Do I tell the husband about his wife?

[Bailey500]

Two weeks ago I found out my partner was cheating... its hit me very hard because we went through so much to be together and built the most incredible house/life together... Then a 25 year old instagram model came along... (im 34) We dont have children but were going to start trying in january, we are trying to patch things up slowly and my feelings are changing daily so not really sure what will happen. But have a burning desire to tell her husband, I have suffered so much and just think its unfair that he doesn't know and that she just gets away with being so reckless! Should I tell him?!

[readitandwept]

I never know which camp I'm in, but this thread certainly proves that at least threatening to tell has its upsides.

[Bailey500]

Hi everyone, I have been talking to her all afternoon. Literally the nicest person she told me all the bs he told her, we have matched our stories up and she has shown me messages he sent. The pig even told us both to get our bodies ready for babies at the same time. She also has a little girl that he was trying to build a relationship with!
I literally feel so clear, the last month has been the worst torment I have ever experienced. And after he came clean things were still not adding up and my instincts were going off the chart!!! I was even booked into hypnotherapy tomorrow to help me put it all to rest!
I don’t know what’s going to happen but right now I don’t even feel sad for the pig. We can’t sell the house for another year without getting seriously big charges. We have a beautiful puppy beagle together too, I work too much to have him full time but this will destroy me losing him! I have always said animals never let you down.
Will be home in an hour for a much needed drink, he obviously wants to talk so this is going to be interesting.
Thank you all, I will keep you updated xxxx

[Sunflower20]

So sorry OP....he's a lying piece of shit.
Sending you hugs.

[user1479305498]

So is she married??

[CacenCrunch]

What a bastard, he won't be able to lie his way out of this one. Be prepared for waterworks and begging for another chance. You deserve so much better than this

[Bailey500]

She’s married but separated, just a single mum trying to move on from her own painful past and then this happens....

Honestly what is the point in putting trust into anyone?!

[WhoKnewBeefStew]

I never told the husband, and to this day, nearly 10 years later, I still wish I had. I don’t know if the ow is still with her dh, but I doubt my, now exdh, was the last affair she had. I feel so sorry for her husband and also there is a bitterness that she got away with it.

[FudgeBrownie2019]

He's nothing but scum, no excuses, no alternatives, and I hope he ends up alone.

OP, I hope you can work through your hurt and come to terms with how he's behaved. If you do have to continue living together do not under any circumstances allow it to become about him and what he wants; you have every right to lay down rules about what you expect and have him respect them entirely. And keep the puppy when you do eventually sell up. Any prick who fucks over a woman the way he's fucked you over deserves no custody rights over the pooch.

[DowntonCrabby]

Christ OP, LEAVE HIM!

[Bailey500]

Im 34, no kids.... can not imagine having to go through dating again and starting all over. What a shit storm. His family are going to be so sad, we all get on so well and I will miss them dearly.

[Ringdonna]

Keep out of it, anyone gave me an ultimatum would be told to fuck off and mind their own business.

[Yadid]

I'm glad you two met and buried the hatchet (into him hopefully). Sounds like you're both well rid!

[Bailey500]

Im so Pleased, but wish I had contacted her when it first happened. She wanted to contact me because she had suspicions also!

[neverornow]

Tell him

F her. Why should she get away with it + you could be doing him a massive favor

[Mxyzptlk]

Why do some people not read the thread?

[mamaofboyss]

What @LunasOrchid said

[Reallynowdear]

So sorry op, what a shithead he is.

[mamaofboyss]

@Mxyzptlk sorry I'm guilty I do it every time then realise after that's there's already millions of comments 😫my bad

[Mxyzptlk]

[S021]

I didn’t, because I couldn’t for various reasons.

I wish I had, it’s too late now

[S021]

You did the right thing, even if it didn’t turn out as planned.

[Dollyparton3]

So sorry for what you're going through OP. I had similar in my first marriage.

I contacted her husband and he thanked me. My ex also convinced me to marry him shortly after. I refer to it as my hysterical bonding moment.

I found out shortly after we married that his big moment of clarity and confession wasn't really what it seemed. He'd only told me as much as I thought he could get away with and he tapped up several women a few months after we married for sexting.

Keep a clear head in the next few days and dont be swayed by him. Take time to go out, talk to someone you trust in real life for a bit of perspective and don't worry about your puppy. You can make that work. Lots of people do with daycare and great friends and relatives.

[Closetbeanmuncher]

Please please I beg you don't ever get pregnant by this man.

It's better to start a fresh in the dating pool than cling on to trash for the sake of sunken costs fallacy and fear of the unknown.

You've seen the truth with your own eyes, don't let him weasel his way back in. The get your body ready for babies bit in particular made my skin crawl.

🤢

[user764329056]

He’s a piece of shit, you’re better than that, aim higher and leave him to his low life ways

[Mrsmummy90]

He's scum! You deserve someone who will love and respect you, not treat you like a fool!