AIBU to not tell dh im going away for a night?

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My dc are 9 and 3 and I haven’t had a night away from them since they’ve been born. I’ve had evenings out with friends but not a night away.
Two of my best friends have been talking about having a night away in a city, maybe seeing a show and I want to go but I know dh wouldn’t ever agree to it.
He’s away on business for a fortnight in November and I’m tempted to leave the children with my parents for a night (they’d have them happily) and go and not tell him.

Wibu? I guess if he found out afterwards he’d be livid.

Why not just tell him?

Why would he mind?

Why wouldn’t he agree?

Why are you not allowed to leave them for a night?

It sounds like you are frightened of your husband. It what other ways do you appease him and tip toe around his temper ?

I’m not allowed to go away for the night.

Unless you can't afford it, you don't need his permission. I ask my husband if I want to do something, but only in a kind of 'have you any potential plans on this date' kind of way.

Go out and enjoy!

Sorry, why can't you have a night away? He's away for a fortnight and you are scared to tell him you're away for one night? Is he your partner or your jailer?

I would tell him, what’s the point in hiding it? Why does he have to agree to it?

What else are you not "allowed" to do ? Is he your jailer ?

If he would be livid about you having a night off when he isn't even there, you have major major issues with him and his controlling ways.

But why are you not allowed? He clearly is if he’s away for 2 wwwhs.

The fuss around it would make it not worth going.

You know what everyone is going to say already ..... why would he be ‘livid’? What else is he so controlling of?

You should absolutely go, but you need to sort your DH out, don’t sneak around for a night out. You’re doing nothing wrong

Why would he be livid?

It's not normal for a DH to be so against a DW having a night away.

Why aren't you 'allowed'?

*weeks

He can't tell you what you are and are not allowed to do

What kind of fuss ?

But why aren’t you allowed? Is he really controlling? That is so sad if he is :(

This is controlling behaviour. This is abuse. From what I've heard, the Freedom Project would help you, please check it out.

Why are you 'not allowed'?

Just tell him you are going to, end of.

Yes but he’s away for work.
Although he’s been away for numerous stag / birthday / just because nights. Sometimes for several nights.

I'd also use tbe two weeks to think of how to get out of this marriage.

What do you mean you're 'not allowed' to go away for the night?

If he can, why can't you?