I hate this 'it's not as bad if it's a woman hitting a man'.
Its total bollocks. Is violence not that bad in a lesbian relationship? Cause its 2 women? Or is it not that bad if its the smaller woman?
Its total bollocks. When you hit someone its not just the physical damage that can be done. Being physically abused is humiliating, you feel shame. There emotional damage that happens too.
Would anyone say to a woman who was shoved by her husband "but how hard was it, did it actually hurt'.
I can see from these threads why men donr really come forward when their female partner abused them.
My friend called me once at about 11pm and asked if I could run her to the hospital. He brother was there. I went up, we went in and blood was pouring from the back of his head. His wife had repeatedly punched him in the back of his head with her rings on. He couldnt walk in straight line but staggered out someone found sat on the pavement outside the house.
His wife and her adult son was at the hospital. I over heard the son telling his mum that if police became involved she should 'just lie and say he hit her first'.
This wasnt the first time she had hit him. It wasn't the last. She was 5ft5 and he was 6ft 4in. By the time he left her he was a shadow of the person I knew in our teens. He attempted suicide several times and is still a mess years later.
So dont tell me, a woman hitting a man isnt as bad. Yes men are, generally, stronger theres a bigger immediate danger.
But telling women it isnt that bad, is telling them they can get away with it. And like all physical abuse, it escalates.
People who think female violence isnt a big deal, make me sick. I bet if it was their son, they wouldn't be saying that.
This relationship is fucked up. He sounds like a poor excuse for a father
OP has issues. No o e slaps someone because they 'just werent thinking'. That's like abusers excuses 101.