i hate it and it makes me feel like shit. AM I WRONG?

[lollyroffled]

my partner buys these mags that really upset me (namely zoo/nuts) especially since i've just had a baby and my confidence is zip. he mainly hides this fact from me, but i have womans intuition and i just know. last night he came home and i saw the latest copy in his bag and i felt sick, it just felt like the last straw, there's me looking scruffy covered in sick, totally stressed out.

he never romances me (i have asked him loads of times to do something nice for each other, i need to feel loved and wanted and all the other mushy stuff) i'm just the woman that looks after his baby, cleans the house and i feel like a total mug.

this morning i went into our lounge and found that not only had he decided to masturbate into his sock (i thought this was reserved for teenagers?) but that he has also left it for me to tidy up.

i am so angry and disappointed.

am i wrong to feel like this? am i wrong to want him to stop buying these mags and make more of an effort with me?

lol AT AT LEAST IT'S NOT YOUR CURTAINS
bLEEUUURGH

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He probably didn't think about clean up til it was too late
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You need to tell him this. You sound unappreciated.

Some men need it spelling out to them.

Time to sit him down and tell him all these things then.

He wont know it's bothering you if you don't tell him
Men don't seem to do subtle hints, so wait til you are alone and can talk properly, lo in bed. And tell him.

If you can't talk calmly about it to him then print the thread and leave that on his pillow

tired mamma i am pmsl @

well, if its just to clean up- at least its not your curtains.....

To op, I am not surprised you are feeling neglected, but I totally expect he's just doing his man's frustration thing.

The sooner you can get soemtime together the better, get a chance to just go out of the house , so you can have a shower, get dressed up a little. Perhaps treatyourself to a new top, necklace???

me and my ex didnt do enuff 4 ourselves till it was too late, I know how easy t is to be 'trapped' with the baby.

take care

Don't skirt about it either, cos that doesn't work.
Tell him everything that you just said on here.

I find these magazines quite juvenile tbh and I would laugh in my husband's face if he brought them home and ask if he was 14.

Re sock issue, I would have left it where it lay until he moved it

how old is your baby? iirc I hated dh (and vice versa) for about 3 months with both of mine, combination of hormones, lack of sleep and "we have RUINED OUR LIVES" moments

can you get a babysitter and have a night out, just together and talk?

Communicating is very underated, you need to tell each other how you feel

baby is 6 months old, we have been having sex since baby was born, but i always feel like the one trying.

if he loves looking at women in nice underwear then why the hell doesn't he buy me some!?

One of my friends is fifty and her dh still gets all huffy if they don't have sex every day, fgs! Men are such animals

How old is he, 12?

To me, the fact that you feel shitty is the problem, not the mags. If he knows how shitty you feel, he should stop buying them. Leaving the sock for you, shows he has no respect for you anyway.

happydaddy - are you a man?

Ahhh... but did he leave the sock for her or will he die of embarrassment when he realises?

HappyDaddy is a man.

And you really need to talk to him.
If he can't respect you and treat you icely then he needs to know that you wont accept such bhvr and be given a chance to change it.

You mean my name didn't give it away, lolly?

What an idiot.

Pair the sock with a clean one and see if he asks why they're so crispy.

didn't want to assume happydaddy... was shocked you didn't tell me to get over myself to be honest

PMSL dadada.

God, he sounds about 14! Surely no adults buy these magazines? As for the rest, I would be frankly appalled. Is this real?

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It's not rocket science, is it? If I do something that upsets or offends DW, I stop doing it. If he wont he has no respect or regard for you.

I'd squeeze the sock out, into his underwear drawer and leave it there.

As well as a night out together (obv very important) can you have a night out with your mates maybe? Get glammed up and go out without him to make you feel better about yourself.

God post the sock to him at work... I don't know. He is DISGUSTING!
How old is he? Are you sure he is old enough to father children?

yes it's real. i wouldn't have thought any adult did no, but mine does...

by the way i have no idea what these abbreviations mean... i just guess.

where have all the nice respectful men gone? the ones that make you feel amazing and dont think staring at other women is "just what guys do" my partner wouldn't like it if i was constantly staring at fit men either in real life or in mags with no clothes on, then again he probably wouldn't even notice.

lolly, you need to talk to him. Properly, face to face, with no telly on in the background. He needs to know exactly how you feel about everything. If that still doesn't get through then...

...kick him in the cock.