I hit my partner! So ashamed

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Nced for this as it could be outing. And I'm so ashamed and disappointed

All day he was doing things and trying to cause an argument.
Like this morning he was refusing to take his son (aged 2) back to his mum's so I had to whilst he was still in bed and I had to give his son breakfast and get him dressed.

Then this afternoon he was ignoring me. And when he spoke to me he started an argument.

And I was so fed up with him and angry I hit him.

He's gone out now probably to the pub.

I'm so ashamed 😢

I don't have anger issues

How do you explain thumping your partner then?

OP, you were severely provoked.
Of course you shouldn't have hit him, but he shouldn't have been being a complete shit all day.
Don't take all the blame on yourself.

You alone are responsible for hitting him.

You were no more provoked than a man giving a nagging wife a well deserved slap.

Please take responsibility, accountability and blame for your behaviour

I think there is a point where almost anyone will lash out and you clearly reached yours

Yes, like when men lash out

the relationships is salvageable - if she thinks its worth continuing

his decision whether he wants to stay with someone who hit him!

I’ve heard it all - he manipulated her into hitting him! WTAF

This website never fails to fucking amaze me with its double standards. Women are always minimising and defending women who behave in the most despicable way. Yet a man is slaughtered and verbally abused over the slightest thing.

You should be ashamed and I have a feeling you are happy that you have support here from others who are justifying your disgusting behaviour.

Violence is NEVER okay. Your gender, your size, your strength, none of it matters, hitting another is disgusting. Had you written that your partner slapped your face, the reaction would have been very different.

I often wonder why MN has such a bad reputation for its double standards, but it's obvious why. All those minimising should be ashamed.

As for you OP, enjoy people defending your wrong doing. Here's hoping this is a wake up call for your partner and he leaves.

This thread almost makes a mockery of victims who have suffered physical abuse. I am truly disgusted by some of the comments on here. I am also sure, if it had been a man who had hit his partner, "just once" the opinions would be completely different.

The very questionable morals would be laughable, if the issue was not so serious.

And then this abuse seems to have been minimised even further by stating, "he's forgiven me." Just like that? I doubt it very much. Unless he has no boundaries whatsoever.

Once someone puts their hands on you, in anger. Everything changes...l. Forever. It's over!

Every victim and abuser should be panicked! How come they aren't scrambling trying to find a hotline number and protection from their abuser or people/person they have abused.

You should be ashamed imagine if a man did that to you, vile behaviour you need to seek help

It’s never ok to hit anyone. I guess you’d need more than a apology if he had been the one hitting you?

Is this who you want to be?

Lucky enough us guys don't go running off to the police every time somebody loses it around us.

Lucky enough us guys don't go running off to the police every time somebody loses it around us.

Sadly neither do women. That's why there's so many abusers out there.

Sadly neither do women. That's why there's so many abusers out there
And why so many women are killed by their partners - 2 a week on average.
Nothing like that with men who are abused by women. Not even close!

But it's your kind of attitude @Worrynot1 that is keeping so many men from coming forward when they should.
And men should report it.
Why wouldn't you?
It's important for all men and their mental health to be taken seriously and report any crime against them. That made by a stranger or a partner or someone else they know.
It's still way too taboo...
Men should be men etc... Bullshit.
They suffer just as much and need to start getting people to listen to their issues too!

Get support structures in place properly for men and maybe the young male suicide death statistics will fall.

I’m loving the double standard on this thread. If you took this is a representative sample of the wider population, no woman would ever be allowed to complain about gender inequality given the lack of critical thinking and outright sexist bigotry on display.