New boyfriend wouldn't give me a lift home...am I right to be annoyed?

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Saturday night I went out with him and his friend and girlfriend (only first time I met them)
Anyway long story short we missed the last train and he said we could stay at his and girlfriends house.
Then ..next morning,reality set in.
I had slept in my clothes and I had no makeup with me and I looked a treat (not)
My boyfriend said his sister was collecting him and taking him home,I was thinking "hmmm is she taking me home too"so I said
"Would you mind dropping me at the train station and il jump on the train"(thinking he would say il drive you )
He then says .."I really can't,she doesn't like giving lifts to strangers and the train station is 10 mins opposite to the way we are going"
So we go downstairs ..and they make us a cuppa.
Half way through he gets a texts and his sister arrives and he just stands up and says
"She's here,gives me a kiss and leaves and tells me to text once I'm home"
So ..I'm sat on strangers sofa ...looking a state and he has left.
Would you be annoyed too?
Am I being a drama queen ?

I hope you dump him. Selfish and thoughtless. Already.

There is only one reason that he wouldn’t want you in his sisters car. It’s not coz she doesn’t like strangers. It’s coz she’s his WIFE.

Even so, he should have phoned you a taxi to the train station and walked you to it and opened the door for you to get in and paid for it. Or have gone in it with you and then caught his own train to wherever rather than take a lift from his so called Sister.

So not only is he a liar but a skinflint cheating schmuck.

Not sure it was a wife or girlfriend though. What on earth would he have done if OP had decided to come out with him and give him a huge kiss goodbye? Or even a poke in the eye for not giving her a lift?

I know I would have been HIGHLY suspicious of picking up my SO from a friend's house if he'd precipitated out of the door, slammed into the passenger seat yelling 'go go GO!' Or 'no you can't come in and say hi to the friend's I've spent the night with because...because they've got...ummm....norovirus...and...ummm....'

Too many variables to be controlled. But he's still a tosser.

Agree I really don't think it was a partner etc picking him up.

Occam's Razor - he's a twat.

Wow, what a selfish twat. Don't waste any more of your time on him, he only cares about himself.

He basically treated you like some one night stand. He really doesn't think much of you to leave you alone at his friends and showing zero concern for how you were going to get home.

It would be a deal breaker for me. Not something you should have to discuss or teach. We're talking basics of a relationship.

Yeah......he’s not a keeper really, is he?

So this happened Saturdays night/Sunday morning?

Have you seen him since?

Have you told him how pissed off you are?

I’d get rid. That’s really poor of him. You’re worth much more.

Immature and no manners. I would find this highly unattractive. I remember being on a date one night in the middle of the city. The guy kissed me goodnight, scheduled the next date and said "bye, this is me" pointing at his bike (he lived in the city). I laughed and said surely he was going to at least see me into a taxi. He rolled his eyes and called me a princess.

I didn't see him again and I didn't regret it. As a pp said, most men would treat a ONS better.

Yeah, dump him
He clearly can't be bothered with you

On the frog to prince scale, he’s right at the cold, slimy amphibian end, and that’s without factoring in the “sister”

He wasn't very thoughtful, he should have asked his sister directly in earshot, then either you would have got a lift or it would be clear that it was the sister's decision.

But surprised at the number of women posting who need men to sort out their transport arrangements. I presume all of you are equally thoughtful about your dates' transport and would have walked them all to a taxi/public transport at the end of a date?

People this thoughtless and selfish don’t get better, they get worse. Dump him and find someone who treats you decently.

Have you been to his house OP? If you know his address, I would be tempted to stake it out &see what’s going on.

I am a woman of the world, as I am sure you are, and would totally bridle at the suggestion that I am a poor helpless female who needs help getting home. HOWEVER that is NOT what is happening here - what appallingly bad manners to just leave you. Did he even ask how you were going to get home? And what happened to your lovely plans for lunch the next day - they evaporated in the face of the convenience of the door-to-door service he was receiving from his ‘sister’.

If you aren’t going to dump his selfish arse, please please take this as a massive red flag OP!

Transport arrangements are important if you travelled somewhere together with the assumption that you were also going to travel home together. But they missed their train and ended up staying with people she only met that night then he fucked off on his own. If that happened with a male date then yes I would equally make sure we went home together or to the train station. I'd not dump them with people they hardly knew.

Sorry Hopo - my post wasn’t aimed at you. Total cross post

But surprised at the number of women posting who need men to sort out their transport arrangements. I presume all of you are equally thoughtful about your dates' transport and would have walked them all to a taxi/public transport at the end of a date?
I can only see one or two people suggesting that a man should generally arrange transport on a date.

I am thoughtful enough about my date that I would not unexpectedly drop our previous plans, call for a lift for myself only then hop in and drive off without apology, leaving them in an awkward situation. That's what you do when your date has done something awful, not when you've just spent the night together and you expect to see them again.

I'd dump him. I have low tolerance for crap boyfriends.

Sounds more like his gf than his sister tbh.

Dump him unless you want a lifetime of this and worse.

It's his GF. I would put quite a lot of money on it.

I'd bin him. What shit behaviour.

Get rid.
Why's he hiding you from his family? If indeed she is his sis!
He must be really immature ( doesn't want them to know he has a girlfriend) or doesn't see you as someone he can introduce to his family.
Either way he is very selfish leaving you stranded.
Does he have your back? Doubt it.

I'm not sure it needs saying again, but I will anyway

He's a twat. Get rid