Dating thread 174 - where we remind everyone of rule no.13

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Good luck to any on dates! As I have broken other rules anyway, I'm just going to break rule 10 and date the thread instead.

Mr Polite is being quiet. I kind of don’t mind it but at the same time I am thinking please text me 😂

I text him last night to say thanks - he said he didn’t want to leave the date but the pub was closing around us and we had a little bit of banter by text

I hate being harassed by anyone who becomes territorial trying to win me after a date, it’s so off putting and he seems self aware enough not to do this to a woman, although I think he may be a little lonely as he moved to a new town after his divorce and I can imagine that isn’t an easy thing to do

Looking back there was more flirting between us than with Mr Local and we had a nice warm hug.

@bangheadhere40. Don’t give up ! It’s an odd time of year. I bet more people appear available when it comes to January. Where is it that you live again ?

Ok. Mr Beard messaged me last night at 8.20pm. I didn't reply. He's been onlinr thid morning - have I left it long enough now ir should I leave till tonight. Part of me is hoping to set up that date he cancelled previously because he obviously does like me.... and i have had a girlfriend cancel me for tomorrow now too.

@Jane1978xx in the Lakes, with all the tree huggers & wild swimmers

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking try and set up that date if you can, go for it.

I'm feeling sorry for myself sat eating my lunch on break. FWB is messaging and i just can't stop myself replying. I'm stupid I know.

I really am trying to move on but there's bloody no one around! There was another guy I went on a couple of dates with but I didn't make too much effort cos of FWB. I dunno whether to see him again or not..,

@bangheadhere40 what a lovely place to live ! There must be some single 40 year old millionaires who have retired to the lakes 😂.

I wish to bloody god it wasn't Christmas round the corner, only makes me feel more lonely ☹️

Let's all come on a dating thread retreat :-D

Excellent idea ! Hikes and pub lunches. Open fires and baileys hot choc.

Just matched with a fit guy on tinder but when I asked him what he was looking for he said casual. So sex then. I said I was after more, dating, a relationship but good luck. Then he comes back with it could go somewhere. Absolute shameless telling me what he thinks I want to hear so he gets a shag 😂

@TimeTravellingDiamond try and fill your time with family and friends. I’m also doing some presents and parcels for homeless and women’s refuge.

@Jane1978xx lovely idea. It's my weekend with the kids thank for so at least I've got that to look forward to

Hi all..it's my first time staying at MrDr's this weekend. Eek!! Excited and a bit scared, having to get naked for someone totally new. Wine will be involved. Was laughing with my friend earlier as she said she got totally trollied on her planned 1st time with her new(ish) bloke and he ended up tucking her up into bed as she was fit for nothing else. Apparently she thought she was being seductive telling him to fuck her but it was all nonsense that was coming out her mouth. I hope I don't do the same LOL!!

Yeah. Don't get paralytic!

Mind you...i was just paralysed with nerves and lay there like a dead rat. It was not my finest hour...

Mr Beard is chatting... and chatty. Not taking the bait about my free time this weekend though. Gah.

@pinkmonkeybird how many dates have you been on before now ?

Mild buzz, not trollied. Definitely.

Hey all, it’s taken me ages to catch up. Loved the discussion of names. It shouldn’t apply but it does. No Daves, Gary’s or XHs name for me.

unambiguous My FWB (mr greedy) is still trying hard to change my mind, I don’t want to stop replying/block but he is pushing it now.

Have spent the last three days/nights on a probably farewell shagfest with my other FWB, Mr Mad. God he’s lovely and tall and we get on incredibly well together but he’s non-monogamous and has developed ED after an operation so only DTD three times. In the First 24 hours we met 18 months ago we did it 5 times. It was almost platonic at times these last few days. That felt wrong for me. I’m nervous now as Mr Train is the same age as Mr Mad, Mr Greedy is 10 years younger and can go all night given half a chance.

So, sorry for ramble, but after a lot of work in the last two months I feel I’m getting closer to my definition of William/clear boundaries that poor old Mr Train has to meet, in no particular order (some already ticked by him, some to be broached ASAP):
Unmarried (tick)
can DTD a lot
Really cuddly
Monogamous
Intelligent, articulate, gsoh, excellent relationship with family, still working (tick)
able re things like bleeding radiators
Not shorter than me (tick)

So Mr Train is coming to my house on his birthday rather than us going away. Not sure whether to invite him to stay overnight?

Sorry to go on Fred-Friends but there is literally no-one IRL I can share with and you guys are so wonderful!

Can we all just have a little sympathy for me please who had to dtd for the first time with a recovering alcoholic, so no booze whatsoever involved!

@tigerdater. If you went away we’re you sharing a room ? He might expect to stay but you aren’t obliged. Maybe don’t say anything and see how you feel on the day 🤷🏼‍♀️

And me at the opposite end of the scale @Sunshineandflipflops with MrC who I made v. nervous, and he got so drunk the first time we DTD that he had a severe case of Brewers Droop, which he still apologises for 7 months later! 🙈😂