Dating thread 174 - where we remind everyone of rule no.13

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Listen to your instincts. I had a guy wanting to know whether I got in safe from meeting with friends. Which seems ok on the surface, but we hadn't even met yet! He was far too attached, far too quickly. It made me uncomfortable. I finished it and never met him.

Yeah I feel bad I didn’t explain why, but a real off feeling. With little chat.

I am such a pro now I can always spot who is going to go into sleeze quickly, I kind of hover about seeing where the chat will go and 9/10 - the sleaze will come out after about 3 messages. At least those ones are easier to weed out than the over keen

I have just been asked by a guy who I've been chatting to if I will be his BACK UP PLAN. 🤨

What? Who even asks that??!

The worst one I had was pretty awful a match on bumble over the weekend and he told me he was feeling suicidal
I did talk to him a little while and told him to call the Samaritans
He seemed actually quite unwell

HAHAHAAAA

What a fuckin chancer!!

Reminds me of the Sunday afternoon drinks I had with a guy who admitted I was just a distraction from the recent death of his mother - the week before. Her funeral was on the following Tuesday, as in two days into the future.

Yeah, that was a non starter....

@menora....that sounds scary, I would have helped too though.

I've wasted all day too messaging him.

@cereal at least they are honest I guess...rather he told me than treated me like a back up plan.

What a joke.

He kind of started off with what seemed like a joke about hanging himself, I wasn’t sure how to take it. Then he said he was struggling and I did try to help a bit. I didn’t Unmatch him. I just felt very sorry for him

Iron wise I have Mr Polite - who I really fancy and is so nice and polite and sweet, but didn’t take any hints about meeting up 🙄

Mr Biscuits - I don’t really fancy him off the bat but he’s very funny and we have a lot in common

Mr Local - he lives less than 2 miles from me, seems polite, nice and he is good looking

He actually said ‘backup plan’? That’s extraordinary! Is he some sort of god?

@KhaleesiTargaryen - there's the rule about knowing your worth. You are worth someone who make an effort.

@Menora that’s awful I think you did the right thing

@tiger yep he sid it. Said he has just joined so wants to see how it goes but I seem nice so could be his back up plan.

Surely that’s a joke !!

Maybe, but definitely some truth to it I think, and he's no god.

Why were you on there to see that in the first place ? Seems a bit odd thou if he was that good friends with someone why not text them

@bluemuse it doesn't sound normal sorry.

What site is he on? And where are you in the UK? Maybe one of us on here could send him a message...he'd not have a clue.

@Menora I'm the same- I need someone silly and funny, I can't be dealing with serious or really intellectual 😂

@bangheadhere40 can't believe he asked you to be his back up plan. Ugh.

I'm now remembering all the reasons I deleted POF. Old bald large men from the other end of the country messaging me. What's the point. I don't want a Phil Mitchell lookalike.

@Sunshineandflipflops your ex is a pillock, who introduces their kids to a new GF after 2 weeks?? Is he so incapable of splitting his time between the two and focusing on what's most important. Moron!!
@onemoresmartie* not unreasonable to expect him to call you, check you're ok and offer to come out to you. Made even worse by the fact he was only 2 miles away! After 2 dates surely he's trying to impress, if this is the best he's got I'd have some doubts in your position.
@JeSuisPrest how are things with you and MrC, all still going well I hope!

Hey @NoMoreWeepingAndWanking I can only see your profile pic not the full thing??? (Your profile pic is gorgeous though)

What am I attracting? Might need to share my profile too.

Just had someone who said he wants to do grown up cuddling with me 🤮😔

@Ant330 Pillock! I haven't heard that word in ages but yes, he is a prize pillock!

How are things going with you and Ms Hair?

Same I can only see your pic. I was on Pof but my profile was always off and I went thru the search list and nearby and I did the first messages. That way no wierdos. Apart from one who seemed ok until he messaged on a Sunday am to say he was having a w*nk

Can you screenshot and send