Dating thread 174 - where we remind everyone of rule no.13

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Mr Polite has been married twice and has no kids

He was embarrassed to say he had been married twice, as he worried it is off putting but he likes to be honest about it. 1st time very young, second just didn’t work out
I did not ask him why no kids as I think it’s really rude, but he did talk about it. I said he did not have to explain, it’s not my business and doesn’t make someone weird. He was just upfront about this, not sure if he’s a bit of a sensitive soul - he does have a SOH which suggests he’s maybe on the normal end?

@unambiguousbeard 💐 I'm trying not to be sad atm too. Bloody hard though.

I'll be honest- this time in POF I wasn't even getting all the sleaze that it can sometimes be. I was getting some nice messages, compliments, genuine attempts to start proper conversations. But they were all claiming to be mid late 30s and I thought they looked the same age as my dad! I forget I'm 31, I could probably pass for 10 years younger but I'm still supposed to be a proper grown up with two kids.

I'm just really childish I think. Need to grow the fuck up 😂

@unambiguousbeard 😂 at asking if he'd lost something.

Messaging tonight with MrN and I think he might be smitten. I was thinking FWB and was going to check that we were on the same page when we met this weekend. How do I bring this up? He knows that I'm very unavailable because of family commitments but I hadn't really talked about being emotionally unavailable as well. I had thought he was mostly in it for sex, but seems I might be wrong.

@menora your MrPolite sounds lovely.

You know the profiles I hate? The ones where you're flicking through the pucs thinking... yes.. ooh... maybe... yes... yum... and then the last one is from a different angle or shows more of them and you realise that THAT is what they really look like and NO you do NOT fancy them. So depressing.

One of the William type names mentioned is a bit if a thing for me. Mr Beard was called it and i had two rather lovely bpyfs called it as well. And all of then i got smitten with and thry weren't that bothered about me. So other than my stbx all thr men I've lived ir listed after have had the same name. Not bad cobsidering i was off the market for 15 years and I'm only 36.

It's now got to the point where it predisposes me to think kindly of men with the name even if there's not much else about them. My oldest mate thinks the whole thing is freaking hilarious.

And Mr Beard messaged me tonight. I deleted his details on tuesday but didn't block him. I'll leave it till tomorrow to reply. No hurry. It was a fairly generic question.

Oh. Forgot the important uodates. Twi new irons. Mr Italian who is easy to chat to, very (overly?) Complimentary and seems rather keen. Need to meet in person to decide for sure vut might make a good fwb.
Tomorrow in meeting Mr Rigger. Definite FB potential. Tall and fit. Decent name. Arty. Not sure if he's on my intellectual level but we'll find out. And properly kinky with the balancing kinks to mine so yay. Fingers crossed for a play buddy. Loo update tomorrow at about 2.30pm. K?

Fuck. Sorry about tired clumsy thumb typos

I once told a man who was posing with his cat, and devoted his profile to said cat that I fucking hate cats. I'd had enough at that point!

Mr Straight has certainly changed his tone tonight, been asking lots of questions....I've decided I'm not going to meet him (unlikely) so I can just be myself, and was much more direct with him, and slightlt filthy, which isn't me, but there's no expectations now ! He seems to like it!

Hi I’m new to these boards! Met mr fit on Twitter by chance and we’ve been on 5/6 dates this month.

I literally had just broken up with my dd’s dad, been together nearly 12 years.

Completely unplanned situation on Twitter, we both follow the same team and live on opposite sides of the same big city.
He’s fit and I’m not used to that properly fit. He has a history of meeting “nutters” and said the fact I’m normal is so refreshing. If only he knew.....

So yes that’s me. I think I’ve included everything I’m supposed to. Very exciting and butterflies etc at the minute. Ex had no sex drive and this one has enough for everyone.

Zoflo

Hurrah for sex drive!

Hello, back on dating scene after two men who showed their true colours, thanks for advice on other thread. So tonight is Mr Cyprus - detective in London who I have been speaking to all week, sounds great in every way .... but then they all have!

Tomorrow lunch with Mr Swears, he apologised but I have stressed that I too swear just not as frequently as him!

So hoping to meet the one and have been on countless dates since March, thankfully, for the most part I am having fun. Will of course update and have been following these threads for months now. Happy Friday everyone

Welcome Ultra!

What are everyone's plans for this drizzly dreary Friday? I am going for a run, waiting in for a tumble dryer, hopefully having a lunch date with Mr Rigger and maybe seeing a friend for dinner/drinks tonight deoending if she can get away. If she can't i will probably go to bed early and masturbate until i fall asleep

Sounds like a good Friday weeping, I'm working. Really wish I had some friends to see a bit more, my own problem for being so socially awkward I guess ☹

So in the space of 3 days after moving on from mr Friday ( seems keen didnt want to meet 😂). I have mr gray lives local and seems keen , Ive vetted him via fb and he seems normal 😂 going to go for a drink next week , mr chef (French) also seems genuine but he’s a little far away maybe and seems to work crazy hours, mr beard who I was speaking to a lot the end of the summer but he’s not online a lot so I’ve not reweighed him up yet but we got on really well before.

Woke up with a headache, not a great start! No big plans, just pottering around and getting some housework, homework and paid work done. All depending on my head and my toddler letting me actually do stuff....

I’ve got work then going to do xmas lists with my daughter tonight

Hrm. No word from today's date.
Place your bets now- lame excuse or ghosting?

Hopefully just busy!!

Who had their money on cancellation with lame excuse...?

Seriously. Are they all this flaky or is it something about me?!

Have you messaged him ?

He messaged me. A forgotten meet up with a mate
He was grovellingly apologetic but it doesn't mean much.

My reply was "It's ok. My motto these days is not to count on it until it's happening"
Which is only the truth.

Sorry about that weeping....you did the right thing just brushing it off.

Better than just being stood up, I guess. But why are people so flaky? It's awful, but better to know early on. That should probably be a motto!

Urghh men

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking No work for me on Fridays, I’ve done my Friday gym session and todays press up and squat challenge. I’m a bit bored now, might waste a bit of time on my xbox. MrNN doesn’t work Fridays either, so I’m not normally bored.

So I now have a drink lined up with Mr Grey on wed. He’s only 5 minutes away 😂. Seems normal so far although his profile pics on Pof are horrendous.