Ex boyfriend is really distressed

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Hello!
We're both 25.
I broke up with him over long distance at the start of the year and i'm with someone new and have been with him for about 2 months.. ex and I were together 5 years.

Ex has come home from travels.
He came home this week. He is texting me asking me to meet up and speak to him. I've refused. He's texting me saying how much he loves me and wants closure.
I had a phone call with him tonight to try and give him that closure, He was begging me to come see him, said he was parked around the corner from my house, started crying, said he'd had suicidal thoughts.

I told him i'm with someone else and he said "all couples go through hard times, we can get through this.

I ended up ending the call because i got overwhelmed.
He messaged me saying he was still around the corner of my house and i can come sit with him in the car - i refused.
He's texting saying i'm the love of his life and he just wants to soeak to me for 5 minutes then he's out of my life.
He's texting me memories we've had together and how he's never going to be with anyone else again, how i'm the love of his life.

I was going to block his number until he brought up the suicidal thoughts!
I've text his mum to say i'm worried,
But i dont know what to do!!

Block.

Why keep engaging with him? It’s not doing him any favours either.

I think you should message him and say, “I am blocking your number now. If you continue to harass me, I will call the police.”

Block

It sounds manipulative as fuck.

Block and if he reaches out in other ways take it to the police ASAP

Thanks everybody!

Creepy fucker. Stay safe OP!

Sometimes we learn more about someone once no longer in a relationship..Block

Save every message OP. This has the potential to turn nasty very quickly. Also, if you haven’t already, tell your new boyfriend everything.

Don’t respond. He’s weird and strange that he wasn’t bothered when he was away! Block his number and think no more of it. Go enjoy your new relationship and pity the poor woman he manipulates next!

Thanks everybody, going to block his number since he's text again asking if i will see him on my street for 5 minutes to give him closure;

Just want to confirm: am i being a bitch not giving him this "closure" and speaking to him face to face? I had to breakup with him on phone due to long distance. But i've moved on since so dont see the point bringing up old wounds but he seems to be begging for it

No, you aren't. He does not have the right to demand your time and attention.

Block, breathe a sigh of relief and enjoy your life without his interference.

Block him. You're not being a bitch. You've told his family and you actually seem very empathetic to me. You do right to avoid him. This kind of situation is the start of many a true crime podcast... stay safe and don't feel guilty xxx

Why is this 5 min face to face suddenly going to bring him closure when all the conversations up until now that were also supposed to bring closure, haven't?

He doesn't want closure, he wants a resumption of the relationship. What's he going to do? Beg? Cry? Wail? Guilt trip you? Emotionally blackmail you? No thanks. You've moved on. You're in a new relationship.

It is not your job to bring him closure. You're not responsible for him. You owe him nothing.

No, you're not being a bitch. He needs to shut up and move on.

What’s this closure? Has he turned American? You dumped him. That’s closure. What’s 5 minutes going to achieve and it won’t be 5 minutes will it? He’s throwing a tantrum because you’ve moved on and he doesn’t like it. Just message him and say “I’ve already told you no. The answer is still no. I have a new boyfriend and I’m very happy. You went travelling. You weren’t nice to me. I’ve moved on. I suggest you do the same. I do not want to see or hear from you again”

Very true!
The phone call last night was supposed to be closure but it ended up being him crying, in his car around the my street for an hour, saying how "we will get through this" when i mentioned new relationship, and then saying if i see him for 5 minutes I will never have to see him again, and when i asked him what he meant by that he brought up the thoughts he's been having (suicide),

I have mentioned this to new boyfriend. He was the one that said speaking to him might be good because it can help.
But i rung him up crying after the phone call with ex saying how he's had these thoughts (although i dont have that same love for ex, i of course still care and would be devastsated if he did anything and I don't want anybody to be upset, especially not over me),
New boyfriend is very understanding but he is finding ex a bit frustrating,
I'm going to block ex so i can focus on new boyfriend

No its very concerning... He has managed 9 months without seeing you.

And i only asked him what he meant by "you'll never have to see me again" because he followed it with "i'll be gone" and he was crying whilst saying it

Don’t respond to his requests, send a very short message saying this is harassment and you’ll report him to the police and that you are blocking him now. Then block him, everywhere. His problems are not your problems.

He’s using his apparent need for ‘closure’ to manipulate you. Why didn’t he need closure at any point over the last 9 months when he was travelling? It’s an excuse to speak with you and try and talk you into giving him a place to stay. Don’t.

Tell your new boyfriend everything. If there is any escalation of harassment call the police.

JUST BLOCK. You owe ex NOTHING. Stop engaging in this ridiculous drama.

why have you not blocked this idiot after last night OP? the normal response is to BLOCK.

Please tell us you have FINALLY blocked him.

And i only asked him what he meant by "you'll never have to see me again" because he followed it with "i'll be gone" and he was crying whilst saying it

FFS BLOCK

I didnt block him last night because I didnt know the best way to react to the suicide talk, so came here for advice and then ended up falling asleep,
But i'm going to block him now

No you're not a bitch. He's using the word 'closure' to try and lure you into seeing him. If he openly said "I want to manipulate and pressure you into taking me back" you wouldn't even entertain the idea, would you? But because he says "I just want closure" you start doubting yourself.

Closure is something he has to find for himself, not something you can bestow upon him.

Don't send him texts about your new boyfriend. (Or any texts). It would just be inflammatory.

He's not behaving reasonably, you can't reason with him.