Ex boyfriend is really distressed

[HelpHelpHelpHelp1]

Hello!
We're both 25.
I broke up with him over long distance at the start of the year and i'm with someone new and have been with him for about 2 months.. ex and I were together 5 years.

Ex has come home from travels.
He came home this week. He is texting me asking me to meet up and speak to him. I've refused. He's texting me saying how much he loves me and wants closure.
I had a phone call with him tonight to try and give him that closure, He was begging me to come see him, said he was parked around the corner from my house, started crying, said he'd had suicidal thoughts.

I told him i'm with someone else and he said "all couples go through hard times, we can get through this.

I ended up ending the call because i got overwhelmed.
He messaged me saying he was still around the corner of my house and i can come sit with him in the car - i refused.
He's texting saying i'm the love of his life and he just wants to soeak to me for 5 minutes then he's out of my life.
He's texting me memories we've had together and how he's never going to be with anyone else again, how i'm the love of his life.

I was going to block his number until he brought up the suicidal thoughts!
I've text his mum to say i'm worried,
But i dont know what to do!!

Report me if you think that Sagradafamiliar. i have simply given the OP the information she needs to block her ex. Why would that be hounding?

@BentlyandPalmers yes, I know. I’ve read the thread & commented yesterday too.

Because you're being very intense and stampy footy, Bently

Or perhaps just giving advice you don’t agree with because you prefer the drip drip drip drama?

How can anyone object and be rude about me giving advice how to block ? 🙄

How does he not know where you work if you were in a relationship with him for 5 years?

Do you know his car? If he is sitting outside your house or nearby as he claimed, he could be watching when your parents go or out so will know when you are alone. If you or your parents spot him lurking - get the reg and report him.

Do you have a car - does he know your routine?

He doesnt know where i work because i was in uni when we broke up so only got my job last month and havent spoken since.
He doesnt know my car because i have had a new car since we broke up.
He knows my parents car though so parents are a bit worried he'll watch when that is there or not

Bently there is no drama, the OP isn't engaging with him. You seem personally offended and frustrated that she didn't BLOCK as soon as you said it. She might need more support or advice as blocking doesn't always solve everything and you're trying to point the finger at OP for her ex not letting go which isn't helpful.

Sagradafamiliar Actually the last thing help help help help help needs is you arguing on her thread trying to pick a fight! Please stop.

Sagradafamiliar

I’ll ignore your posts from now on on this thread. So no need to reply. I think it is derailing and not at all beneficial.

www.cps.gov.uk/legal-guidance/suicide-policy-prosecutors-respect-cases-encouraging-or-assisting-suicide

Saying 'what do you mean' falls far short of the evidential test, according to this.

Honestly MN does offer a platform to some strange people.

I'm really confused how this thread has turned into a debate about me encouraging it?
I never mentioned that he explicitily talked about suicide several times on the call - it was first brought up when he said he'd be gone and I asked what he meant by that and he said about his thoughts and I told him not to be silly and that nothing is worth doing that over

Really don't get where this goading has come from?

@helphelphelphelp1
You haven’t goaded him, nor have you done anything wrong.
Some people on mumsnet look for a way to have an op bash regardless of situation.

I hope he leaves you alone soon and wish you all the best

Take no notice of Bently OP, no-one else is

Bently has obviously got a bee in their bonnet about something that does not relate to your situation, or they have deliberately misread your posts so that they could pose as some kind of half-baked all-wise and all-knowing relationship guru.

Yes he brought them up after he mentioned he'd be gone and i asked what he meant!

It doesn't really matter because he's definitely not going to kill himself. Just like how the other manipulative, abusive ex partners who say this are definitely not going to kill themselves either.

Ffs Bently. Will you just leave her alone. You’re coming across as unhinged.

Honestly Bentley..

You are very over-invested in this thread. I suggest you step away from the thread.

Op. It is one person making these comments. No one else thinks you were goading him.

It is very easy to sit at the key board knowing exactly the right thing to say/ do. Not so easy when you know the person and have had a relationship with them.

@BentlyandPalmers stop being a twat. She said he mentioned suicide when she asked what he meant by saying he'd be gone. You constantly reiterating your thoughts about the OP's behaviour is totally unhelpful. The thread isn't about that, or at least it shouldn't be.

I don’t think the OP is guilty of suicide coercion, of course not. But did she really do all she could to prevent a suicide?

There isn't a duty to in law to prevent a suicide unless you have actively taken responsibility for the person in question. The fact that he chooses to send you texts does not mean that you have taken that responsibility. And yes, by alerting his mother she did indeed do precisely what she should to prevent a suicide - not that this man's suicide was ever a realistic prospect anyway.

She hung on for hours recording each new message on Mumsnet, ignoring advice to block all call the authorities.

Well, no, we can all see that that isn't what happened. Virtually her first action was to phone his mother. She then didn't know whether to block him or not because, guess what, she hadn't come across this situation before, and was worried that blocking him might upset him more. Then several hours went by when she was asleep. In the morning, far from being suicidal, he was alive and well and asking her to see him, so the urgency rather disappeared.

I warned her that this did not look good. It doesn’t.

It's looking fine to lots of people on this thread, BECAUSE SHE DID THE SENSIBLE THING AND TOLD HIS FAMILY. Sorry to shout, but this just doesn't seem to be getting through to you. Out in the real world, we can see that her uncertainty about blocking him arose from worrying about making the situation worse, and the fact that a load of strangers on social media said something different doesn't change that.

I wanted her not to speak out of turn. I hope she didn’t.

She made it absolutely clear that she had no intention of speaking to him. Her one area of uncertainty was whether to text him to tell him she was going to block him. So your wishes and hopes are entirely superfluous and officious.

Someone will always find a way to blame the woman when a man's in distress. I'd ignore it OP. You've done nothing wrong.

Sunday 17.08: He knows where I live of course
Sunday 21.12: I dont think he knows my house number

???

@Puzzledandpissedoff I think she means house telephone number when she says house number.

Ah - you could well be right, Bluebell