i hate it and it makes me feel like shit. AM I WRONG?

[lollyroffled]

my partner buys these mags that really upset me (namely zoo/nuts) especially since i've just had a baby and my confidence is zip. he mainly hides this fact from me, but i have womans intuition and i just know. last night he came home and i saw the latest copy in his bag and i felt sick, it just felt like the last straw, there's me looking scruffy covered in sick, totally stressed out.

he never romances me (i have asked him loads of times to do something nice for each other, i need to feel loved and wanted and all the other mushy stuff) i'm just the woman that looks after his baby, cleans the house and i feel like a total mug.

this morning i went into our lounge and found that not only had he decided to masturbate into his sock (i thought this was reserved for teenagers?) but that he has also left it for me to tidy up.

i am so angry and disappointed.

am i wrong to feel like this? am i wrong to want him to stop buying these mags and make more of an effort with me?

I know! Misread your post lol.

i'll get used to these abbreviations one day...

i cant believe i have to have a conversation about wanking into a sock... how did i get here?!

dirty? he's just dirty...?

love isn't leaving it out for me to find/wash...

we keep getting back to this kick in the cock (go happydaddy) i'm so tempted. whilst wearing heels.

i do try and do something to make myself feel better within myself but then he goes and does something like this and its all falls apart

lollyroffled, I think he either forgot he'd left the sock out, ie, did it before bed and then toddled off to bed in a tired haze and forgot about it; or he feels so comfortable, thinking you will clear everything up after him, will take all this emotional shit, accept his addiction to juvenile porn, that he thought it was ok to leave the sock there.

I really don't think it means he doesn't love you. I don't know either of you, but you've just had a baby together and you are married; he undoubtedly loves you, probably a different level of love now you are a mother to his child. But unfortunately, he seems to have the need to pleasure himself, despite the fact you are happy to do that for him. It seems odd, but I am leaning towards Eric's ideas a bit. Your role changes, both in life and within a relationship, when you have a child and he may not be accepting that very well.

As I said, I don't know either of you, and I think it's massively disrespectful of him to leave ANY hints of him masturbating, around the house, but a sock full of semen is NOT the best way to show your wife you love her.

I think you should take HD's advice and give him a good, hard kick in the cock.

we're not married.

i think what i shall do is fling his filth sock in his face upon his return from work, then i shall buy a huge vibrator and some pics of naked men and have some fun, leave it out for him to find and see how well he takes it. oh yes and lets no forget...

a swift kick in the cock...

I think sometimes the only way to do something is to be upfrint and fank which is what i would do with him,

sit him down, tell him how he is making you feel and that if he wants to wank could he kindly go in the bathroom with the door locked and clean up after himself so you don;t have to know about it.

He is not a child he needs to know how he is making you feel and the sock thing - eew!

Oops, sorry about that. Well, you live together and have a child together; that's a pretty big commitment to make if you don't love someone. He needs confronting and telling that his actions are disrespectful, hurtful and out of order, and you won't accept or put up with them. You shouldn't have to at all. You can't expect him not to masturbate. Men and sometimes women, do this even when their sexlife is hot; it's pretty normal. But he can't be leaving all this shit round your house and treating you like a glorified nanny. You, afterall, need affection and that side of things, too. He needs to grow up, and maybe you should do what someone else said: tell his mammy!

how can i tell him mum that!? she'd probably just laugh anyway.

I like your idea of getting your vibrator out adn some pics of lovely, beautiful men. But, I think women are less superficial than this: we seem to have imaginations capable of fantasising, without the need for comedy porn. But you could always go one better and do that, then clean yourself with one of HIS socks, and leave it in his sock drawer. Dirty bugger he is.

Well, someone else said thatyou should pack your bags and go stay with his mum, tell her why you have gone there. You just tell his mum he's been a dirty w*nker (literally), and is disrespecting you. She may laugh, but it won't be at you, will it!?

if my mum lived closer i'd love to go stay somewhere else for a few days, but everyone is so far away from us.

i'm down south and she lives in nottingham, she's in scotland at the moment though. no i don't drive.

theres no way i can get all my stuff and baby onto a train by myself! any other options!?

Tell him to p!ss off to HIS mum's for a week. Or to a friends if he needs to be closer to home for work. He can do the explaining, you just lock the door behind him and tell him if he doesn't honour your space then you will leave for good. He needs to think about the way he is treating you, and that thinking will be more effective if he has to also think he's messed things up BIG TIME.

i really dont think my mum would be up for us staying. she'd tell me to get on with it.