Dating thread 176 - where we get through Christmas with team carpark updates

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Did anyone else have exes who were funny about sex toys? My ex got jealous of them as it meant I thought he wasn't good enough.

Glad I can use my toys in peace now

Definitely see what someone is like in person, you can't tell if there's going to be chemistry through a screen.

Still ok to use toys with someone if they've also been used on someone else? 😂 I mean just running vibe over skin, nothing too crazy...

Stbxh used to buy me sex toys all the time in the hope of our sex life improving but it never did because he was a bully, including around sex.

FWB loved my sex toy collection and enjoyed using them together

Tell you what is depressing. To get your matches off Pof and yet none of the potatoes see you as suitable for them! 😂

PS. That was meant to be light-hearted and in no way Potatoist.

You got to find them appealing in some way but you don’t have that real attraction until you meet. And also when they touch or hug you then you know for Def

@perfectpretender I want to do that, just come out and ask but scared he'll think I'm clingy or something. We've only been speaking a few weeks but have seen each other a fair bit in the last week.

my ex didnt like toys for the same reason, jealous of them. So now I dont have any.

@TheDevilsPedicure I don’t see why not, just wash it, you don’t chop a penis off and grow a new one just because someone else has ‘used’ it. At least a sex toy can go in the dishwasher or a bucket of bleach!

Someone might look just like their pictures, but their personality has a huge impact on how you perceive their physical attractiveness.

I’ve had an early xmas present, some scrote has stolen my car, I haven’t used it in three weeks so no idea when it was stolen (parked about a twenty minute walk away). The police have said they will visit within three weeks! Insurance will do sod all until the police have taken a statement.

@Simon are you meant to put them in the dishwasher? I've never done that, maybe I'm dirty😐

And wont6it ruin the batteries

Surely most are waterproof?

@SimonJT good point! Sorry about your car, what a nightmare 😩

Yeah, but thought it might ruin the batteries!

@bangheadhere40 if they are glass ones dishwasher would work good. I tend to just wash mine in really hot water in the bathroom sink with sex toy cleaner and just take care if they have batteries

Oh no, Simon, nightmare!!

simon sorry to hear about your car, that’s rubbish.

And thanks for the new thread! I’m not dating any more, just juggling FWBs/FBs, but I love following you all and cheering from the cougar bench (also appropriate for those who are emotionally unavailable 😥)

Oh Simon sorry about your car! That’s shit!

Waaah I need everyone to stop name changing. I can’t keep up! Is notcoolmum still here?

Went out with the girls last night. They are all married. They had great fun taking over my tinder and now my phone is on fire (with totally not my types!)😂

@TigerDater. How many do you have ?

I'm still here @Marlboroandmalbec34
Feeling sad and stupid. Mr S came back with a sob story. I fell for it and guess what?! He dumped me again this week. He's now blocked and deleted. What's your news?

Oh @Notcoolmum

Fucker

@Notcoolmum that's rubbish 💐🍰🍫☕️ or 🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷

notcool where does he live? I want to rip him to shreds with my tiger 🐯 claws. Sorry, but what an arsehole!

jane I have two FWBs (I prefer ‘lover and friend’, cheesy as that is) and three FBs who don’t seem to have noticed that I’ve actually stopped seeing them 😂

Hello. I am the angriest online dater in Southern England. What happened to Not Cool Mum has now made me even more angry. What. A. Twat.

@TigerDater. Good on you I couldn’t keep up with that 😂

I can’t either jane! They’re all nice men, respectful, intelligent and funny - but all messed up in their own way, like me I guess 🤷‍♀️.