Dating thread 183 - Know your worth, honour your boundaries

[saltysally]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@Jane1978xx are you going to let us know what the best (you know I mean worst) reply is 😂

@ant330 I had a look a few said oops hacked and a few very serious responses saying they’ll report me 😂😂. I’ve deleted the account totally now I’ll join again if I need to

@crazycatlady20 they go after 30 days that’s normal x

Boo boring replies 😂😂

Fingers crossed for you that you don't need the account again 🤞

@Jane who keeps hacking your account?

Also wondering how someone can't own denim.😅

My date with Mr Dumfries is on for tomorrow, time and place arranged. No numbers exchanged though, but that's fine for now.

Messages first, polite, seems bloomin normal, something has to give 😅

@bangheadhere40 I have no idea some kind of bot rather than a person but that’s twice 🤣🤣 I’d be gutted if I was actually on it

Will catch up properly later but need a bit of help with a POF issue and see Jane's been hacked again!

I meant to delete my account but didn't get round to it yet. Went to log in but can't, password reset isn't working- despite having received emails from them 2 days ago. I don't know what to do, I just want to delete the account but there's no way of contacting them when I can't log in. Worried it's been hacked and I can't get into it just to delete it. Anyone got any suggestions? Ugh I get really anxious about this kind of thing

@leave can you reset your password? That's what I did when I couldn't log in.

really hating being back on the apps. honestly some of the pics men put up, do they really think they will entice u?

I cant get on to bumble, tried pod, tinder and badoo. not a fan of hinge. any other decent ones to try?

Feeling sorry for myself this evening after my date cancelled.

I've been single for 6years now, apart from a 9 month long relationship. I'm beginning to think I'm undateable and I'll be single forever.
All my single friends are now loved up. It's just me left.

Has anyone else being single for years or is it just me?

@bangheadhere40 when I click the password reset thing, no email is coming through to me so I can't reset it

Not just you @echo I've been single for 3 years..

@crazycat

Happn is quite good

@leave it did that to me, try resetting with your username instead of email, that worked for me.

@leave took about 10 attempts, and check spam

@bangheadhere40 but it wants my email address to send a password reset email?

I found it odd, it did the same to me but when I tried username it worked....it took so many attempts though.

Thanks btw @bangheadhere40, Ive tried loads of times but still no email coming through, not in spam either. I hate POF for so many reasons!

It said enter email or username, and only username worked.

I’ve not used it in 3 months I only know I was hacked as I had loads of emails from Pof but I was able to log in

@echo...I am sure you aren't undatable and you mustn't feel like that. You said earlier you have an active life and friends etc, obviously a very sociable, friendly person. I think the problem is the men on the apps. I always think speed dating would be good!

As @crazycat said most men leave a lot to be desired....

I don't know the answer, I think a lot of it is just pure luck, not anything anyone has done wrong.

I think it’s a numbers game-One of my friends said to me.. if you were in a bar or a club with men walking past all the time, how many would ‘like’ you and how many would you ‘like’ back & then want to chat to, and then see again? And how many nights out would it take to get to that point?

I have just suspended my Match account