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This is a red flag isn't it? I'm fuming

323 replies

duckingredflags · 12/02/2020 07:05

I have been dating a man who lives close to me for the last couple of months, we are both early 20's. I live at home with parents and he has a flat 10 minutes up the road. He works nights and last night he mentioned he hadn't eaten before work so I offered to drop him some food off from McDonald's at around 10 o'clock as I drive and he doesn't. I turned up with the food and then on my way home I received messages saying I'd got his order wrong and detailing everything I'd got wrong, he'd asked for no ice in his drink and there was ice, I'd got the wrong sauce and his chips were cold. This got my back up as I'd driven all the way there for him and paid for it, so I snapped back that it was ungrateful to be complaining and he messaged back saying 'well, if you got the wrong food served to you in a restaurant and you were looking forward to it you wouldn't be happy would you ? I saw red at this point and responded 'well I'm not a fucking restaurant am i?' You should go yourself next time then. He responded with 'forget it'. I'm seriously considering ending things over this, I'm not being unreasonable and overreacting am I ?

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duckingredflags · 12/02/2020 07:07

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Aminuts23 · 12/02/2020 07:08

What an ungrateful prick!!! Yes I’d say that’s a red flag. I’d get rid now. Can you imagine behaving that way to someone ever? I couldn’t.

Doggodogington · 12/02/2020 07:08

Yep. He was so rude and ungrateful. You are only a few months in so cut your losses and run.

HiyaVera · 12/02/2020 07:09

No. What a twat. Life is too short to put up with that shit from anyone.

GreyishDays · 12/02/2020 07:09

That’s awful. How can he think that’s an ok way to treat someone?

Please don’t see him again.

TreatMyself · 12/02/2020 07:09

Yes I would tell him where to go.

Magpiefeather · 12/02/2020 07:10

Yes get rid and be glad he has shown you early on what a knob he can be!

ReturnofSaturn · 12/02/2020 07:10

That's absolutely awful, pretty shocking actually. Yes I would end this without a shadow of a doubt.

MyNewBearTotoro · 12/02/2020 07:11

If you’d got him a chicken burger instead of a Big Mac or something I’d say he’d be reasonable to point it out, but his complaints are all such petty things I’d definitely take it as a red flag. Imagine what he’d be like if you lived together if he thinks it’s okay to moan like that after you’ve done him an obvious favour - he sounds completely entitled.

I’d be leaving him too.

Elephantonascooter · 12/02/2020 07:11

Yea I'd call it a day. He's clearly an ungreatful man child

Tableclothing · 12/02/2020 07:12

Yeah, his behaviour will only get worse.

Catting · 12/02/2020 07:13

He isn't even trying to be nice, which is shocking for such a new relationship. Ltb.

Sunshinegirl82 · 12/02/2020 07:14

You're early 20s and it's only a few months in, it should be fun! I don't think I'd be wasting anymore time on this one. You did a nice thing and he was an arse about it. I wouldn't be impressed.

Sparklfairy · 12/02/2020 07:16

If you let him get away with this once he will ALWAYS treat you like this

SmileyClare · 12/02/2020 07:16

You're not ending things over a McDonald's as such, you're ending it because he's given you a glimpse of his real self; a self entitled prick.
Imagine going to a restaurant with him! Having a tantrum over some ice cubes and a sauce sachet and talking down to people isn't even acceptable then.

Allcrimps · 12/02/2020 07:16

He's a cock. Cut him loose.

MashedSpud · 12/02/2020 07:16

He could have shut up and removed the ice himself.

His reaction to the whole thing is a flag redder than Ronnie’s nose.

BruceFoxton · 12/02/2020 07:17

Probably lucky he’s shown his true colours relatively soon. Have nothing more to do with this tit.

Shoxfordian · 12/02/2020 07:18

He thinks you're deliveroo not his girlfriend
Dump him

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 12/02/2020 07:18

You did a nice thing and he acted like a dick about sauce and cold chips. I'd just forget about him

Apolloanddaphne · 12/02/2020 07:18

I think he is clearly letting you know he is going to be a picky and ungrateful nightmare. Be thankful you have seen this early in the relationship and dump him.

icelollycraving · 12/02/2020 07:19

Get rid. Unless he sends a v grovelly text this morning basically acknowledging he was an utter spoilt brat last night.
In your twenties it should be fun.

lilgreen · 12/02/2020 07:20

Yanbu but also he can get his own food. Presumably he survived before he was with you. Try not to run around after men in future.

LatentPhase · 12/02/2020 07:21

Yep. Red flag - next!

Mummacake · 12/02/2020 07:22

Another one here who says don't waste your time on an ungrateful & entitled prick. He will expect to to run around after him and nothing you ever do is good enough. It'll wear you down and sap you of your energy & self worth. Ditch him.