DH told me never to cook for him again

[Mummyonthebus]

This evening. He said it isn't worth the hassle (kitchen is not pristine when we sit down to eat- it always gets cleared up straight afterwards). Also the steak wasn't made to his liking.

For background, I have a toddler and a baby and sleep deprived. Everything is overwhelming and I'm doing my best. Just felt like a kick in the teeth.

How would you respond?

I'd be thrilled. No more cooking for him, ever. If you're happy to eat what you cook then eat before he comes home in the evening. Honestly, don't cook for him again.

I would agree. It's obviously not worth the hassle. You're knackered and he's an unappreciative prick.

"It always gets cleaned"

By whom?

Although, it is really hurtful to be told that. Everybody saying they would accept his "offer" with glee, I doubt they wouldn't be hurt initially.

Honestly I would tell him to go fuck himself and make his own dinner. What a dick

I would be hurt...when I thought of all the time I'd wasted previously cooking for him.

Yeah - who does the cleaning?
I would absolutely take him at his word.

I hope you told him to fuckety fuck off and shove his steak up his arse!
sounds like a right knob!

Take him at his word, of course. Forever.

My husband once complained about a shirt I ironed for him. 25 years ago.

Has he confused your home with a restaurant??

Why isn’t he cooking if you’re chasing after a toddler and a baby?

When I was at that point and had very little sleep DP sorted out dinner every time. He also works full time and I’m currently on mat leave. He still did the cooking whilst I was in the newborn fog.

I once made the most godawful bread and cheese concoction. Think similar to bread and butter pudding but savoury and truthfully disgusting.
My older dc couldn’t eat it. I couldn’t eat it. DP ate it told me it was lovely and thanked me for the meal, we were newly living together at that point.

I’ve not made such an awful meal since. But DP has always eaten anything I dish up enthusiastically and told me he loves my cooking.

Do as your H asked. Never cook for him again, eat with your dc.

How is your H towards you otherwise?

I clean it up. I cook and clear up. I do all the domestic chores. He won't be cooking for the family of course, he would just cook for himself.

DH said my banana bread was floury yesterday and I almost ripped a lump off him

So he works 40h/w and you're the domestic slave working 24/7 (that's 168h/w) doing all childcare including night wakings, and all the housework?

Does he add anything to your life apart from paying the bills?

Cook and clear up after himself?

Yea that's not a great way to do things. Prioritise you first, then the children, then all the other shit. If it doesn't get done at least you have done the important stuff.
Let him cook for himself, you can enjoy the meals you want, how you want, when you want and so can he.

Jesus Christ how rude! I would take him at his word and never cook for him again.

My husband eats whatever I cook and if he doesn't like it he never ever says so. He always thanks me and cleans up.

If I suspect he doesn't like it I ask him if it's nice. He'll say yes. Then I ask would you mind if you never had it again and then he'll say no
Look after yourself and your little ones op. I hope he's nicer to you in other ways.

So he's doing all the cooking now then..

Let him cook for himself. Let him get his own groceries. Let him clean up his own dishes. Let him make his own cups of tea. LET HIM. You look after you and the kids. X

Here we go. Another good woman flogging herself into the ground for a cunt.

What a tossbag still at least he did you a favour ,make sure you don't bother your arse and cook yourself something extra nice to eat in front of him

I suspect you won't take a stand but do make sure you don't cook for him at least for a few days but get really lovely stuff for yourself. Feed the toddler before he's home.

DH complained about the way, I ironed one of his shirts 34 years ago! Big mistake - he has ironed all his work shirts (and anything else) ever since!

I wish my family would complain about my cooking, so I could give that up too - so over cooking!

Hope you've asked him what's for tea tomorrow.

@AnyFucker you're choice of words on threads and bluntness always make me 😂