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This is a red flag isn't it? I'm fuming

323 replies

duckingredflags · 12/02/2020 07:05

I have been dating a man who lives close to me for the last couple of months, we are both early 20's. I live at home with parents and he has a flat 10 minutes up the road. He works nights and last night he mentioned he hadn't eaten before work so I offered to drop him some food off from McDonald's at around 10 o'clock as I drive and he doesn't. I turned up with the food and then on my way home I received messages saying I'd got his order wrong and detailing everything I'd got wrong, he'd asked for no ice in his drink and there was ice, I'd got the wrong sauce and his chips were cold. This got my back up as I'd driven all the way there for him and paid for it, so I snapped back that it was ungrateful to be complaining and he messaged back saying 'well, if you got the wrong food served to you in a restaurant and you were looking forward to it you wouldn't be happy would you ? I saw red at this point and responded 'well I'm not a fucking restaurant am i?' You should go yourself next time then. He responded with 'forget it'. I'm seriously considering ending things over this, I'm not being unreasonable and overreacting am I ?

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Buggedandconfused · 14/02/2020 19:02

You dodged a bullet OP. What a vile specimen he was 🤮

allthedamnvampires · 14/02/2020 19:36

Hey Salty! Well done! What a twat Grin

SalmonOfKnowledge · 14/02/2020 19:46

Put salt on your own chips
Feather your own nest.
Always feather your own nest.
Well done

SalmonOfKnowledge · 14/02/2020 19:47

Cars depreciate
Houses appreciate
I prefer your goal. 🏡

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 14/02/2020 19:52

I'm salty apparently

Food wrong
Drink had ice
Girlfriend too salty

Grin
rumandbiscuits · 14/02/2020 19:54

You're response to him is hilarious. What a prick! You are well rid! Congratulations 🥳

Willow2017 · 14/02/2020 20:50

Aww bless him.he is desperate to have the last word isnt he? His ego must be shrivelling because you aren't listening to his ' so reasonable' requests that he has to resort to random insults.

How pathetic.
Bet you.would rather have an old car and savings than that pathetic prick op.😁

yellowkangaroo · 14/02/2020 21:06

I'd rather be "salty" that be going out with a dickhead. Well done to you OP for walking away. BTW, It didn't read to me that he dumped you as a previous poster said, felt like he was fishing for an apology and you gave him something to chew on. Congrats.

Willow2017 · 14/02/2020 21:06

Send him this 😂😂

Honeyroar · 14/02/2020 22:33

What does salty mean??

Good response to him anyway. Hope you’re realising what a dickhead you were with and counting your lucky stars that he’s gone!

HeadachesByTheDozen · 14/02/2020 23:08

@Honeyroar it means bitter.

MzHz · 15/02/2020 11:39

Oh well any doubt as to why this prince amongst men was single has been well and truly cleared up!

What a monumental wanker.

Which is precisely what he will have to be because nobody would put up with his ridiculous entitlement!

MzHz · 15/02/2020 11:41

@duckingredflags you’re an example and inspiration to so many who should deal with disrespect and shoddy behaviour as you have done.

Quick, clinical and definitive

And he doesn’t like it does he the poor little mite...

boo fucking hoo.

MzHz · 15/02/2020 11:43

ALWAYS bin the very first time you feel that twinge that you did that made you 'seriously consider' ending it. That's your instinct, trust it always. Every time. That twinge is never 'overreacting' or 'being sensitive', it's your intuition telling you he's a wrong 'un and protecting you.

This ^

It should be taught in schools, bravo @EuroMillionsWinner, excellent post

MzHz · 15/02/2020 11:44

It should be put on as a sticky at the top of the MN dating thread, that’s for sure! :)

Cherrysoup · 15/02/2020 12:15

Good god, can you imagine living with this bloke? What an entitled wanker! Can you imagine the complaints if you put the loo roll on the way he doesn’t like or you added salt to something he doesn’t want salt on? I just could not be bothered with his level of sheer pettiness!

kim1856 · 15/02/2020 12:38

Wow what an absolute tw*t of a bloke. Thank god you got rid of him, he sounds disgusting.

I've got friends whose relationships have started out like this and years later they are still with them and getting mentally and physically abused.

Maybe that's the extreme end of things, but find it really weird that he would act like that so soon in to the relationship.

Well rid!

susandelgado · 15/02/2020 13:05

What a twunt. I reckon you've had a lucky escape with that one. 🚩🚩🚩
Finish it now op!

SeaEagleFeather · 17/02/2020 17:55

His poor widdle ego is 'urt

you bitch you

LassoOfTruth · 17/02/2020 18:02

I really hope this isn't real. Get out why you can and be glad that at least he showed you his true colours this early in. Congratulations, your very own CF!

Original poster
duckingredflags · 17/02/2020 19:15

And apparently I'm wicked and reckless as well 😁

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Honeyroar · 17/02/2020 19:18

The most important thing that you are is free of him!

Is he still getting messages through? You must have really bumped his ego!😀

Original poster
duckingredflags · 17/02/2020 19:22

It's shook me a bit how fast somebody can turn on you like that, makes me never want to go near a man ever again to be honest.

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nicslackey · 17/02/2020 19:36

Don't be daft OP! He wasn't a man. He was a wee boy!

yellowallpaper · 17/02/2020 19:37

So he throws your good deed back in your face? End it