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This is a red flag isn't it? I'm fuming

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duckingredflags · 12/02/2020 07:05

I have been dating a man who lives close to me for the last couple of months, we are both early 20's. I live at home with parents and he has a flat 10 minutes up the road. He works nights and last night he mentioned he hadn't eaten before work so I offered to drop him some food off from McDonald's at around 10 o'clock as I drive and he doesn't. I turned up with the food and then on my way home I received messages saying I'd got his order wrong and detailing everything I'd got wrong, he'd asked for no ice in his drink and there was ice, I'd got the wrong sauce and his chips were cold. This got my back up as I'd driven all the way there for him and paid for it, so I snapped back that it was ungrateful to be complaining and he messaged back saying 'well, if you got the wrong food served to you in a restaurant and you were looking forward to it you wouldn't be happy would you ? I saw red at this point and responded 'well I'm not a fucking restaurant am i?' You should go yourself next time then. He responded with 'forget it'. I'm seriously considering ending things over this, I'm not being unreasonable and overreacting am I ?

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madcatladyforever · 12/02/2020 09:06

Massive red flag. I can only imagine what he will be like in a few years time if he is like this now.
He is an ungrateful, selfish prick. What are you supposed to do about cold chips! Have you got a microwave in your car?
Utter tosser - dump him.

puds11 · 12/02/2020 09:11

@duckingredflags maybe you could give @ThisMustBeMyDream his number 🤷‍♀️

Justaboy · 12/02/2020 09:12

BIG BIG Rod for your back me duck, in the making!!!

baubled · 12/02/2020 09:14

Put him in the bin

OldEvilOwl · 12/02/2020 09:15

Your considering ending it? Why haven't you already told him to fuck off, the ungrateful git!

timetest · 12/02/2020 09:17

Rude and ungrateful. Dump now.

MzHz · 12/02/2020 09:17

Absolutely dump him! What a prick!!

I’d also doubt the order was wrong anyway....

Thinkingabout1t · 12/02/2020 09:18

As a friend said to me long ago, This has saved you a few years of wasting your time on a selfish prick!

Fixedterm · 12/02/2020 09:19

He’s a disgrace ! Dump him .

MzHz · 12/02/2020 09:20

This is the first time he's really shown this kind of behaviour

Make sure it’s the last by dumping him, or it’s the start of a miserable existence

You are worth waaaay more than this. Everyone is.

OkMaybeNot · 12/02/2020 09:28

Have you met his mum yet? I'll bet you a fiver he's a whiny little mummy's boy.

You're so lucky he's revealed himself to be an ill-mannered twat only a few months in!

Original poster
duckingredflags · 12/02/2020 09:31

Ok maybe he'sa the only boy in a family of 4 children so you maybe right!

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LucheroTena · 12/02/2020 09:33

End it now. At least you found out early and only for the price of a MacD.

Musti · 12/02/2020 09:36

I'm absolutely gobsmacked at what he said after your kind gesture!!

BustedDreams · 12/02/2020 09:39

NRTFT. Bin him off ! He was very ungrateful and just kept digging. You deserve someone who appreciates your kind gestures.

Clockonmantlepiece · 12/02/2020 09:42

If he is like this now, at beginning of relationship when they're on best behaviour:
HE WILL BE AWFUL WHEN YOU'RE MARRIED. Or have kids.
You'll be forever told off and controlled.
Eg "why did you put the dc shoes there!, I told you where they should go!" angrily or at best contemptuously.

Run. Fast.

ThisMustBeMyDream · 12/02/2020 09:44

The basic manners of some are definitely lacking on here. How dare I have a different opinion huh? I should be insulted for that, right?

This is nothing to do with sexual politics. I'm a woman who would not feel grateful to someone supposedly doing me a kind gesture, and then actually expecting me to be gratfeul and return a gesture in the future.

What has sex got to do with that? I absolutely don't take shit from a man, but nor would I fuck up an order and expect gratitude from a woman or a man.

FWIW if my boyfriend did this, I'd tell him so he could ring McDonalds for his money back. I'd then order on uber if I was at work.

Bluewater1 · 12/02/2020 09:44

Ungrateful. Get rid

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ThisMustBeMyDream · 12/02/2020 09:48

Nobody has to be rude about it... quite clearly some are incapable of that.

Travis1 · 12/02/2020 09:48

Definite red flag. The only answer to you bringing him food was thank you. I remember my first date with DH we were at a gig and I went to the bathroom at the end. When I came out he was standing waiting for me and had got me a portion of chips. Dry chips. Grin Did I bitch and moan about the lack of salt and vinegar? Nope, took them, said thanks and ate the bastards. Did tell him eventually about how much I don't like dry chips and we still joke about it now.

You actually should never have known there was an issue with his order. Dump his arse.

JacquesHammer · 12/02/2020 09:49

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Puzzledandpissedoff · 12/02/2020 09:49

Write him a note saying this isn't working for you and goodbye

And write it on the back of a Deliveroo flyer ...

JacquesHammer · 12/02/2020 09:49

quite clearly some are incapable of that

Quite, like the OP's (hopefully!) ex-boyfriend. Or is it ok he's rude because he has a cock?

Standstilling · 12/02/2020 09:53

Is he dumped yet?

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