Dating thread 181 - into 2020 with finesse and strong boundaries!

[Menora]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

The other one was on page 40 so here we go!

Wishing luck to everyone going on dates this week and that all your Irons are not fuckwits

Thanks menora

sunshine yes I know. I think it’s harder as I really want a shag 😂 and Mr Fact us not very forthcoming!

Checking in...

Just having an entertaining argument with someone on tinder who believes sexism doesn't exist in the UK in 2020...

I'm a feisty one, me 😂 will update as it pans out.

It says a lot about a man if he doesn't understand the privilege men have and the struggles women face

Thanks for the new thread menora

Check in

Hey I timed joining the last thread just right to get in on the ground floor on the new one!

Mr Woods has been in touch, have flirted a bit over baking. He's got a day free on friday but hasn't any plans, kind of hoping that he'll ask me out.

No word from Mr Bird today yet.

Found you!

Haha, love it, Leave. A feminist ally is my #1 priority in a partner, I start that convo very early on.

I had that row with someone about sexism - let’s just say there was no date
He didn’t believe it was real and was sceptical about Me Too

Yeah well living in a 20 person village your whole life will do that to you

date with mr walking Still seems to be on lots of messaging all day, not as nervous as I thought I’d be! I’ll update. Had a lovely chat with mr 70 miles though I so like him but the distance is a problem for him and he’s right it would be so difficult but we were chatting about how easy messages were between us, no second guessing, no hard work, no red flags not even worries just easy chat!

@leave twat I’d say of course sexism still exists! Maybe that should be atopic for this evening!

I’m off for sleepover at mr grays. Seems a lot in a way as was with him at weekend 😬. Doesn’t seem so casual now

Sexism is not often as overt as it was in my day (the 80s) it seems but my god that sense of male entitlement and the assumptions made about roles are as rife as ever - plus social media and the availability of porn have set us back at least 50 bloody years in terms of the objectifying and bullying of women and girls

Am I allowed to post a screenshot of his thoughts? You'd all LOVE this...

Checking in!

Yesssss

@TigerDater completely right about porn- I pointed this out to him too- he claims that loads of women he knows or has slept with have been into choking and the like

LeaveBeforeTheLightsComeOn I love a good argument on OLD. Probably why I can't get any dates 😂

Me too @EchoElephant 😂

Thanks for the new thread 🙂

leavebefore Talk about selective use of ‘data’ 😂

Yeah, let's fast forward another 20 years and look at those wage gaps eh.

I'm ok posting screenshots with name/photo scribbled out aren't I? Or should I get Mumsnet to remove that post?

If it's ok, I've got more 😂

Frankly those are MRA arguments and I would block without further comment if I was chatting with someone like that. No point.

Oh I've no interest in him one bit @PerfectPretender - I was enjoying the argument that's all 😂