DH told me never to cook for him again

[Mummyonthebus]

This evening. He said it isn't worth the hassle (kitchen is not pristine when we sit down to eat- it always gets cleared up straight afterwards). Also the steak wasn't made to his liking.

For background, I have a toddler and a baby and sleep deprived. Everything is overwhelming and I'm doing my best. Just felt like a kick in the teeth.

How would you respond?

What a horrible rude ingrate. I do hope you plan to do as you're told on this occasion and let the nasty fucker make his own dinner in future.

For once I'm going to tell the op to do what her dh said to do!

I don't cook anything for my dh and he's a lovely man. Why would you cook for yours? Is it the 1950s?

Ask him what he'll be cooking for you all tomorrow night

My DP is the same 😂 I have cooked things for him loads of times and he doesn't like it, there's only 2 meals I cook which he will actually eat!

So now I just cook for DS as he eats earlier, and DP cooks for us when he gets back from work so it's turned out fab for me, no more moaning about my food and I only have to cook for DS who seems to love my cooking

He's a dickhead, btw, your dh.

WhoKnew is right. He'd probably like the idea of an obedient wife. :) :) :)

You stop cooking and he might start ordering take aways or eat out every day using family money.

DH 33 years ago said 'you are cutting the tomato wrong' . I said 'you do it then' and left the kitchen. To be honest I am much better with computers, cleaning or admin, anyway. Last year I started cooking again - once a week.

You need to ask him what he is cooking for both of you tomorrow night. Start as you mean to go on.

He expected you to cook for you and him and I assume your toddler, so he can cook for both of you and depending on time, your toddler too.

Dh would always come home, roll his sleeves up and crack on. His Mum was a SAHM so he respected the effort and monotony of it all. Therefore when I became a SAHM he understood what I was going through. Sometimes he had to precariously work his way across the room avoiding all the toys still out. But the room was tidied every night, mostly by both of us, sometimes just by him.

So take him at his word.

WIn Win.

Oh god your life is about to become so much easier. If I was just cooking for me and the toddler I'd love it. Soup and a roll/ salad/fried eggs on toast. All stuff I'd be happy to eat at dinnertime but dh would still be hungry after.

How these entitled twats find women willing to breed with them is a mystery to me - or does the twattery start when the woman becomes mummy? Do they then think the woman because their 2nd mummy?

Excellent, never do it again. My ex told me I hung his t-shirts 'wrong' so for the final 12 months of our relationship they were screwed into a ball and flung onto his side of the bed to do it himself. If yours wouldn't even cook for you and the children if he were to venture into the kitchen, and doesn't appreciate what you do, then why the fuck would you want to feed him anyway?

What a knob!

@Aprillygirl ahhhh ingrate the perfect word to use!

I would stop doing everything for him. No washing, ironing, cooking, finding his shite he’s ‘lost’.

Actually, I’d kick him out for being such a sexist piece of shit, but it’s a lot easier to say than do. I hope you’re ok op.

Excellent. So either he will be cooking & clearing up for you all, or (probably) he will have to wait every time, until you've cooked & cleared up from making meals for yourself & the DCs.

Either way, no more whiny manbaby to cater for. And you should definitely stick to it. He can eat his bloody words, but the kitchen is now self-catering.

Sorry you're having to cope with this, BTW. Is he otherwise lovely, & just an arse about food & the kitchen?

becomes their 2nd mummy.

Stand your ground OP, a man that is rude about a fucking STEAK under these circumstances will criticise you for anything. Tell him you are his wife not his mummy, get really bloody angry OP - make him the one that does not want to piss YOU off. This has worked very well for me over the years. I used to go off apeshit at any such criticism - it soon stopped believe me. It is a sad thing, but in some relationships there is still a power battle between men and women and if men win, their wives and children inevitably lead shitty lives. Fight back OP, if not for yourself, then for your children - And next time, tell him to shove the steak up his hole.

Don't cook for him again. Don't do anything he doesn't appreciate ever again, including any sexual favours. He will soon learn to shut up.

My dh would have been utterly amazed to be presented with a hot meal when we had the baby and toddler combo.
Tell him to fuck off.

I’d be delighted!!!

I would work really hard tomorrow to cook his very favourite meal exactly how he likes it. When he gets home I would welcome him into the house with a smile and then excuse myself with “oooh - just need to serve up the XXX”. I would serve it up onto a plate and ensure that he can see just how delicious it looks and smells.

And then I would eat every last fucking bite.

I would stop and I would also stop doing his washing too.

YOu do all the domestic chores, and now he will only cook fo rhimself? While you also sort the toddler and baby whilst sleep deprived?

You'd be better off on your own by the sounds of it. Wanker.