DH told me never to cook for him again

[Mummyonthebus]

This evening. He said it isn't worth the hassle (kitchen is not pristine when we sit down to eat- it always gets cleared up straight afterwards). Also the steak wasn't made to his liking.

For background, I have a toddler and a baby and sleep deprived. Everything is overwhelming and I'm doing my best. Just felt like a kick in the teeth.

How would you respond?

Hmm reading the subsequent posts after mine I’m wondering if I’m the one projecting because I’m the one who tends to say thoughtless things, and I definitely know that I do really love and appreciate my DH, and would genuinely be gutted if he felt the way some of you are describing.

Christ and people wonder why I stay single? He's lucky you put up with that type of talk!

Just wanted to point out, it wasn't about one upmanship. DH didn't want me to cook for him so I didn't.

He once said he would rather have a McDonald's that one of my curries

I hope he cleaned up after himself

Yes he did

Did he offer to cook for you OP?

He once said he would rather have a McDonald's that one of my curries shock

Was this said in a laughing way - you are adorable, I love you but god your curries are awful. Or was it said as just that - your curries are so crap I'd rather eat McDonalds.

Because honestly, if it was the latter, I don't know anyone in my life I'd say something so hurtful to. DH says nice things to me. I say nice things to him.

In a marriage, you shouldn't say things that are hurtful. you should be kind. I think this should be taught in schools because so many males seem to entirely miss this and so many women seem to think this unkindness is acceptable. It isn't. Many of us live with kind decent men who'd eat a bad curry rather than upset us and maybe would gently tease a bit about it at most.

If my DH said this I wouldn't be able to separate the remark about cooking from the rest of the marriage. Being supportive of each other is what makes a strong marriage surely.

...would you really end it because your partner didn’t like your cooking?

Lots of people don't like their partner's cooking. Not liking the cooking is not the issue here.

The issue is that they are mean spirited and unkind about it.

Some people come up with solutions to the problem of not liking what is cooked for them by taking over the cooking. If the OP's H was a decent man who cared about supporting a woman who is dizzy from sleep deprivation and their two little children he would have done what ineedaholidaynow suggested:
If you didn’t like your partner’s cooking wouldn’t you offer to cook for them not just cook your own meal, especially when they are trying to juggle a baby and a toddler

The OP's H is throwing a massive tantrum and taking unkindness and utter selfishness to another level altogether.

My dad was born in 1943 and worked a 40hr week. He did all the cooking in our house and called in at the supermarket on the way home to get the ingredients.
I just took this for granted, and he certainly had his flaws and was a messy bugger -but it's so sad that some men still aren't seeing marriage as TeamWork.