New boyfriend wouldn't give me a lift home...am I right to be annoyed?

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Saturday night I went out with him and his friend and girlfriend (only first time I met them)
Anyway long story short we missed the last train and he said we could stay at his and girlfriends house.
Then ..next morning,reality set in.
I had slept in my clothes and I had no makeup with me and I looked a treat (not)
My boyfriend said his sister was collecting him and taking him home,I was thinking "hmmm is she taking me home too"so I said
"Would you mind dropping me at the train station and il jump on the train"(thinking he would say il drive you )
He then says .."I really can't,she doesn't like giving lifts to strangers and the train station is 10 mins opposite to the way we are going"
So we go downstairs ..and they make us a cuppa.
Half way through he gets a texts and his sister arrives and he just stands up and says
"She's here,gives me a kiss and leaves and tells me to text once I'm home"
So ..I'm sat on strangers sofa ...looking a state and he has left.
Would you be annoyed too?
Am I being a drama queen ?

What a tosser. Get rid OP.

Have to agree with the majority. Very thoughtless to leave you at his friends’ place when you have only just met them. No concern for you at all, no discussion, just self-service. Really poor manners.

I’d be put off and without undue drama, I think it’s a dumping offence.

In the world of love he is an infant.

He has shown you exactly what he is. A totally selfish arse who, no matter what, will always put himself first. If you don’t want your future to look like this / get rid now!

Have you dumped his disrespectful arse yet op?

What did his friends say? As you were a guest (however last minute) in their home.

Totally agree by the way with every other poster above. Another thread where everyone in agreement. Must be Christmas on Mumsnet!!

Wow that's majorly rude and thoughtless of him. My dh would never ever have left me in this position regardless of how long we'd been seeing each other. It shows a complex disregard for your welfare imo. I'd dump him over this

I’m sure you’re invested in him by now if you’ve been seeing him for three/four months but don’t be caught out by the sunken cost fallacy here; it’s still a fledgling relationship and it’s a blessing that you haven’t wasted more of your time on him.

Having been the recipient of similar inconsiderate disregard in the past myself, I know that thud of reality that stuns you when you realise that he’s he’s a prick who couldn’t care less about you. You even try to rationalise the scenario away as you doubt your own perspective. That thud though...that’s your instinct and it’s performing well.
He’s not the one.

What did his friends say to you?

I can’t imagine they were too impressed with him leaving someone they barely knew in their house??

At least you know what a totally selfish knob he is. Dump him and tell him why, perhaps he will learn from it.

Ditch

if he's not concerned about you this early in your relationship, imagine how he'd be a couple of years in. Most people in this position would already have offered a lift or paid for and ordered a taxi for you. In fact, most people would have offered a lift to you if they'd just met you the night before! It's common courtesy. Obviously it's your decision, but I'd seriously advise you to dump him. You can do better.

Yeah he rang me last night and text this morning.
It was one of them "did that really happen scenarios

What did you say to him when he rang you? Does he know you were cross?

When you say you went out Saturday night and the next day you were supposed to be going for Sunday lunch-did this happen yesterday? It’s now Monday morning, I think (pretty sure?!) so did you speak to him all day yesterday?

He's not what we call a keeper

Really.. I mean really...

As others have said, dump him.

'I'll ask her' would have been acceptable, perhaps, if there really is an issue with strangers (to her) in her car, but not an outright no.

It's not looking good op. Looking back, were there other signs?

I wouldn't even dream of doing what he did. End it now and find a proper man who will treat you with respect.

Sorry but he isn't that into you. Like others have said he could have called you a cab.

At this stage he should be in the honeymoon period and making an effort as opposed to none at all - a decent person would know they were out of order for doing this. If you accept this incident he will likely just carry on, but you can't train him to change. After 3 months I'd cut m losses and move on. Find someone considerate.

I've never met any of his family and I don't think they know about me. I don't think he wanted the "who is she " questions but still no excuse

There are red flags all over this. It sounds like he considers you his dirty little secret.

Have you met his sister? Why didn't you leave at the same time as him and introduce yourself to his sister?
I do know some nervous drivers who hate driving other people. But that isn't the issue. The issue is that he left you.

Really OP!

He couldn't give a toss about you.
And he has definitely shown you who he is.

A selfish twat.
Dump him.

What a tosser. Christ I've even had a lift home from a one night stand!

I would tell him why too. He’ll be full of bluster and excuses I have no doubt but you know it’s not on.
Leaving you at a stranger’s house
Reneging on plans
Organising his own transport
Refusing to drop you at the station
Up and off without so much as a backwards glance

There are no excuses for that.

Did you text him when you got home (with no input from him)?