Dating thread 178 - where we launch into the new year with new hopes

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@bangheadhere40. Hope the date goes well ! On multiple dating for me I don’t think I could after one or two dates especially if I was sleeping with people

Checking inn:)

Hello....placemarking

I go to the pub or restaurants alone when I’m away for work or I go to Manchester for my uni. I don’t do it at home but I’m never alone 😂

Omg soulmates is dreadful. Loads of earnest humourless men. That's £30 wasted. I'm going to create a profile and leave it there. Not going to seek anyone out it's already depressing me.

@unambiguousbeard what other sites/apps have you used?

I found GS truly dreadful. And Match. Humour bypasses

Tinder, bumble, okcupid, happn. Pof Ermmmmmmmm
My favourite is tinder but I need a break from it. I've been feeling so jaded. I think sticking with soulmates for a bit will have me fleeing back to tinder gratefully. They're so up themselves. And who reads all that guff? I'm a tender, compassionate, human rights something or other who loves galleries..., aren't we all mate? But at least I'm funny and self aware too!

I like Pof but I turn my profile off and message people I like the look of who are nearby 😂😂😂. I find the vast majority replied and that’s how I met mr gray who I’ve been seeing about a month.

Devils here, place marking and will catch up in a bit 😊

Oh @shitwithsugaron no. I doubt it. I need to get back on tinder for another one of those. Sigh....

Sex pirates 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Checking in, might reactivate bumble in time for the "new year new start" crowd... But getting over the Christmas foodbaby and traditional cold first...

@Secretsout. I have a very unusual first name so I don’t use that on dating sites or anything like this. Jane is my middle name.thats to avoid people finding me

That’s what I mean @jane1978xx at this stage I don’t want people being able to look at my social media etc

A lot of sites are user names or if it’s a real name one use your middle name or a common name similar to yours.

I've never used a real name on any dating site. Lots of the irons I've spoken to haven't either. I really don't think it's an issue. I change my location slightly too.

Didn't see the new thread so will repost here!

Need to catch up on the thread but have had a lovely day. Met Mr Ad's kids very briefly as I had to leave soon after they arrived but it was fine. They are 15 and 17 so not the most talkative!

Left there and have been at another get together at my friends house and am now walking home where Mr Ad us going to meet me very soon.

I'm not sure what the future will hold but right now, I'm happier than I thought I would be this time last year 😊

What is a gay voice?

Train journey from hell complete, finally back home after xmas and tracked down the nee thread 👍🏽

@Ginghampanther I'm not sure anyone can tell you whether someone is gay apart from that person themself.

So pleased it went well @Sunshineandflipflops.

@Ginghampanther can you subtily ask it somehow? Although I'm not sure how you can subtily ask someone if they are gay...

@ginghampanther do you mean his voice is effeminate? That doesn't mean he's gay Stereotypes are so 1950s..

Fuck it. I've had a massive cull of all my bumble matches that are clearly sex pirates (stolen that phrase!) because 2019 is the last year I accept less than I deserve. I have tried the fwb route and it just isn't for me; I can't do sex without the emotional bond.
BUT currently got 2 irons that I am chatting to. Fuck MrIT and him not contacting me. What an arse.