Ex boyfriend is really distressed

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Hello!
We're both 25.
I broke up with him over long distance at the start of the year and i'm with someone new and have been with him for about 2 months.. ex and I were together 5 years.

Ex has come home from travels.
He came home this week. He is texting me asking me to meet up and speak to him. I've refused. He's texting me saying how much he loves me and wants closure.
I had a phone call with him tonight to try and give him that closure, He was begging me to come see him, said he was parked around the corner from my house, started crying, said he'd had suicidal thoughts.

I told him i'm with someone else and he said "all couples go through hard times, we can get through this.

I ended up ending the call because i got overwhelmed.
He messaged me saying he was still around the corner of my house and i can come sit with him in the car - i refused.
He's texting saying i'm the love of his life and he just wants to soeak to me for 5 minutes then he's out of my life.
He's texting me memories we've had together and how he's never going to be with anyone else again, how i'm the love of his life.

I was going to block his number until he brought up the suicidal thoughts!
I've text his mum to say i'm worried,
But i dont know what to do!!

Call 999. Hes expresses suicidal thoughts.

Under no circumstances do you meet him. This is how murder suicides happen.

I'm sorry you are hurting but this is not something you can help with. He needs emergency care from professionals. He isnt well and isnt making good decisions. DO NOT GO TO MEET HIM.

How long was he travelling for? Were you having struggles before he went? How come you wont talk to him in person? Seems quite harsh after 5 years unless there's a backstory

Ask the police to do a safe and well check. Give them his number and location. Do not engage further with your ex.

Don't do anything else. You have told his family, it's up to them to support him. Best thing you can do for both of you is block him. He needs to move on and you need freedom from his emotions. He's trying to manipulate you as he has feelings for you but you need to ignore for both your sakes. He is not your responsibility.

If his parents are very concerned they should either take him to GP or A&E if out of hours. You need to stand firm or you are going to end up down a very rocky road.

You definitely do not go get in that car!

Branleuse don't be a dick. The man is not well. OP should not put herself in possible danger.

I agree with the other posters. Don’t go to him. You have done the right thing telling his mum. I would also inform the police.

Branleuse I'd be afraid of a murder-suicide if the OP met him in his mental state

He was travelling for about 9 months - meant to be 6 but he decided to stay longer.
We broke up because I couldnt deal with the uncertainity of when he was coming home and it seemed we wanted different things in life.
I decided not to see him because we've had the same conversation 100 times over call when we broke up long distance,
I've now.moved on and i am happy but I dont want to see ex as i think his intentions are to get back together and I dont trust he will try something,
I dont want to seem harsh but I just dont see the point seeing each other when it was his choice to leave and his choice to stay when we broke up, now he's home he just expects me to run into his arms

OP, do not meet him. Call 999 and tell them about his suicidal thoughts. He may be dangerous so do not meet up with him under any circumstances. Please update, are you okay?

Fair enough. I think its a bit OTT to start worrying about murder suicides, but youre not obliged to talk to him. Sounds like he made his choice

I've just become really worried he was waiting around the corner for an hour (he said) and he told me he only wanted to see me for 5 minutes and I can just walk to his car and we can sit in it and talk,
When i said no, he said he'll park outside for days until I leave so he can see me,
But I presume he's gone home now since he text before saying he's lying in bed and cant sleep but im not responding

SO it's taken him 9 months to decide he really misses you and loves you, pity he never cared enough 9 months ago right.. any idiot that uses the suicide threat to manipulate you just proves you did the right thing... Stop wasting your breath on this selfish idiot and Block Him.

OP did you write a thread on him deciding to stay longer? It sounds familiar.
Please do not meet him, if he felt so strongly he would have come home when he said he would not stayed another 3 months.
You’ve done the right thing telling his mother, if he contacts you again tonight saying he’s round the corner tell him you’re fearful for his mental health and will be informing the police about his suicidal thoughts. If he’s not genuine it will send him packing hopefully.

ffs BLOCK HIM

I agree with the previous comments! Phone the police and ask for a wellness check and you've already informed his mum. Block his number and block him on social media and move on with your new relationship. He could very well be manipulating you by saying he is suicidal in order to drag you back into the relationship! Please dont engage with this behaviour as it is very dangerous for your own mental health. Good luck!

Save the texts. If you do see him lurking when you leave the house - 999 immediately. This behaviour needs stopping ASAP. Text his mother that you do not want further contact with her son and he needs help, as you have her number. Send him one text that any further contact from him will be reported as harrassment then block him everywhere.

You should have blocked his number months ago.

You need to do that now.

Take care op. And report any suicide threats to the emergency services. thats the official advice.

Ditto others - report the suicidal messages, then block him.

He wasn't bothered enough about you not to go and then not to stay away for longer.

You have a new life. Enjoy it.

Thanks everybody; I'm just worried about wasting emergency services time?
I havent heard off him in about half an hour so i might just go bed

Just don't want it to ruin my new relationshiop so im going to stop responding

I'm just worried about wasting emergency services time?

No, the advice is to report.

www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/support-and-information/worried-about-someone-else/

You are not responsible for his actions. You gave him the closure he needed and if he chose to emotionally blackmail you into the car, how do you know he's not going to attempt to harm himself with you near him/harm you?
Inform the police and tell him to reach out to the emergency services and his family if he has any future problems.

I would report. If he is being dramatic and exaggerating to get your attention (a possibility) then he will be embarrassed. If not, then you have done the best thing for him anyway.