Dating thread 178 - where we launch into the new year with new hopes

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

WhatsApp and the instant expectations are awful.

@saltysally. See you in a few months or maybe someone in real life will appear 🤷🏼‍♀️

@bangheadhere40. Are you sorted now with the date. How old are his kids ?

His kids are 15and 17. I messaged him but the tick is grey, not read yet, the worst feeling.

Thanks bangheadhere40. Well I haven't told him that before we met I was casually seeing a few guys. What's the appropriate etiquette here, with the guy I like, and with the others I've been dating a little for the past few months?

Ooh whilst I've been chatting to you lot, two new irons! I'll call these two Mr architecture and Mr Yorkshire. Mr Yorkshire looks the more promising he's sent me a longer message

Maybe say something, I am not the best person to give advice...I'm terrible. Maybe bring into the conversation

Can someone start a new thread? Not sure how 😁

Do you mean just going out with or sleeping with ? If it’s just literally dates and a snog it wouldn’t be a big deal but I wouldn’t personally sleep with more than one person. Not that there’s anything wrong with that but at that level even casually I wouldn’t

Lots of people do though @Jane1978xx

I removed kids from my bio and suddenly got loads of hits from people I'd be interested in 😢. I feel it is all a lie though so I am not sure about any of this.
Maybe I need to find a hobby or something and get myself out there.

@bangheadhere40 you will drive yourself mad very quickly if you focus this much on small things. How long have you been OLD? If you can it might be a good idea to step back a bit. He said he has deleted his profile, he asked to see you again, he just hasn't sorted out the detail. There doesn't seem to be much to get stressed about, especially to waste an entire day fretting about it.

@Chochito do what you feel is best for you and never feel like you have to explain your self and your life choices to anybody. If you and this guy both really like each other and both of you just want to be together exclusively then that is a conversation the two of you need to have with each other not with anyone else. There is no etiquette to follow it's your decision to make as a couple and nobody elses business really, what the two of you choose to do or not do in your relationship

I asked when I will see him again, he said next weekend at this rate ...no idea what to make of that

@unambiguousbeard. Yes people do and that’s fine but personally I couldnt

It sounds like he might be trying to arrange something with his kids, so he can get to see you tomorrow? I would back off a bit now and give him some space to come back to you once he knows if he will be able to see you tomorrow or whether it will have to be next weekend

I don't get that impression, asked what he means. At least I will know 🙈

Said he away all week, jesus what a fool I am.

Ok stop now and let him come to you. That which you chase runs away remember!

Yes 😁😁 what an idiot

@Jane1978xx it just sounded a bit judgey. @Chochito wasn't asking if you'd do it just how she should handle her situation. Whether she was sleeping with them wasn't the issue or even on the table.

Quick loo update. Mr Fact is great and gorgeous 👍

@unambiguousbeard. It wasn’t judgy at all. Just casually dating can mean a whole lot of things 🤷🏼‍♀️.

@Marlboroandmalbec34 can we start the new thread on that note?! Upbeat into 2020.