Am I right in thinking this is strange

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DH claims to have a booked a hotel room for his male friend for tonight (friend travelled over last month, stayed one night couple weeks ago). He went straight from work to meet friend and go out for dinner. Came home just before 1am to drop their leftovers and then left to say he staying at hotel with friend. I think that’s odd. What you guys think?

The whole thing is fucking ridiculous. From the dropping off their leftovers at 1am (what?) to disappearing off to a hotel with his mate to share a double bed. He has some serious explaining to do.

Very weird I agree!

@Curlyeyelash my DH would and does happily go for dinner in a restaurant with his mates. Why not?

The weirdest thing about this is the bringing the leftovers home at 1am, for several reasons that are too obvious to list.

I asked my partner why he doesn't and he said all of his mates would pick going to the pub over going to a restaurant.

I can't relate with my partner as I enjoy going out to dinner with my own female friends. Just thought I would share a male perspective in my previous post, obviously I know not all men are like my partner on that issue :)

Well done on coming to a decision, OP. It doesn’t matter what he did or didn’t do with whomever in a hotel room. You don’t need to devote any more brainspace to the minutiae of his actions, they are of no consequence to you.

Wishing you a less dramatic future, OP, put yourself first for while.

theyre shagging

Hope you are ok OP

If you're able go and wait to run into him if you need solid evidence to get closure. If you truly know what is going on then just leave him. I think though if you personally need that solid proof, an opportunity like this won't present itself again soon, I'd think. You may regret not taking advantage of it. Sorry OP

Why did you have to leave?!

Whatever is going on, your husband is bloody odd. Bringing home his leftover dinner at 1am and going back out to stay with a mate at a hotel?!

If you’ve the friends number call him/his wife ask him something and tell him he’s welcome to come stay at yours any time. It confirms whether he’s in a hotel room sharing a bed with your H.

Altho I doubt it very much.

I’d go on the law society website make a list of the closest family law firms in your area and call a few on Monday.

Cheating (straight or gay).
More likely straight, using mate as cover. He's recently stayed at yours and had stayed in the past so why would he have to get a hotel this time.
Even if he chose to get a hotel, why would your husband have to stay there with him when he lives nearby.

As someone else said he's the crappiest cheat ever - his explanations make zero sense (either that or he doesn't even care if his explanations make no sense).

And you had to find out about the hotel booking yourself by going through his email.

Solicitor and everything else you need to look into by the looks of it.

Has he come home yet?

All seems a bit weird

Have you spoken to him?

Ahh this isn't nice. I hope there is an innocent explanation however I think if your gut is worried it's probably not a good basis for the relationship :(

Really feel for you x

Good for you op.
What time did he go home?

@Borderterrierpuppy he's not home, is he?

I think you've probably come to the right decision. What did he have to say for himself when he came home?

I think he bought leftovers back to check you were not ‘out’ spying on him

Whatever is going on I hope the OP is okay

OP please let us know when you can that you're ok at least. This is a proper shitty thing to go through and you aren't alone

hope you're ok OP

Hope you're OK, lots of us know that feeling of dread and half wanting to be proven right so you aren't going mad, but half wanting to be proven wrong so it isn't something horrible to deal with.

We are all here for you to chat to either way

Aw I'm sorry OP......but you deserve to be treated better. Has he come home and said anything? Hope you are ok