New boyfriend wouldn't give me a lift home...am I right to be annoyed?

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Saturday night I went out with him and his friend and girlfriend (only first time I met them)
Anyway long story short we missed the last train and he said we could stay at his and girlfriends house.
Then ..next morning,reality set in.
I had slept in my clothes and I had no makeup with me and I looked a treat (not)
My boyfriend said his sister was collecting him and taking him home,I was thinking "hmmm is she taking me home too"so I said
"Would you mind dropping me at the train station and il jump on the train"(thinking he would say il drive you )
He then says .."I really can't,she doesn't like giving lifts to strangers and the train station is 10 mins opposite to the way we are going"
So we go downstairs ..and they make us a cuppa.
Half way through he gets a texts and his sister arrives and he just stands up and says
"She's here,gives me a kiss and leaves and tells me to text once I'm home"
So ..I'm sat on strangers sofa ...looking a state and he has left.
Would you be annoyed too?
Am I being a drama queen ?

This ones NOT a keeper

I think you should discuss with him how it made you feel and what you expected, so he can make sure it doesn't happen again.

It's a bit extreme to immediately dump him.

Be grown up about it.

What a prince 🤔

The hills are that way >>>>

Most people wouldn't do that after a one-night stand, let alone to their girlfriend.

Ridiculous behaviour, think that one needs to go.

Not a keeper.

What a charmer!

Not sure that was his sister, and even if it was, I'd imagine he's keeping you a secret for some reason - and not a good one!

Bin him right off!

He’s showing you who he is.
believe him
Get rid
Enjoy 2020

Enough have said it already but you're not being unreasonable. He acted selfishly and carelessly. If it's only been 3 months he should still be trying to impress you but it sounds like he's already gotten comfortable and it's downhill from here!

I sometimes think people are too quick to jump to "dump the fucker" on here.

This is not one of those times.

He's awful. Dump him.

To all the women on here 10 years and 3 kids deep who say 'he wasnt like this before!', this is how it starts and yes he was!
Don't ignore the signs.

I must admit, I would be pissed off if I agreed to give my brother a lift somewhere and I turned up and he said "here's this totally new person. Can you add an extra half hour to your journey by going out of your way to the train station and back?". So that bit might well be true. And you would be a stranger to her - someone I have never met is a stranger whether or not she's shagging my brother!

If my brother had been dating a woman since September, I would want to meet her. I wouldn’t want her first impression of me to be someone who left her alone in a strange house to make her own way home.

But clearly this boyfriend doesn’t see tip his relationship as long term.

What did you say to him the next day ?
What did his friends say after he had left.
Did you dtd that night and he just left you then

Dump him and run.
He has no feelings for you.
No empathy.

My exH did something very similar to me, a few months into our relationship. He left me in a pub, with a friend of his, miles from anywhere, and then went to watch rugby get drunk with his mate. He was meant to come back and collect me, but didnt, and there were no buses out of this village at that time, plus i didnt have money for a cab. So... i was left with this poor girl, who ended up taking me back to her mums house and putting me up for the night. She was absolutely lovely and kind, i was very embarrassed. That SHOULD have been my wake-up call, as it just showed me that exH would always, ALWAYS put himself and his own comfort first.

This man is not BF material. Throw him back, and move on.

He’s not nice at all. Clearly lacks emotional intelligence and doesn’t give a hoot for your safety or wellbeing.

What did his friends say?

And what was his excuse for abandoning your plans as well as you?

This is dreadful that he would treat you in this way.....he didn't even check how you were getting home, he left you in a stranger's house, he binned your Sunday lunch date and didn't ask his sister to give you a lift or even introduce you to her.... I'm worried she's a girlfriend not a sister.....run a mile OP..... serious red flag

He's a dick and you need to get rid. No decent person, male or female would do that to another person.

He just left you there totally unacceptable.

Alarm bells would be ringing very loud!! Really despicable behaviour. He had no excuse at all!!

I get the sister and lift situation as I would be annoyed if I was expected to give someone a lift that I didn’t know and that would add extra time on to my journey. However, the fact that he just left you there and contacted his sister for a lift in the first place knowing that you’d be left in a strange place and would be getting the train alone would bother me. Cancelling lunch plans would also bother me! Unless he had suddenly come down with an illness or there was a family emergency then there is no excuse! Did he even apologise to you or show any awareness that he was being selfish?

What on earth did the friend and GF say about this? Werent they shocked?

Is he normally nice? How was your Xmas? Did you spend it with him? Did he buy you something nice?

How did you get home?