Dating thread 174 - where we remind everyone of rule no.13

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Checking in, thank you for the shiny new thread. We are a chatty bunch.

Quick summary of my situation - dating Mr G exclusively, long distance, he lives in America but comes out here to work every few weeks for a couple of weeks at a time. We last saw each other at the beginning of the month and probably won't see each other again until December. Making do with WhatsApp video calls and Snapchat pics 😇 He continues to be emotionally supportive, caring and funny. I don't know what the future will bring but for now I'll keep him. We met on Tinder, was meant to be a casual thing but turned into this.

I might try Tinder. Bored of Bumble

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@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking. I just wrote to you on the other thread ! Or pof and lower the age range

Also checking in.

I do have friends who are supportive, great people who I work with etc. But I also found a lot of people were very supportive in the early days after I split with my ex but not that far down the road, much less so. I even feel like I've been frozen out a little bit by one group of friends. So in honesty I just can't be arsed with it. My friends are a wide age range too but unfortunately the best ones I have aren't near.

I actually feel quite sick today. I know it will pass but it's grim. It doesn't help that there's no one on tinder/bumble. Do I try POF again?

Ok Jane
And starting at 26 on Tinder and we'll see shall we?

Any chaps on here willing to review my profile for me?

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I would be happy to review your profile - I'm at work but it's a very quiet day

Good luck

Thanks banghead...Right. How do I share it?

Checking in! MrM and I are still going strong - he's just popped into my work with a bunch of red roses and ginger nut biscuits as he knows I had a particularly bad argument with my ex yesterday and knew it's put me in a bad mood! Also will be seeing him for dinner later. Kermit is ruling again!

I met him on Tinder after reading all the success stories on here I know @WooMaWang met Mr SG on there - so it's really not just a hook up site.

Keep your chins up everyone there really is someone for everyone

I guess if you pm me with a link, or possibly attach a screenshot of your profile on there.

uttersocks I had exactly that experience with Mr Cat last year - wildly unsuitable but met on match day, practically shagged in a doorway, carried on on the phone when I got home. Led to an 8 month shagathon with no regrets whatsoever on either side, and some funny stories to tell. Go for it!

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No worries, it is what it is. I'm not in a normal situation, but if Mr G lived nearby and I couldn't see him regularly, I'd feel the same as you, @shitwithsugaron.

(I send him plenty of embarrassing "I miss you" messages when I've had a bit to drink, tho...)

Why are you seeing less of him @shitwithsugaron?

I don't get to see that much of Mr Ad really as he lives an hour away and he hasn't met my kids yet so it's every other weekend and a night in the week. I'd like to see him more but I also like my independence. a happy medium would be nice!

I had a row with my ex last night. He told me about 2 weeks ago that he had broken up with his girlfriend (the one he had an affair with). Obviously I was quite happy at this news but knew he wouldn't be on his own for long as he's never been on his own in his life and doesn't leave a relationship unless he has another to go to.
Well I was right as not only does he have another girlfriend already (I suspect some overlap) but he introduced our kids to her over the weekend. Our ds knows her dd as they used to go to school together but still, I am so pissed off with him. It's literally been a couple of weeks since he split up with the last one and it's just not appropriate or ok.

I have thought so much about when to introduce Mr Ad to them and want to get it right and then he does this. Tosser.

I told Mr Ad and he was lovely. He said he's ok waiting to meet my kids and understands that they come first.

I met his family over the weekend and they are lovely. Apparently they like me too and said how lovely it was to see some affection between us and he and his ex never showed any affection towards each other.

@Sunshineandflipflops he really is a tosser. Do you think he genuinely thinks it's appropriate introducing someone after 2 weeks as his gf? Or does he do it to try and piss you off and get a reaction? It's very true that at some point they will see for themselves what he's like.

@Sunshineandflipflops. What a dick

Thanks everyone. Just as I think he's not so bad and we're getting on ok, he goes and acts like a prize cock.

Having our kids for the weekend was obviously interfering with his fledgling relationship.

@shitwithsugaron I hope I'm not speaking out of turn but there seems to be quite a lot you're not happy about with Mr B recently. I hope you are still getting what you need for the relationship.