Dating Thread 188 - Living and Loving in the Lockdown

[JeSuisPrest]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Thanks @JeSuisPrest

@EchoElephant It's not the same the other way round (straight female to straight male swiping) - at least not with my profile I swipe so rarely on there too.

Thanks
Will continue the fact that Tinder is full of men who will swipe on a woman who doesn’t even have a profile picture the same amount as a woman who has 5 or 6!

I'm quite impressed that my fake profile without a face photo has got so many likes. And super likes!!
Who super likes an almost blank profile??

Tempted to match with some of them to find out why they swiped. Especially the ones that say they want a relationship

The words inspired them ? Mystery ? Fumbled superlikes ? Or an in for a penny, in for a pound kind of thinking ?

Thanks for the new thread @JeSuisPrest xxx

Then we can compare them 😂 set yourself to my location and we can see if they talk to both of us 😂

Should I just give up with any effort Echo and go for a block of edam as my profile photo? Will save me bothering doing my hair 😂

Wow new thread, thought the old one would never fill up it was going that slow for a while there!
For anyone interested things with Mr Farmer are back on track and going great 👍🏼
Just hope the lockdown is eased after these three weeks and we can go on some actual dates 🙏🏼

@EchoElephant Who super likes an almost blank profile??

Someone who has forgotten they are on Tinder and is scrolling down to view the bio thinking they are on POF. Ask me how I know...

I remember setting up a fake profile before as my friend wanted to see what tinder was all about. I'd no intention of meeting anyone or talking to them. I'd a minion as a picture and nothing on my bio. I got more likes than ever!! I was told by many that they thought I was probably married or in a relationship and I would be good fun and discreet!!

JeSuisPrest I think the super likes were probably mistakes. I hope!
I've nearly done the same when swapping from Tinder to Bumble

Chocolate123 that explains the ones who are just after some fun.
But what about the ones who have a "proper" profile - nice photos, good profile, want a relationship? Why are they swiping right?
I don't get it.

Menora sadly I think the block of Edam would work

Ha, I just had a check on Tinder and I've stopped on a profile that has no pics and no bio ... so tempted right now !

Thanks for the new thread @JeSuisPrest

Thank you for the new thread @JeSuisPrest

@HairyArsedMan

Resist! Don’t give into the mysterious profile 😂
I wouldn’t ever bother swiping on a no photo profile - he could be married or a criminal

I have got into a conversation today with a bloke where absolutely nothing else has been discussed except that we are planning on breaking into a well known bakers shop chain during the NHS clap to steal produce and using donkeys as get away vehicles while dressed as Dolly Parton and Clint Eastwood

@Menora I love those kinds of silly chats where you click humour wise. I thought I was chatting to someone with some potential and I made a silly joke and he got all intense about it. Immediately knew this wasn't a good idea!!! I hate that.

I'm so innocent 😳. I always assumed the no pics were just like robots or hookups. I never assumed married 😂😂.

My iron needs a name. He needs a good one. A pretty innocent conversation about desserts has turned into sexting. 🤞🤞 3 more weeks...

Checking in, not been on for a while as no irons, but still reading.

I’ve got one who I think might be a bit clingy I’m not sure
I have WhatsApp Web open because a lot of work stuff is on there nowadays and he can maybe see me and I’ve had a couple of ‘where are you then’ type messages today

Are you sure he's clingy and not just super interested in you mixed with loneliness of the lockdown?

@menora ‘a bit’ clingy. A couple of where are you messages is far too much

I feel like I need a "how serious are we conversation?" (iron's name is now Mr Vegan) but I'm not sure how to even approach it. We talk all the time, like twice a day we video call (I met him on tinder just after Christmas and pen palled for a while, met up with him twice just before lockdown and slept together on both accounts - it wasn't planned but the chemistry was incredible). When we went into lockdown I deleted my tinder account but I noticed he was still on there but then this evening we were talking about our future and how he feels really excited when he sees my face and loves speaking to me, and he does see a future and family with me, and then we were designing our imaginary study when we get a house together (!). He seems really serious but I still don't know where I stand, if that makes sense. Like, where are we? Are we an item? Would he consider me his girlfriend? Is all this just lockdown fever?
We are doing a video date tomorrow with wine and he's ordering us a deliveroo (he's lives really close by so is ordering it to both our homes 😂). I don't know if I should broach it or wait until after lockdown, which just seems like a million miles away.

@cheesecakeaddict I don’t like to label things like gf etc. He sounds amazing and is obviously into you so I wouldn’t think about it and you can discuss when you meet in person.

See I have no patience and would want to know 😂 as it would drive me insane. But this is because I had no security as a child and I really like to feel secure in life and decisions. I am not very good at going with the flow and men who are too laid back or vague seem to drive me crazy. I don’t want to know everything all at once like marriage but I am reluctant to ‘waste my time’ on something with someone who doesn’t know what they want. But to be fair to me, I’ve tried to be the cool girl on more than one occasion and been led along by one guy for nearly 2 bloody years and my main ex making noise about marriage for 8 years when he had no intention ever.
But Mr Vegan has talked about the future so I think I would like that and it sounds really positive. The things to look out for is actual avoidance of any future talk or it being OTT about it

But this is why I am single I imagine and need therapy 🤷🏻‍♀️

Mr Return is my current iron. He is the one I stopped texting when I met Mr M. He didn’t text me again though to be fair, and I forgot about him a bit to be honest in all the drama. We have chatted tonight and I remember all the reasons why I liked him the first time. He also said he had thought about me and wanted to text me but didn’t know what I was doing. I was really honest and said sorry but I met someone but it fizzled out relatively quickly. I thought it best to be honest? Is it respectful to go back? I don’t owe him anything though do I
Also don’t want him to be a rebound. I actually wish I had given him more of a chance in the first place so I have regret!