pity party for one.

It's not a deal breaker? Yes it is, if OP wants it to be. She shouldn't have to put up with this!

how long have you been married for? known him for? sounds like hes throwing his toys out the pram.. men are pigs.. get a dog instead

What’s a gunt?

I am sorry OP. What a dick he is.

No respect for you at all.
Just get rid of this cunt,start making plans

I am outraged on your behalf OP

Completely disrespectful, your body has created and birthed a child, it is far too soon to be slimming, I was at my biggest when breastfeeding a 3 month old. It makes for good milk supplies.

Be very kind to yourself but not to your husband, I fear he will damage your self esteem and this can have a long term effect.

What a horrible word and what a revolting and hurtful think to say to anybody let alone the mother of a new baby. Very sorry you live with such a rude pig.

I had to google it as I didn’t know exactly what it meant. He’s a fucking tosser and deserves to be booted out for that.

For anyone else that doesn’t know the exact meaning

Gunt
Bulging area found on large older women between the waist and the genital area. Not quite a gut, not quite a cunt... The Gunt

Copied from google.

I’ve just googled hunt, it’s a fat overhanging belly apparently. What an unpleasant thing to say to a new Mum, it’s not a look anyone chooses, it takes at least as long to lose the baby fat as it does to grown a baby and it’s definitely not as easy.

Early days for you both with a baby and a lot of adjustments to be made on both sides so don’t be hasty. Do however tell him how much his harsh words have upset you and that regardless of the baby you won’t be his verbal punch bag, he either apologises and changes his behaviour or you will reconsider the future with him.

@FrankiesKnuckle

Gunt is a portmanteau of gut and cunt. Pertains to someone grossly overweight that their gut hangs by their cunt.

He's a prick.

Jesus wept. The things I've heard used to insult postpartum women, yet there's always a new one.

God he's shit.

OP, are you in a position to leave? That was so viciously, intentionally hurtful and soul destroying of him. So nasty.

Bulging area found on large older women between the waist and the genital area. Not quite a gut, not quite a cunt... The Gunt

Show him this thread.

What an absolute fucking arsehole.

I’m so sorry that someone has made you feel like that, no one should especially the person who should love you more than anyone in this world, show him the door, wanker.

@Crazycatperson - WTF, how is that not a deal breaker!! If you would accept that then you need to massively up Your standards!!

You have no reason to feel ridiculous or embarrassed and every reason to feel angry and betrayed by the person who is supposed to love and support you, especially when you've just had a baby! I'm furious on your behalf! and to you OP. Cuddle your lovely babies and be proud of yourself.

Nope. Not on. I gave birth 7 months ago and I'm sporting a lockdown gut. However DH would never say anything like this to me. We've been helping each other to be healthier. As far as swilling wine. I assume he was pouting because you had a drink and he couldn't. Arsehole.

There’s only one gunt in your house and it isn’t you.

He doesn’t sound like a nice person.
He doesn’t sound like he likes you.
He does sound like he resented you having a nice time and wanted to ruin your day.

Lockdown has really shown me the importance of friendship in marriage. A friend wouldn’t speak to you like that. You’d hope someone who loved you wouldn’t either.

Post pregnancy body isn’t your permanent body, but that’s no excuse to abuse you about it.

Try not to let it upset you too much, but do stay angry about the insult. He needs to apologise. Unreservedly and sincerely. Otherwise he’s not your partner, he’s just some abusive guy you live with.

Truly hideous way to talk to his wife and mother of his children.

I’m sorry this is happening. I can imagine you feel shocked he’s spoken to you like this.

He's a horrible person. Have you got options?

Never heard the word before- truly disgusting, I’d like to see his body after growing another life inside it. Fuck him. Sorry OP!

If leave

What a vile piece of crap he is. Know your worth. Tell him to fuck off and don't let him ever make you feel like this again. The sadness in your post is palpable.

I can’t even be polite. He’s a total piece of shit. This type of stuff makes me rage at the male species. What pathetic excuse of a man determines your worth based on your current figure? He’s not thankful you birthed his child?Just embarrassed that you’re walking around with a very normal post partum body? Leave him. I know you have kids, but seriously, I could never ever be attracted to such a shallow piece of shit ever again it’s so so unattractive that he’s so much of a child he makes hurtful comments about your appearance and thinks that’s ok or normal. It’s not by the way. You’ll not be able to get intimate again without feeling paranoid/self conscious. I take it he’s sculpted by the heavens above and works out regularly and eats clean and has no flaws?

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