Dating thread 178 - where we launch into the new year with new hopes

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Checking in, evening all. I've taken my kids camping for the last few days of the year, we have a camper, it's lovely and takes my focus off dating and back on my kids.

Stayed with Mr Curls til 5am, we had the best night, he's so much fun. Today he asked me if I would stop seeing others and focus on just him 😍 I haven't even thought about any other irons since I met Mr C 10 days ago!

That sounds so positive @Peanutbuttermouth. I'm so pleased for you!

Does anyone else just feel like they are wasting their time with OLD? I have been chatting to this guy for 2 solid hours on bumble. He has down that he is after a relationship on his bio. We got to the stage of swapping numbers and he is a sex pirate. Wtf!

Checking in
Didn't see Mr German today, I'd made it clear I wasn't going to his place. He's mentioned meeting up tomorrow but it's a football day and he will have been drinking.
Date still on with Iron #2 so far, can't actually remember what I called him ...

Just got back from a date, he was nice and seemed keen but not asi expected ☹ He has asked to see me again but I'm not sure.

In what way was he not what you expected @bangheadhere40?

I think you have misunderstood the term sex pirate @CheesecakeAddict It is a good thing. It's not someone who is just after sex, it's a hot, sexy, unsuitable man with a glint in his eye. You can have a relationship with a sex pirate! The phrase was coined by someone long gone from here but I love it. My aim is to get myself one. Another one that is. I'm sure there must be some guardian reading sex pirates..... I'll be back on tinder by February, if I even last that long

@Peanutbuttermouth mr curls sounds lovely.

@bangheadhere40 sometimes you don’t even know why they aren’t like you expect but there is just no vibe / attraction

He was a lot louder and outgoing than I imagined....I can't explain. He has just asked to see me again says what wonderful time he had.

Also, I noticed he had my surname under my name on his phone. I checked my tinder and WhatsApp and they just show my first name, so how has he got it? I'm going to ask him maybe.

I’m quite loud and don’t stop talking when I’m nervous so it maybe isn’t what he is like all the time . But the name thing !! Would freak me out !!

@bangheadhere40 I once went on a date and a guy knew my surname as he found out through my phone number. When I asked he said he wanted to find out was i after his money as he had his own business and most girls were only interested in his money. I showed him how interested I was by walking away

Is he very local to you ? Or could have mutual friends and people can pop up on friends bin fb once you save their number

The surname thing would freak me out! Ask him!

Someone I was talking to and I had his number popped up on fb for me so I saw his surname. Hopefully that but still to save it is odd

Omg I want me a sex pirate! FWB was definitely a sex pirate.

I literally have no real prospects on tinder/bumble atm. Ugh what's wrong with me 😩

@unambiguousbeard then I definitely misunderstood the term and we need to coin a phrase for the guys that pretend they want a relationship and just want fwb type relationship.

I'm shattered but been talking to another iron for a few hours. He wants to video call. How am I still awake?

My phone automatically adds contacts as their first and second name if that is what they set their phone as. For example, I obviously saved my mum as "mum" but my phone changed her to "first name surname" and that is what she shows as

Is your phone number linked to your Facebook account or something else identifiable? Or is your mobile number anywhere on the internet? Depending on how much info you told him ie name, type of job you do etc he may have just sleuthed you.

Ah I don't know what to do. Just video chatted with iron 3 and I'm just not sure. He seems like a nice guy and is quite funny, but he looks like my brother. I mean, the absolute spitting image of my brother. I don't think I can go out with him because that's all I can think of. His profile pics did not make him look like that. But we have a date set and he is so excited. Wtf do I do?

Mind if I join you all?
Longtime lurker of the dating threads but I never have anything to contribute as I rarely seem to have any dates. Either way, I've decided to give it another go for 2020. My last date was about 18 months ago so I'm definitely out of practice!
I set myself up on Tinder, no decent conversations have sparked up yet but it's only been 24 hours so far so giving it some time before I worry!

Welcome Cognitive. Have you signed up for any other apps?

@bangheadhere40 . Had a similar experience tonight to ..Really nice bloke but he had done an internet search on me and brouht up a visit I had at work that had made the press.He
a inspector for a living so investigated me.... Unsure how I feel about that but it was a nicebevening and good carpark snog.

Hey all, I’ve missed a bit I think! An engagement?!! Congrats!

Mr Moving came over yesterday. Had a chat about Stuff and he was on good form. He is easy to communicate with. I had felt sorry for him. Good sex. Damn 😂

I’ve been awake ALL NIGHT because he snored. All night 😭

So him drinking 3 cans or pints of lager whenever I see him is an issue (a slight worry but it’s been Christmas so not sure if to worry or not if he always does this or it’s just festive 😂)
If he is drinking a couple cans every single day it isn’t extreme and he doesn’t get drunk but it’s pathetic, unhealthy and it will make him snore and I don’t drink cans of lager every night myself

All my settings are private , and he wouldn't know anyone I do so I just found it odd. He knew a bit about my job which is niche so maybe that I guess.

I'm going to have to tell him no I think, he is so keen for another date. What do I say?

Couldn't bear to tell him no last night. I could just fade him out, but would rather be honest.

Mr Delts told me he wasn't interested in the swing side of fab, neither am I. But his friend list is growing, no problem with that but its with women all interested in the swing scene. His veris say similar. Umm no...