This is a red flag isn't it? I'm fuming

[duckingredflags]

I have been dating a man who lives close to me for the last couple of months, we are both early 20's. I live at home with parents and he has a flat 10 minutes up the road. He works nights and last night he mentioned he hadn't eaten before work so I offered to drop him some food off from McDonald's at around 10 o'clock as I drive and he doesn't. I turned up with the food and then on my way home I received messages saying I'd got his order wrong and detailing everything I'd got wrong, he'd asked for no ice in his drink and there was ice, I'd got the wrong sauce and his chips were cold. This got my back up as I'd driven all the way there for him and paid for it, so I snapped back that it was ungrateful to be complaining and he messaged back saying 'well, if you got the wrong food served to you in a restaurant and you were looking forward to it you wouldn't be happy would you ? I saw red at this point and responded 'well I'm not a fucking restaurant am i?' You should go yourself next time then. He responded with 'forget it'. I'm seriously considering ending things over this, I'm not being unreasonable and overreacting am I ?

What a dick! I’d dump his arse.

He hinted. What a knob.

If you have a think his twattery has probably shown up subtly at other times.

Move on - as others have said he’s given you a glimpse of the real him

Yes I would. Give it a little shake. And no I'd not need to send a message over sauce as if they haven't specified at the time then that is their fault. I will make sure I get whatever they have asked for.

The only order mistake you made was the sauce. And seriously, who has a tantrum over a piddling packet of sauce when someone has done a thoughtful thing for you?

You aren't in control of the food temperature, he can mardarse at the weather for that.
And McDonald's not filling the cup with ice 😂😂😂😂 if they didn't put the ice in you'd get more than a thimble of coke and that would never do.

He's a prick and doesn't deserve your time or effort.

It isn't whinging to state an order is wrong. That's what he said. The OP said she snapped back at him. Sounds like he retaliated to that.

Yep get rid.

I'd tell him to fuck off. It wouldn't have been any better if he'd have ordered an Uber Eats. He wouldn't have given the driver shit then would he. Knob.

@duckingredflags I remember a few times being stuck at work and my now DH offering to bring me some food in, a few times he’d get it a tiny bit wrong but he never knew. I was ever so grateful for him to offer, starving so whatever he brought I was super happy to have.

It’s the thought that counts, you didn’t have to go, who cares about ice in a drink? Chips being cold... well it’s fast food duh, it’s not going to piping hot!! And the wrong sauce, bloody scrap it out. I hate sauce but I don’t get burgers without - I just remove it.

HUGE red flag, imagine living with him and you cook him a meal and it’s not quite hot enough? Or you didn’t cook it for long enough.... just imagine his reaction in person??

OK do you really need to ask?

This has got to be a windup...

He should have just fished the ice out and microwaved the fries for a few seconds, then said thank you. That's how normal people behave. Move on

This guy was at work so can not heat food. Also, some food can not be reheated safely (chicken selects or chicken burgers etc).

Also, I have an allergy, so incorrect food causes me bigger issues.

I still wouldn't do it to someone else. I'd want to get their order right.

I wouldn't put up with that kind of rudeness from a friend so no way would I take it from a partner.

I don't care if he turns up with a hand written sonnet and 12 dozen red roses. Dump him

^^^^^^^THIS^^^^^^^^

I'm on his side. I'd feel let down..if I couldn't or wouldn't eat it

But would you complain about it, or just say "thank you" and then out it in the bin if it was inedible? He could show gratitude for the gesture instead of kicking off.

Haha at "couldn't eat it". The wrong packet of sauce and ice a drink renders nothing inedible or undrinkable.

This is what the men who, after years of marriage, come in after work and start bellowing/punching if their wife hasn't made the "right" dinner look like in their early 20s.

The only only acceptable answer to someone bringing you food as an alternative to you standing in the cold starving is 'thank you so much'.

It doesn't matter if he's a vegetarian and you brought him a steak (although that would flag up other issues in your relationship) - he should still have the grace to thank you for your time and effort, even if he had to throw the food away. Sending you a detailed list of 'where you went wrong' is the action of a man who will, later if you let things continue, send you texts telling you how clean he would like the house on his return from work.

OMG dump this prick- what an absolute tosser. Huge red flag.

@ThisMustBeMyDream i'm sure the boyfriend didn't have an allergy to ice though - it wouldn't have killed him!

Move on! No basic manners! Why did you pay for it? You sound very desperate! Plenty of better mannered fish!

Well, if you want more of this coming your way, then carry on seeing him.

You did do a nice thing for him, he's just shot himself in the foot.

He sounds an ungrateful whiner - gavel - bin!

ThisMustBeMyDream

Actually, I'm on his side here.

I feel for you. It's not ok to behave the way this guy did. You must be lacking in standards.

OP I think be happy this happened now rather than further into the relationship!! block him and move on :) what an ungrateful prick!

You did something really sweet - and he complained about it - you deserve much better !