New relationship- advice and views please!

[aroundandaroundagain]

I've started seeing this guy, its only been a few weeks and I'm not sure about it.
We've only been out once in the last 3 week's. Last weekend he said he would come and see me and we'd go out but he didn't and then this weekend the same and it never happened.
We hardly text and never talk on the phone.
I see him during the week at his business which is just around the corner from where I live but that's it. When I see him He's really into me.
In the last two weeks I've got my results though for my degree and passed. He said we would celebrate but we haven't and last week it was my birthday. He said I didn't tell him when I did. Again he said we would do something but didn't.

I'm thinking about ending it.
What would you do?

He’s already told you he loves you yet you’ve been seeing him for a few weeks
Run. For. The. Hills.

He loves you but flakes on you, men will tell you what you want to hear in order to keep you where they want you. It's not easy to swallow when you realise a guy you have feelings for doesn't feel the same way, regardless of what he says you have to pay more attention to his actions.
I've just been in a similar situation and after blaming myself for a while and making excuses for his flakiness I ended it. Difficult but my self esteem was taking a battering and no man is worth that.

He might well love you, want to marry you and introduce you to his family. Because you are probably a lovable person. HIS feelings aren't really relevant when making a decision about what YOU want though. You don't love this man you hardly know who can't be bothered to celebrate important events in your life, surely? Not only that but you have the needs snd feelings of 3 children to consider and it sounds like this man is not to be trusted with the well being of such precious people to you.

I see more of my friends than you do of your boyfriend. Sorry, it doesn't sound like a relationship to me. I think it might be worth a chat saying how you feel in case he is worried about intruding while you are with your kids but be ready to walk away.

What do you mean you see him at his business? You pop by for ten minutes? See him professionally? If you dont count the time you see him st his business, how many actual dates have you been on?

He's using you OP. Sorry

He sounds utterly full of shit. Who says they love someone after 3 weeks and a handful of meetings??!!!
As PP have said, actions speak far louder.
Block him and move on.

What is his house like? Has he asked you round much?

Is he never free in the evenings?

Steer clear OP.

Yet another lovely guy who thinks hes a god eh !!! Sounds like he has something to hide if he was into you he would show it trust me been their, done it , met them all !!! A persons actions tell you everything you need to know. Ignore him IF he texts or calls , do not contact him !!!! Disappear completely off the face of the earth to him !!! Let him wonder !!! You deserve better love give all that precious energy that your wasting thinking about him to yourself and treat yourself , be good to yourself take care

He accepts you and your three kids as a package but he has only met you once and presumably never met your children. Is he having a laugh?

You've only been seeing each other and he says you're his future wife? Have you even got to know one another? He says you're together, yet he has flaked on you already (it's only been a few weeks).
You're left feeling confused because his actions don't match his words. You feel self doubtful, second guessing yourself, maybe it's you. You say he's told his sisters, his friends and his dad about you, how do you know this? Have you met them? Or did he tell you this?
I don't believe you should be left feeling confused about his intentions at this early stage. If he really wanted to see you, date you, spend time with you, then he would.
Sometimes men say what they think you want to hear, to make life easier for themselves, to keep you hooked in, to love bomb you, to seduce you...for any number of reasons. The important thing is how are you left feeling after this brief interaction with this man.
Any man who after such a short space of time says you're his future wife, says he wants to introduce you to his family and so on....and yet can't follow through on a simple date, is someone about whom I would be suspicious.

He said you are his future wife? After a few weeks where you have barely seen each other! Creepy as fuck!!! He doesn't even know you. Was he fondling his dead mother's nightie and talking about how you will definitely behave when you are his wife as he said this?

His future wife? And you've got kids? And you haven't run a fucking mile? Why not?!

more red flags than a village fete bunting and you need to ask what to do. I hope he hasn't met your kids.

I was going to say also, so many red flags here!

Stop being silly now. You've seen him once in three weeks and he's referring to you being married and taking on your kids? Madness

My advice would be to dump this guy and work on your own boundaries. You should know this isn't how normal relationships progress - especially when you have children to think about

You don’t believe he really loves you, do you? After a few weeks? He sounds like a weirdo.

This is why I'm confused. He's already told me that he loves me, that I'm his future wife. He's told his dad about me, hos sister and his friends. His dad wants to meet me.
I have 3 kids and he says he accepts us all as a package. He says I'm his girlfriend/partner

If someone else told you this after one date with a man you would think they were crazy, right ?

How do you know he’s told his friends and family about you? Did he tell you that?

Stop listening to what he SAYS and look at what he DOES.

There's a world of difference op.

Geez, you've pursued this more than most would. End what exactly? Its a non-starter, not given enough scraps to get going. Now why are you asking the obvious? Think about what treatment you expect, stick to those standards , and bin those that are getting it wrong from the start. it's him - but it's you tolerating it.

He’s full of shit

Sack him off. The first bit of a relationship should be where you just can’t get enough of each other. Going a few days without texting is enough to put anyone off. Find someone better suited

Were does.he work? Why do you go there afew times a.week?

Do you believe in fairy tales OP? Because that is all this 'relationship' is.