Dating thread 176 - where we get through Christmas with team carpark updates

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Yay! Just checking in, all OLD in abeyance until the New year here but cheering on everyone else and learning from the threads...

Love a carpark snog!!

Hi all. Finally managed to finish off the last thread. I stand by my assertion that dating is expensive

Reminds me of a question I keep forgetting to ask. Do we buy new lingerie for new irons, or do we reuse and recycle as it were?

hello all!

Joining!

Dating is indeed expensive.

I've bought loads of new underwear recently- it was FWB who wanted me to get all dressed up for him so I bought tons! Definitely need someone to wear it for.

I would reuse- I can't afford new stuff for each guy.

Is it wrong using toys with someone else that you've used with someone already? They obviously get cleaned! 😂

Team car park love it !

Checking in. I'm going to cancel with Me Manchester, he's nice but I'm not overly excited.

Hey guys!

@bangheadhere40. I’d go just nice to go and have a drink a laugh. It’s all good practise in small talk etc

Welcome to peanut on the smitten bench 😀

Have had a good weekend despite duty hospital visit - am still totally 😍😍 with Mr BC. Even more so since he's fixed my fairy lights since we got back to mine😂

I know Jane but if I'm not feeling it is it a good idea?

@bangheadhere40 if you find him attractive and he’s pleasant then I would 🤷🏼‍♀️. I think the vibe in real life is totally different

It's more I'm not sure if I find him that attractive I think.

I'm comparing him to mr straight who I would have shagged in a car park given half the chance.

I don't have that attraction to this one ☹

@bangheadhere40 I agree, u should just go, u might feel different in person. if not, it's still a drink and a wee chat.

I feel like I should buy some new underwear but I'm not sure I have the extra cash haha.

Can I ask how u all broach the subject of chatting with other people, asking if they've deleted dating apps or do u just carry on without knowing lol.

Some people's pics just don't do them justice. My old FB had nice enough pics but when I met him in person I about fell out of my chair. I still can't get over how unbelievably attracted I was to him, immediately (in spite of him being a bit of a dick, as it turns out). I don't feel that way very often. It's definitely been more of a buildup with Mr G, but worth it for sure.

You just never know.

I've never actually had "the chat" about coming off the apps. Very much just an understanding with Mr G. Previously I probably would just come out and ask where I stood with someone. That was the plan, anyway, I just have never done it.

I've been wondering about that chat. Think i might leave it until after we've done the deed at least. We've only been chatting a week after all....

Oh and new undies were because 3 stone weight loss/dating. Not for any one iron in particular. Old toys fine as long as only to be used on you, obvs. They're just your toys

Yes you don’t need to find them amazingly attractive as above in persons is different

You can't tell if you find someone attractive until you meet them. I don't think you ever met mr straight so how do you know you fancied him? Also surely part of OLD is just dating. Ie just meeting people for a chat and a drink. Otherwise the expectations are way too high.

No one has ever complained about my m and s.

I was hugely attracted to him from his pics, not si much here. As you said though could be different in person.

Oh god yes. Mr Rigger looked great in pics but zero chemistry in person. Mr Fast Work is average in pics but he smiles at me and i go all wibbly...