Dating thread 178 - where we launch into the new year with new hopes

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Oooh new thread - thank you!

Thanks, I have a date tonight with Mr Smile.

Quick query, how long is it acceptable to date multiple irons for?

Thanks for the new thread, nomore

It's been so long that I've forgotten what it's like! 🤦‍♀️

I'm going to join this thread in the hopes of finding some New Year Inspiration 🥰

Place marking. Thanks for the new thread @NoMoreWeepingAndWanking Have rage cleaned my kitchen and wondering if it is too early for wine but at least my pity party post is on the old thread God, I hope 2020 is less hard work and more play than 2019!

Brand newbie here. Can I ask advice from the wise ones on here?

Background: Just turned 50, I’m told I’m attractive, normal size, well groomed and have all my own teeth 😂. I’ve been divorced/single for 3 years, not looked at anyone or been particularly interested. Was with my ExH since age 19. Spent the last 2 years focusing on my teenage kids and making a new home. But I’m now starting to get a bit bored sat in the house on my own watching Netflix.

It’s fair to say I’m totally clueless and lack a lot of confidence (ex was a horrible narc who ground me down). In my day you met men at the pub/club. But times have changed and I don’t really see that happening for me. I need to gain some confidence and take the plunge (even though I’m terrified)

So my question is...... where do I start? I joined times encounters about 2 years ago but never paid so I can’t send or receive messages and never check in . Is this a decent site?.

I don’t think I want anything serious. Drinks, meals out, theatre, cinema (sex). I definitely don’t want to live with anyone or marry etc. I just want someone to do stuff with.

Also, I’ve worked damned hard and I’m financially in a good position (and I know this sounds awful) but I want someone who is, at least, my financial equal and can afford the lifestyle I

Any tips/advice?

2020 use going to be awesome. I'm going to come and spend the weeken with you remember? North watch out!

secretsout take some decent photos (at least 3). Just make sure you're happy with them. Get free memberships to tinder and/or Bumble. Have a play around and follow the rules above.
When you've joined and set up a profile and had a look at what's around feel free to come back and ask more questions but for now just treat it like a game. Because it so is...

Ant - read your message. So glad you're having fun with Miss H. It's fun having fun isn't it?

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking thank you. I think I’m even scared about just setting up a profile as I don’t know what to expect. Will probably be scared shitless if someone replies and asks to meet me 😂

Is Tinder for finding dates or just shags? Oh I’m so rubbish.

And have I read somewhere that you shouldn’t use photos on OLD sites that are being used on your Insta and Facebook as people can find out who you are?

Checking in to keep up later. Mr G is in the country and taking a nap - he can't sleep on the plane and is exhausted. But he's here!!!

Thanks for the new thread.

Glad things are good with Ms H ant

Thanks for the new thread.
I'm still a bit unsure about things with Mr FO. But I can't really say why. Just a feeling.
However, he has stepped up the communication, so that's an improvement.

Whoever asked about going to the pub alone, that's what I did on Christmas Day while I was out for my walk. It was a quiet pub and they weren't serving food. So I had a drink and read my book. There were quite a few solitary men in there, who looked like they'd escaped for a couple of hours 😂

@Secretsout is there any reason you don't want them to find out who you are? Surely if you're going to date them then that's not a problem.., unless you're married??

@perfectpretender enjoy your four days, must be lovely.

@shitwithsugaron absolutely nothing wrong with going to pub alone. Nothing.

I've just paid for a 3 month subscription for guardian soulmates. I know it's supposed to be rubbish but I do live in London. I've never used it before so feels like a change. You never know. Might keep me away from the 30 something tattooed boys. Or not.,.

uttersocks I saw your post right at the end of the last thread, and I totally get where you’re coming from 💐

shitwithsugaron go to the pub. I've sat in pubs and coffee shops quite a few times on my own. But I've always made sure I had a book to read, so I don't look like I've been stood up.
There's always men sat on their own but I've never seen any women alone. I don't like it if it's too busy. Disturbs my reading! But otherwise I've never had a problem. And sadly never been chatted up.

@unambiguousbeard definitely not married! I thought I’d read it was some kind of safety thing for the early days if you don’t want people having the potential to google or search about you. Maybe I’m totally wrong

Well MrIT was a no show 😭.
I've just spent the whole day swiping on bumble and contemplating how I'm going to be alone forever.

Well as long as you have your privacy settings on high shouldn't be a problem @Secretsout ?

Just in case we all need a reminder....

That's crap. Sorry @cheesecakeaddict