Dating thread 172: from developing a rhino hind to finding love in the unusual places...the rollercoaster of dating!

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item. 😘

Oh yeah @KermitRulesOK it's the Big one tonight. Good luck and enjoy it!

Just got off the phone with Mr Surgery, another lovely long phone call. Second date arranged for next week, I would sooner it this week but he is busy. He started singing as he was making dinner while we talked. That man can sing. Really looking forward to seeing him again

Such lovely updates!

Love is in the air....

Or a few good bouts of lust

Great to read after so many tough weeks here

@Peanuthedz glad to see you back and over MrU, and back on the horse. From unsuitable to suitable, hope it goes well for you tomorrow ;)

Ahh lovely Peanuthedz hope it goes wlell2. Trust bloody wanker of a man! I will never understand why they do that

Well, even 😳😂

Lots of lovely things happening!
I had an ok evening but he didn’t half love the sound of his own voice. He’d be a fab friend... but that’s it I think.
Any advice about how to communicate that would be gratefully received!

Oh my fucking god is all I can say...squeeeeeeeeee

Telllll usssssss

Well update from me, I've finally gone back on bumble after a long break after Mr FB really hurt me. Decided to change my settings and thought I'm just going to see what's out there if I can get a few chats going. It's going to be good for me.

Well 4 chats going. And one is very promising. Meeting him Saturday and he really makes me laugh. Which is just what I've needed. Moved to Snapchat and WA. I know I know it's very early days and I might not like him in person.

But right now, I needed to feel excited again and even him saying goodnight and text me when you get up and sorted. Was probably the nicest thing I could have had.

One of the issues with my prev whilst it was a FB situation. It was all on his terms. Made me doubt myself, made me think I wasn't good enough for him. It wasn't a FB it was sex when HE wanted it and he didn't care about my feelings.

If it comes to nothing, I'm ok with that. Because he's been the guy to make me smile again.

Kermit give us the goss!

Lifegoes I hope it goes well for you on Saturday. Sounds like going back in bumble us working well. Sometimes the chatting itself is a good distraction I find.

I've got a WWYD for you all- I've had an allergic reaction to some very expensive 😡-- shower gel/body lotion, lovely bumpy rash mainly on my lower legs. I've supposed to be seeing Mr Cath Fach on Friday..... I don't know what to do! I was thinking maybe a cover up- stockings and all the rest? I am NOT cancelling but I want to look half decent-- fabulous!

Bloody great timing as per usual!

@InTheTempest antihistamines and a cortisone cream, you can get both from over the counter. That should take down some of the rash and the what's left cover it up with stockings etc

Dancer thankyou! I didn't think of anti histamines.

I'm thinking stockings and something sexy I can keep on all through the evening and he won't even notice 😂

So MrM has just left! Sorry @WooMaWang but he wins the best kisser award! The hours literally whipped by as we had so much to tell each other about work and what's been happening since we last met. So onto the dtd good grief - all my wishes have come true and the sex was amaze balls and quite literally like a movie or something. He said he adores me and really wants whatever we have to work! He's also got a couple of tickets to a concert he wants to take me to in December - I feel like I've won the bloody lottery! Am on cloud 9 and this is where I'm bloody well staying ☺️

New iron on the go. Mr beard. Lots of common interests and some decent chat but not v local and I'm wondering if he might be a bit reticent for me irl. We'll see.

Am starting to think more in terms of relationships than fwb though. I don't know. How long are you supposed to be single before you're safe to go back in the water? I don't see the point of staying since just because but similarly i don't want to jump into sonething too soon

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking I'm never sure about that either. I didn't start old til a good 6 months after my ex moved out. And our marriage had been dead for at least 5 years. I wanted sex but I was so off men. I feel a bit odd going on a date 2 weeks after mr U tbh.

However your case is different. You've only had sex once and you're still grieving. I would stick with the FWB for a while. You have to think about whether you have the resilience to deal with being rejected yet because it's unlikely you'll find another LTR straight away and whether you've processed enough if your marital grief. Apart from anything else they're much easier to find than a relationship!

@InTheTempest I’ll second the call for antihistamine tablets/ cream or hydrortisone cream..then something like or Aveeno as a moisturiser after.
@KermitRulesOK that’s wonderful! Cloud 9 is a great place to be
@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking my last relationship was with a Mr.Beard- he was lovely. Re time, I stayed out of being in a proper relationship for over 3 years after my divorce. My relationship (just under 3 years)with Mr Beard ended about a month ago & I signed on to OLD about 10 days ago.
If it feels right go into it with an open mind & try it. You can always walk away if it feels too much too soon; that was a really difficult but important lesson I learnt after my divorce & the only way I could find out when things became right with someone ( I had a hideous last few years or marriage though).

Ah @shitwithsugaron

I'm here for a pm if it helps.

Oh bollocks @shitwithsugaron we're all here for you

I'm sorry to hear this, @shitwithsugaron.

Oh @shitwithsugaron. I'm so sorry to hear that. Are you sure it's not fixable? Feel free to message me.

I'm glad you are back on the horse @Peanuthedz. A MrSuitable sounds like just what you need.

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking It really depends on the circumstances. In my case I started OLD about 5 months after ex and I officially split (we were still house sharing and it was awful). The relationship had been dead for many years before that and I'd told him it was over for me about 6 months before he accepted the inevitable demise of the relationship. So I was ready to move on. I met MrSG pretty quickly for OLD and I was definitely up for a relationship. I couldn't have done FWB because of my personal history. In fact, I was worried the ex might have ruined sex for me entirely.

It sounds like your situation is a bit different though and FWB might be what you need right now.

I think we'll have to agree to disagree on the title of best kisser @KermitRulesOK. 😁 I'm so glad you had a great time.