This is a red flag isn't it? I'm fuming

[duckingredflags]

I have been dating a man who lives close to me for the last couple of months, we are both early 20's. I live at home with parents and he has a flat 10 minutes up the road. He works nights and last night he mentioned he hadn't eaten before work so I offered to drop him some food off from McDonald's at around 10 o'clock as I drive and he doesn't. I turned up with the food and then on my way home I received messages saying I'd got his order wrong and detailing everything I'd got wrong, he'd asked for no ice in his drink and there was ice, I'd got the wrong sauce and his chips were cold. This got my back up as I'd driven all the way there for him and paid for it, so I snapped back that it was ungrateful to be complaining and he messaged back saying 'well, if you got the wrong food served to you in a restaurant and you were looking forward to it you wouldn't be happy would you ? I saw red at this point and responded 'well I'm not a fucking restaurant am i?' You should go yourself next time then. He responded with 'forget it'. I'm seriously considering ending things over this, I'm not being unreasonable and overreacting am I ?

Well the good news is now you know nice and early so you can move on.

I've been with DH for 20 years. I'm a sahm and he works to support us. Every single thing I do for him gets a thank you, just as everything he does for me gets one. Every meal I cook is met with gratitude and even a compliment, even if I sometimes have the odd culinary failure and he's only being polite (it's only ever been bad enough once to warrant a fit of laughter and a "I'm sorry but I can't eat it!")

Move on. I hope you find an actual nice man soon.

I probably would gave got him another drink with no ice and poured it over him for being so ungrateful and then dumped his ass

Urgh, disgusting man.

Dump & block his petty, ungrateful, entitled, vile ass.

Oh & tell him to go hug a landmine.

Oh gosh yes, please end this right now. This entitled little shit REALLY doesn't deserve you.

Yeh, bin him.

What an ungrateful piece of shit. Bin him.

He could have easily re-heated the chips and hooked the ice out! Also he could have been bloody grateful you were out at 10pm running around in your car for him. Ungrateful twat! He has shown his true colours and they ain’t pretty! Dump!

Run for the hills and do not look back.

At the end of the day this man albeit rather young should know to eat before his shift starts in order to function at his best.

It is not your responsibility to cater for him and take the role of his mum.

Yes I would dump him if I were you. Please don't try to mother the next guy is all I can say.

Unless he sends a v grovelly text this morning basically acknowledging he was an utter spoilt brat last night.

Aaargh mis-posted. Will try again:

Unless he sends a v grovelly text this morning basically acknowledging he was an utter spoilt brat last night.

Nooooooo! Then he will be safe in the knowledge that he can treat you like shit as long as he sends a text later. His behaviour is unacceptable, bin him now and save yourself some time. The right bloke for you will never pull this shit.

Well done for spotting this so early. But he wasn't exactly subtle! Move on :-)

God imagine how bad he will be in 10 years time. Definitely one to swerve.

Definitely, definitely dump. There isn't any coming back from that. Thankfully you stood up for yourself from the outset!

Huge red flag, I may be paranoid through my own and others experiences, but he's seeing how you react to his behaviour, if you don't dump him, you're telling him he can treat you like that (some men get of on the power of being a prick).
I don't care if he turns up with a hand written sonnet and 12 dozen red roses. Dump him.

yes that's a red flag. you aren't an uber eats service you are (well, were) his girlfriend. if he can't tell the difference between a kind gesture of caring vs a paid-for service then he is definitely not a keeper. he's a selfish twunt.

that said, a lot of early 20s blokes are similarly selfish and horrible. some of them later mature into decent blokes but part of the process of successfully maturing and becoming less selfish is getting dumped by your gf for gross selfish arseholeness. you owe it to the greater sisterhood to dump him now, as thereby he has a chance to learning to be less awful in future.

Yeah, after 2 months this is still best behaviour. Hes a dick

Ungrateful shit! Yep, dump. And find someone who appreciates kindness instead of picking faults.

HUGE red flag.

End it immediately. You went out of your way to do something nice for him, hand delivered him free food and then he was rude to you.

I feel like there are warning flags on both sides. Why on earth did you offer to go and get him food? That's too much. But, yes, he was rude about it.

Do not waste another second on this prick. Text him everything that is wrong with him then block him

What a prick. Dump!

Wow. I literally have no words, apart from please end it.

Wow! Yep you need to end it now. If he can talk to you like that a few months in I dress to think how he will treat you during the drudgery of normal everyday life of kids, work, bills and all the stresses that brings