DH told me never to cook for him again

[Mummyonthebus]

This evening. He said it isn't worth the hassle (kitchen is not pristine when we sit down to eat- it always gets cleared up straight afterwards). Also the steak wasn't made to his liking.

For background, I have a toddler and a baby and sleep deprived. Everything is overwhelming and I'm doing my best. Just felt like a kick in the teeth.

How would you respond?

I wouldn't cook for him ever again.

Is he taking over?

What @TheoriginalLEM said

😂😂

No worries mate. And mean it.

Take him at his word. You’ve got enough on your hands already without catering for a moany arse.

LTB

(I'm not even joking.)

I'd do as he says.

My DP once said my cooking was 'orrible. He eats ready meals now.

Let him do the cooking. You put your feet up xx

I would absolutely take this literally.

Brilliant. He can do the cooking every night then

I would be relieved that I had one less child to feed.

Dh said this to me about 12 years ago and I haven’t cooked a single thing for him since. actually he didn’t say don’t cook for him.....he said my cooking was crap and fed his dinner to the chickens.

But anyway, never cooked for him since. Cooked for me and dd and left him to his own devices. Bloody liberating. He’s never said a word!

Fabulous. He's cooking from here on in

Good lord woman. Point him in the direction of fuck offsville and tell him to get there swiftly. What an absolute dickhead.

I'd clap my hands in sarcastic joy and ask what he's planning to cook for you tomorrow and the next day and the next day and the day after that. Presumably if he thinks he can criticise your cooking, he'll be keen to step up and do a great job.

Is he usually this rude?

Yep. Do exactly that. Never cook for him again.

Does he help clear up? Regardless I wouldn’t cook again for him.

Hope you said "Good - that's great that you're volunteering to take over the cooking. I look forward to beautiful meals and an immaculate kitchen."

Then don’t cook for him anymore 🤷🏻‍♀️ He can sort himself out

Have to agree with LEM.
I remember when me and DP were starting out, he always critiqued my cooking, it was never as good as he, his mum, his gran would do. Upset me at the time.
Kids are older now, some of my meals they love, some they look at me like they are wondering what fresh hell I have plated up. We have lovely meal times sat around the table together though.
DP mostly eats by himself.

"he said my cooking was crap and fed his dinner to the chickens."

How could you live with someone who treated you like that, let alone have sex with them?!

You've a toddler and a baby, you laid him out a steak and washed up straight afterwards.

At least it's the last meal you have to cook him

I'd eat when the kids do from now on. Let him sort his own out including shopping for what he eats

Don’t cook for him again then.

I'd do a happy dance tbh. One less person to plan/cook for.

It isn't your job to cook for him.

I'd thank him for his offer to cook from now on, and enjoy not having to do it anymore. Presumably he will be able to cook better food with no mess, so its all good!