This is a red flag isn't it? I'm fuming

[duckingredflags]

I have been dating a man who lives close to me for the last couple of months, we are both early 20's. I live at home with parents and he has a flat 10 minutes up the road. He works nights and last night he mentioned he hadn't eaten before work so I offered to drop him some food off from McDonald's at around 10 o'clock as I drive and he doesn't. I turned up with the food and then on my way home I received messages saying I'd got his order wrong and detailing everything I'd got wrong, he'd asked for no ice in his drink and there was ice, I'd got the wrong sauce and his chips were cold. This got my back up as I'd driven all the way there for him and paid for it, so I snapped back that it was ungrateful to be complaining and he messaged back saying 'well, if you got the wrong food served to you in a restaurant and you were looking forward to it you wouldn't be happy would you ? I saw red at this point and responded 'well I'm not a fucking restaurant am i?' You should go yourself next time then. He responded with 'forget it'. I'm seriously considering ending things over this, I'm not being unreasonable and overreacting am I ?

*dread

Of course the chips were cold. I live 5 mins from a MacDonald a drive thru and I've never got the chips home warm.

You should have just responded "I think you mean thank you. Goodbye. I won't be bringing you food ever again, you rude fucker" and blocked him.

I'd definitely say that to my DH of 20 years if he whinged about a McD's

Ducking hell, what a twat! Dump and run and block too.

I actually have the rage on your behalf, OP

Run as fast as you can.

Blackcat well he hinted so I offered, I did get something for myself at the same time and it wasn't out of my way so I figured it was a nice thing to do as he was going to be standing outside in the freezing cold all night. It isn't something I would routinely do. This is the first time he's really shown this kind of behaviour so it's just a bit of a shock. And I'm not trying to mother him, honestly.

Do you really have to ask ?

You did something lovely, he reacted terribly. How is it your fault the chips were cold?! What an arse. Seeyaaaaa!!!

Ew yeah, seeya.

Huge red flag, I may be paranoid through my own and others experiences, but he's seeing how you react to his behaviour, if you don't dump him, you're telling him he can treat you like that

This is exactly how it starts. Abuse that is. Early days when you are both keen he lets the mask slip a little, gauges your reaction. He hopes you are so into him you disregard this. He may be the perfect boyfriend from here on in, but months, even years down the line this will resurface.

im the kind of bitch that would have done a u turn, driven back to his house, walked in grabbed his drink and shoved my hand in and hauled the ice out and let it fall on the floor, i would have thrown it all the in microwave till it was almost on fire and handed it all back to him and then topped it off by asking if his ass needs wiped too... i would ghost his ass after that

What a twat! I’m always gobsmacked by people like this. Get rid!

Wow I’m with the get rid crowd! My do can be an insensitive oaf at times, but he wouldn’t dare do this to me!

Definitely end this! I once forgot to boil the kettle and made ex-DH a cup of tea that was cold and he drank it without complaining x 😂

End it! Imagine if you started a long term relationship with him and hes like this about McDonalds,what else is he going to be unreasonable about?

@ItStarted that might be the other end of the scale

You were just trying to be nice, getting him food. I don’t think there is anything bad about going slightly out of your way to do a nice gesture for your partner/child/friend.

If by red flag you mean being an ungrateful dick, then yes, it’s very poor behaviour. Sounds like he didn’t even say thank you.

He's a prick.

Actually, I'm on his side here. When I go for food for anyone regardless of if I am paying or not - I check the order carefully and sort issues before taking the food back.
Why would you not? Otherwise you're just wasting your own money if they can't even enjoy the food.
I'd feel let down at someone making a kind gesture and then expecting me to be grateful when I wouldn't or couldn't eat it. Other than a thanks for going, I wouldn't feel overly chuffed that my other half didn't check the order. I feel that kind of thing is basic given how often McDonalds do serve cold food and wrong orders.

Ungrateful prick.... clearly has no manners and that won’t change.

I'm sad to say that I work with a lot of men in their early 20's that have this attitude. When called out on it they attempt to pass it off as just a joke.

I do hope you listen to your gut instinct and the very loud chorus of LTB and walk away.

I had a neighbor who worked nights. I can’t help but notice that there is a subset of people who work nights who seem to think it gives them the right to act like entitled assholes toward us daywalkers. It’s almost like we “owe” them for their choosing to take a night shift and so we have to put up with their bullshit.

Thismust, so you would really make a point of checking if there was ice in the drink or not? ( I did ask for it without ice btw) and send somebody a message over a pot of sauce?

Without taking the top off the drink how would I have known they had put ice in it?

Thismust would you really have whinged like that? You must be an awful partner.