One for the wank bank.

[Oneforthewankbank]

OK- we broke lock down, there will be some that think it's karma. I know it was stupid, you are right. I have no argument back so won't engage on this point.

My BF and I went to a BBQ earlier. Whilst there my BF took a photo of me and another woman. Then said That's one for the wank bank and saved it.

I didn't say anything but left as soon as he left the room to chat to his friends in another room

I just think he is genuinely disrespectful to me and the other girl he has hurt my feelings that he would save pictures of another woman for this purpose.

The term wank bank is disrespectful to women anyway and he is violating the other woman who was there with her boyfriend, I can't even touch on that for now.

He asked where I was and when I told him I left and why he says I need to grow up, nothing he does will ever be good enough for me and I am the one thats out of order.

Please tell me I am not the one on the wrong here, I feel like i am going nuts that he is blaming me for not taking the joke.

Thanks i really appreciate you all taking the time to respond and offer advice.

I usuallu am confident and can see that I am attractive and clever, hold down a decent job. For some reason though he makes me feel like i will never be good enough.

I think time to move on as everyone has said so thank you all. Just have to stay strong this time and not get back with him.

I can't remember if I already said you will benefit from reading "Why Does He DO That" and if I did here it is again.
Most libraries have it or you can read it on line.

You got back with him at "his insistence"? Theres your mistake right there op!
He sounds really unpleasant, mysogonistic and an all round teaser.
Consider yourself well rid and please don't doubt yourself any further!

Tosser not teaser!

Sounds like he is trying to put you down - and make you jealous by commenting on other women. Because you’re attractive, smart, nice - and he sounds insecure. He is belittling you - and this will only get worse.

He is very insecure and I feel like sometimes he needs to make others, including me feel insecure to make himself feel better

Run, these types of people are fucking intolerable.

Are you always this serious OP?

Are you always this serious OP

WTF?

I wondered about Bipolar's post as well.

Just have to stay strong this time and not get back with him.

Yes, disengage from this sleazy, immature, mean-spirited, and manipulative man. Move forward from strength to strength and never look back.
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So he said it in front of everyone? He was humiliating you, Op. please keep us updated on how you get on.

You need to block him now, Onefor.

He's apologised (sort of) but you're done with him - so the way to stay strong now is to block his phone number and any social media you might be linked on. Make sure he knows that you're done with him, that there's no coming back from this and that he's just pushed you too far with his lack of respect and denigration of you. And I mean make sure he KNOWS. Text message is fine, since speaking to him is likely to result in him trying to suck you back in.

Tell him, then block him, then do the Freedom programme and forget him.

Don’t waste time on silly texting arguments
Shouldn’t of degraded yourself with those texts to him, don’t do it again. He knows what he’s done, he might no realise now, he’ll realise in a few years when you’ve left him and he can’t meet anyone else who’ll stick around.
Don’t lose yourself worth over him