He says when he meets someone ...he will stop speaking to me..stop it now?

[xmasevebirthdaygirl]

I've been chatting daily to a guy for 6 months.
We have been out a lot and slept together but he isn't calling it dating.
He is still sleeping with other girls and texts multiple women.
He stayed over last night and said tonight a girl (il call her Alice) was picking him up at 6pm for a drive.
I asked are you into this girl ?
He replied "no if I was I would stop speaking to you"
So I responded .."what's the point in all of this,why are you jealous if I talk to other guys yet your saying If you were into this girl you would stop speaking"
He said "I don't get feelings for anyone,I've got my guard up,I'm happy being like this,no ties to anyone,if I feel like I'm getting too close,I back off"
(He's done this to me)
I have feelings for him and must cry over the situation daily.
I'm seeing him next week again and my friends are telling me to say I'm done with this situation ...if he doesn't want just me then walk away.
What do I do?

You listen to your friends, dammit!!

Walk away now he is no good for you never start a new year with someone you know you won't be finishing it with

You find your self respect and stop having sex with him. Get yourself checked out for STIs.

He's just not that into you.

Have higher standards

He is using you for sex. What are you allowing that?

Put as bluntly as possible, without a ban

FFS! Listen to your friends. He's just fucking you, mentally as well as physically. He REALLY isn't all that into you. So. Bomb him out, stand him up, ghost the shag nasty.

And have a Happy New Year

He said he's had this convo with so many women over the years.
He said there's no point in me trying to change him but then he invites me out and messages me all the time.

What do you mean what do you do?

What options do you actually have here?

Option 1: cry about him every day
Option 2: dump him

Sorry OP - he’s just not that into you and you can’t force it. At least he’s honest!

He isn’t going to change for you. It’s been 6 months
He’s also telling you clearly you are not The One
And he’s not your One either

Serial shag nasty and proud of it? Hell die a sad and lonely fucker.

Leave him to it.

Pride ----> that away.

You won’t change his mind. Your choices are to carry on as you are, crying daily until you get really, really hurt or taking control and walking away. It’s a no brainer. You can’t even be angry with him as he’s told you in no uncertain terms he’s using you.

It's quite obvious that he's simply using you and a number of other women for sex. He won't be changing as long as you all carry on allowing him to exploit you.

He wants you for sex but nothing more. That isn’t working for you so say goodbye and move on. Oh and have an sti check.

I can only agree with everyone else. If you were happy with this arrangement that would be different but you crying every day. Walk away from this and give yourself the chance to meet someone who’ll like you too. Take care xx

Speaking from experience you will never be 'the one' for him. He will probably meet someone and fall head over heels at some point but it won't be one of his existing fuck buddies. I am a huge fan of FWB situations but if one person wants a relationship then that is no longer what it is. Look after yourself.

Jesus woman wake up! Make 2020 the year to leave all this kind of bullshit behind

He has told you what he wants and who he is. Either accept that any relationship with him will be limited emotionally or move on. You are emotionally too invested because you are being intimate with him and are producing love hormones. You will have to accept that you will need to go through a withdrawal period and it will be shit. But make no mistake, it will happen one way or another whatever you want. Better to be in control of the situation than wait until it is forced upon you. In that situation you will suffer withdrawal and a sense of completely being shat on. Take control. Accept it will be painful. Move on.

He will probably meet someone and fall head over heels at some point but it won't be one of his existing fuck buddies.

^this^

Jesus OP. Wise up

He's an arrogant dick.

Ditch him and take back control. Tell him you have better things to do with your life and you're really not that into him.

Then delete, block etc end of. No need to give any further justification.

Have you posted about this guy before? This sounds familiar from a couple of previous threads. Move on. He's not interested. And the double standard of him having an issue if you engage with other men is frankly so controlling as to be eye watering. Ditch him. Block him. Don't see or speak to him ever again.

You are being a complete mug. I am embarassed for you.

Did this
He broke my heart, took a long time to get over him and now I feel like a total idiot he used me and treated me like shit
I’m worth so much more.
Have some self worth, he’s a user but least he’s honest about it. You need to finish whatever it is and meet a guy who wants you that’s not going to happen whilst You’re wasting time on this loser

FFS bin this saddo off. And maybe look into some counselling to boost your self esteem before you do any more dating. He's a nasty bit of work - it's not in the least wrong to want NSA sex and to be open about the fact that you do not want a serious or monogamous relationship: in fact, that is wholly ethical behaviour. But this prick is getting off on manipulating you - and probably most of the other women he is shagging. It's not enough that you're willing to have sex with him: what he most wants is not so much to get his dick wet but to make women cry and for them to be obsessed with being the one to 'win' him. He's no prize at all, though.