Have you ever had an affair?

[GoldieGoldie]

This is a really personal question I know.

There is somebody at my work who I have chemistry with. I think about him all the time and look forward to bumping into him. And I think he feels the same.

But I would never act on these feelings as I know it would be stupid.

Has anyone ever acted upon feelings like these? I'm just interested to hear from experience.

I have. And it was the worst decision I've ever made in my life. It leaves nothing but hurt for everyone involved and it's not worth it.

I have also left a marriage when I have started developing (serious) feelings for someone else. I learned from my previous mistake and knew that if I was having feelings for someone else, it clearly meant that I wasn't happy. After a lot of reflection on what was wrong in the relationship, I realised that the feelings although genuine had further developed due to my unhappiness and my only choice was to leave. There was still guilt leaving but not nearly as much as the affair.

I will also say that having an affair will leave you with so much paranoia and anxiety - rightfully so. You know how possible it is for people to lie and cheat as you did it yourself. It's horrible way to live and honestly I will never forgive myself for the hurt I caused my ex partner.