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New boyfriend wouldn't give me a lift home...am I right to be annoyed?

223 replies

whatabloodypickle · 30/12/2019 08:57

Saturday night I went out with him and his friend and girlfriend (only first time I met them)
Anyway long story short we missed the last train and he said we could stay at his and girlfriends house.
Then ..next morning,reality set in.
I had slept in my clothes and I had no makeup with me and I looked a treat (not)
My boyfriend said his sister was collecting him and taking him home,I was thinking "hmmm is she taking me home too"so I said
"Would you mind dropping me at the train station and il jump on the train"(thinking he would say il drive you )
He then says .."I really can't,she doesn't like giving lifts to strangers and the train station is 10 mins opposite to the way we are going"
So we go downstairs ..and they make us a cuppa.
Half way through he gets a texts and his sister arrives and he just stands up and says
"She's here,gives me a kiss and leaves and tells me to text once I'm home"
So ..I'm sat on strangers sofa ...looking a state and he has left.
Would you be annoyed too?
Am I being a drama queen ?

OP posts:
Lweji · 30/12/2019 09:27

He's not a keeper.

If you're looking for a long term relationship with a decent man who will share baby duties, etc, then move on. This is not it.

Medievalist · 30/12/2019 09:27

Did he not at least ask how you were going to get home?

His behaviour is appalling. Please don't let yourself be treated like a doormat.

MrsBungle · 30/12/2019 09:29

Dump him. You deserve better.

PristineCondition · 30/12/2019 09:30

Mental. Honestly my standards are low but this man's levels are underground bunker low

JustASmallTownCurl · 30/12/2019 09:31

It's really mean of him and also worrying that he has so little awareness of social cues, everyone must have felt really awkward but he just didn't feel it? Or didn't care? Is he usually nice? It doesn't feel like something someone nice would do, I wouldn't see him again to be honest. Have you mentioned it to him at all?

lottiegarbanzo · 30/12/2019 09:33

Yuck, what a dick. Dump.

midep · 30/12/2019 09:33

I hate it when people suggest you must be very young, but that does sound like something a teenager would do.

He's a twat though, however old.

dontmentionbookclub · 30/12/2019 09:33

That's just horrible. Totally in his own little bubble and so uncaring, it's ridiculous.

ClinkyMonkey · 30/12/2019 09:34

Please don't even deliberate about this, no matter how much you like him. What he did was wrong. If he can show such a lack of concern for you in this 'honeymoon' phase, it will only get worse. You need to tell him it's over. Tell him why. Maybe he'll learn from it, but I suspect not.

ScabbyBabby · 30/12/2019 09:37

So what are you going to do? Follow advice on here or set the bar so low?

Daisydoola · 30/12/2019 09:37

I wouldn't be seeing this loser again

WireBrushAndDettolMaam · 30/12/2019 09:38

Please dump him.

It’s doesnt even matter why he's done it. It matters that you’re not willing (rightly) to accept this kind of treatment in a relationship. His reasons don’t decide your boundaries- your feelings do.

Mlou32 · 30/12/2019 09:38

He is an arse. Fair enough if he wasn't ready yet for you to meet the family or his sister genuinely doesn't like meeting strangers or whatever. But then surely in that case, he should have called you a taxi and made sure you got it ok. I wasted so much time in the past on deadbeat boys like this. Say thanks I've had a great past couple of months but I think it's run its course. And don't look back.

ravenmum · 30/12/2019 09:38

Not sure I'd even muster the energy to get annoyed with someone that idiotic. Were you his first girlfriend?

Haggisfish · 30/12/2019 09:39

Is he from a different culture to you? You need to get rid of him.

WwfLeopard · 30/12/2019 09:39

What a dick! I’d get rid of him 100% so rude and selfish

HopeItComesWithBatteries · 30/12/2019 09:39

Outrageous, get rid my dear. You deserve far better.

Anyone who is worth bothering with will treat you with kindness, care and respect. This was not it.

sog74 · 30/12/2019 09:39

Dump him, definitely!!

PullingMySocksUp · 30/12/2019 09:41

Was there an easy way for you to get home without the lift?

JinglingHellsBells · 30/12/2019 09:41

So how did you get to the station in the end OP?

Do not ever see him again.

He is uncaring and rude.

Terrible behaviour.

A decent man would have made sure you got home safely, either by calling a taxi for you, or asking his sister to take you to the station.

10 mins out of their way! what a ridiculous comment from him.

Tell him it's over.

Rockbird · 30/12/2019 09:42

Fuck that for a laugh. What a nobber.

Starlight456 · 30/12/2019 09:44

Well you have seen his true colours.

TreestumpsAndTrampolines · 30/12/2019 09:46

Good God! 3 months in my boyfriends and I have still been giddy about each other - we'd have walked together, then probably turned around and walked the other back just to spend more time together.

Don't even consider staying with him - he just doesn't care enough.

catwithflowers · 30/12/2019 09:46

When someone shows you who they really are ........

lowlandLucky · 30/12/2019 09:46

He left you with strangers ? Get rid, he doesnt give a stuff about you

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