One for the wank bank.

[Oneforthewankbank]

OK- we broke lock down, there will be some that think it's karma. I know it was stupid, you are right. I have no argument back so won't engage on this point.

My BF and I went to a BBQ earlier. Whilst there my BF took a photo of me and another woman. Then said That's one for the wank bank and saved it.

I didn't say anything but left as soon as he left the room to chat to his friends in another room

I just think he is genuinely disrespectful to me and the other girl he has hurt my feelings that he would save pictures of another woman for this purpose.

The term wank bank is disrespectful to women anyway and he is violating the other woman who was there with her boyfriend, I can't even touch on that for now.

He asked where I was and when I told him I left and why he says I need to grow up, nothing he does will ever be good enough for me and I am the one thats out of order.

Please tell me I am not the one on the wrong here, I feel like i am going nuts that he is blaming me for not taking the joke.

Dominic, is that you?

Hah, no. Dominic can go fuck himself for making the rules in the first place and then breaking them.

Also sorry but stop breaking lockdown. A bbq is a really extreme fuck you to the lockdown, it's not right and I'm really surprised people are brazen enough to do it.

I do not have fights with my partner like this, and certainly not at 17 months in! :O

That's still the honeymoon period.

THIS.

Unless something major happens, like one of you losing a job or a parent, a 17 month old relationship should be easy. It should be about going on dates and your first few holidays together, having all the sex, meeting each other's friends and family and working out whether you might have a future together.

If you're regularly arguing at any point in a relationship then you need to have a good hard think about whether you should be in it. If you're married or have kids together then you need to try harder to make it work, but at 17 months in with no major commitments to each other, if you're fighting a lot then you should run for the hills.

Hah, no. Dominic can go fuck himself for making the rules in the first place and then breaking them.

Amen to that. I'm an old leftie, but for a while I was able to put my prejudices/leanings/whatever aside and actually thought the Govt was making an okay fist of a horrible situation. I've completely changed my view now. The shower of fucking incompetent fucks.

But we digress.

@LadyMuck111

"You no and I no"

Shudder.

He was having a laugh just it wasn't that funny and has played on your insecurities.

backseatcookers that's a dumpable offence on its own 😣

So many reasons to leave him!

I presume that you wouldn't have minded if he'd just taken the photo and then shut up about it. It's the having to remark on it, to make sure you know what he's done that's the objectionable bit.

Why did he even feel the need to have to say it? It's the level of immaturity that would a) think he needed to say it aloud and b) think that you (and others) would find it funny that I'd be breaking up over.

You no and I no

Why do people do this? Is it because they are so busy and important they don’t have the time to type an additional two letters, or is it because they are so thick and uneducated they actually believe ‘know’ is spelt like that?

Colossal sense of humour failure in this thread.

It stopped being a joke (assuming it was in the first place) when the boyfriend started being defensive and did not apologise that his remark upset the OP.

I can fully understand someone not wanting to spend their life apologising for jokes that don't go down well, but if this is an impasse it's an impasse.

I’m sorry but Dominic Cuntings should not be given special dispensation for needing to look after his child. I’m sure his life is extremely privileged. What about the millions of other people who have children and are sick or suffering through Covid? Is it ok for us to just do what the fuck we want then?

Piss off everyone who is having a go at the OP for going to a BBQ saying she deserves whatever, she didn’t start this thread for your opinions on that.

Piss off everyone who is having a go at the OP for going to a BBQ saying she deserves whatever, she didn’t start this thread for your opinions on that.

People can post whatever they like. If you don't like what people are saying, the report button is up there ^^^

I think you're over reacting and from the text messages I get the impression your over react a lot

“It was a joke”

I’m not laughing PotatoesDieInHotCars. It was a puerile wankerish comment that I would attribute to a callow and immature 15 year old youth, not an adult man

A “joke” is only a joke when both parties find it funny. If one party finds it offensive then it very clearly isn’t a joke. Are you a teenager?

I really dislike the way people dress up nasty, childish comments as banter. It just excuses bad behaviour.

Quite frankly, I simply don’t understand why any woman would find this remark funny in this context. And I don’t think the OP over reacted. It isn’t just the remark per se, but the fact that he has shown the OP and the woman she was talking to that he is a socially unaware, immature, sleazy dickhead.

OP, you just need to block him on all social media and move on.

The lockdown rules were made for us all to keep safe. It was impossible to make rules that covered everyone’s unique circumstances - and I’m aware that people have ‘broken’ them for good reasons (elderly relatives, childcare) and bad reasons (affairs etc). People just need to use their common sense and stop the attitude of ‘well if that person breaks the rules, why can’t I?’.

If a person are so self entitled that they think it’s ‘ok’ to attend a bbq, they probably will think it’s ok to leer at other women in front of their gf too.

They clearly don’t see any need to follow spelling or grammar rules either.

Sad that there are so many like this.

I feel like I know him.. 🤔

He can't even spell.

It took me way longer than necessary to realise the OP was at a BBQ and not B’n’Q 🤦🏻‍♀️

From your updates he definitely sounds like a douche. And anyone who uses the word banter - especially if they pronounce it “bann-uh” - deserves dumping!

Facial expression when he said it is the missing piece of the jigsaw. It sounds like this isn't the first time he's been pulled up on his sense of humour.

I have a similar sense of humour where it's dancing on 'the line' of being offensive. The art is reading the room and knowing when you've gone over it to make amends. You just aren't compatible, nothing wrong with him or you barring the lockdown thing...

Hes an immature disrespectful creep. You can do better, block and move on from the moron.