Dating thread 174 - where we remind everyone of rule no.13

[NoMoreWeepingAndWanking]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Checking i, new thread, not actively on any apps, just got annoying "affiny" profile I can't delete without access to a "proper computer".
Ticking along with chatting to a possibility but I suspect he's all talk, he claims to want a FWB but I think it's more likely to be a pen pal!
Loving the thread and learning loads.
I'll get back on the apps after Christmas I think.

Checking in and place marking

I was on my way to date number three with a guy on Saturday night and had a car crash, I called him as soon as it had happened to explain I wouldn't be meeting him for dinner as I was going to his town and he said okay
Since then I have thought surely he should of said omg I'll come and see you I hope your okay

Or am I expecting too much? Is it unreasonable to expect a man to do that nowadays?

banghead - think you should be able to click on a red button to see the full profile.

Anyone else want to review me?

I don't mind having a look @nomoreweepingandwanking. For some reason I get women's profile from time to time on Tinder so have a comparison base (not sure what I clicked there? ... but interesting anyway

@KhaleesiTargaryen I'm feeling a bit crap and still not sure if I can cut ties completely with FWB which is pathetic I know- I should be stronger.

I have swiped through all of tinder and bumble in a 30 mile radius between 22 and 37 😂 I'm determined to make much more of an effort on tinder- I've only been on a date with one other person since got back in touch with FWB in July. I'm debating going on POF as well- should I bother?

I hated POF @TimeTravellingDiamond. But it could just be rank for my age group (sweaty potato heads in lorry cabs and toilets mostly)

@onemoresmartie I wouldn't necessarily expect that as such, no. Concern, checking in the next day, sure. But not arriving at the scene or anything. It really depends on both of you, imo.

@onemoresmartie he might have thought you were making it up though.

@onemoresmartie I would definitely expect some sort of message to check that you're ok. I mean, even I wasn't to ask if you're ok after having a car crash!

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking I think it's because I'm not on tinder, only pof :-(

@onemoresmartie didnt realise you said date number 3! Yes definitely he should have worried more!!!

If anyone is looking for a nice guy in the Yorkshire area, I am chatting to one who I think is too far away for me unfortunately, well he thinks so anyway.

I sent him a photograph because I did think he may of thought I was just bailing
He did send me a few messages but I just think I want the kind of man that would of got in his car and came to check I was okay
Being on my own and literally about 2 miles from where he lived maybe less

He has sent me a few messages and asked if he's in the dog house which I have ignored 😐 I don't know what to say

I did POF before @UtterSocks, it was a bit grim tbh and so many fake profiles. It might be a laugh though in fairness! My expectations are rock bottom 😂

onemoresmartie I would have got in the car if it had been a guy I had met twice before, so yes I would absolutely expect the same in return. It’s common decency

@UtterSocks how old are you ? I wrote you a message on the old thread as well

Also...
There's a bloke in the office I've not spoken to. No idea if I ever would but i fancy the outside and I'd like to try and get something going. Can't think of any way to start a conversation in person. Can i leave a postit with a phone number and a little msg or is that creepy as fuck?

Check your PMs Uttersocks

Thanks @AspieDating I’m just a bit unimpressed by the vaping and think he should have mentioned it in his profile or before we met.

I happened to be in/near his part of town recently when he texted asking how I was and I mentioned this so he asked if I had time for coffee. I did and replied so we arranged where to meet. He then turned up and admitted he hadn’t showered and was a bit scruffy!

In many ways he’s very nice but I think this is a combination of keen and low effort and not a good end result ie he wants to be with me but expects me to accept warts and all?

@TimeTravellingDiamond Delete his details and your texts/WhatsApp chats so you can’t contact him. Or if you’re feeling strong block then delete. Honestly, I’ve been there and it will not get better. 💐 x

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking send to me if you want. I’ve looked on a male friends profile at women before to compare myself 😂

Done!
You're all going to know everything about me

@KhaleesiTargaryen I know you're right. I'm such an idiot, I think back on nights spent together and conversations we've had and I'm just so sad to lose it.

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking no idea how to get the conversation started but a guy in my office super liked me on tinder- I swiped left though because I have a rule of not dating work colleagues- potential to get too messy. I make enough of a mess of my private life without wanting to deal with it in the office 😂

Is it bad that I just unmatched the clingy guy before our date? I just didn’t like his approach it was a bit territorial

Doing what I usually do and being stupid - I do seem to find likeminded silly people to talk to. I’ve been in a back and forth with a guy about crisps and biscuits all day. I can’t be doing with anyone dry and not silly!