Am I right in thinking this is strange

[ceme]

DH claims to have a booked a hotel room for his male friend for tonight (friend travelled over last month, stayed one night couple weeks ago). He went straight from work to meet friend and go out for dinner. Came home just before 1am to drop their leftovers and then left to say he staying at hotel with friend. I think that’s odd. What you guys think?

[VikVal]

I would throw him to the curb...If nothing else, just for being that level of weird....But I suspect gay, OW or time alone but he doesn't want you to know he is having time alone so all this is just a cover...nah...gay or OW is my opinion.

[ceme]

@catbrat. Checkout is up to 11am, thinking I will stakeout from about 7

[whitebowls]

I'd be staking out the hotel. Sitting in the lobby with the lifts in view from 8ish.
Is breakfast included in the booking? You could always wait in the hotel restaurant.

[WelshMoth]

It doesn't sound good OP, I'm sorry.

What's your plan?

[PhilCornwall1]

@ceme as you're awake now, I'd be boiling up the kettle and taking travel mug of coffee and starting the stakeout now. You may not be able to get in, but you could park up.

If anyone from the hotel asks what you are doing, tell them.

[DaWeasleyWae]

I'd definitely be rethinking the decision re divorce. If he hasn't changed his ways by now, I don't think he ever will.. Its not fair for him to do this to you sweets, i can only imagine that mentally, you'll be drained. Do what you have to do in order to catch the guy out (for your proof and peace of mind) , then walk away with your head held high.

[Apolloanddaphne]

Do you think he was with his friend for dinner earlier and is now in a hotel with a woman maybe using his friend as cover?

[Fizzysours]

But if it is a woman she could just leave first so staking out would not give you any definitive answers. He has destroyed your peace of mind. Could you try contacting the friend, making up some excuse? I bet he is home with his kids. He wouldn't cover for your husband would he?

[WhoKnewBeefStew]

It does sound odd, but if he's playing away he's got a proper brass neck to do it so blatantly.

[MrsMozartMkII]

That's a shit situation for you OP.

Would the friend lie for your H? As in if you asked him where he is?

[Chickydoo]

Hope you are ok op, awful situation!

[lawnmowingsucks]

I find it incredible that your husband just doesn't seem to care that his story is so obviously transparent

[HalyardHitch]

Regardless of what he's up to, I think you should kick him out anyway.

[Tennis82]

If you make a note of the booking confirmation, you can go to the hotel and say you've forgotten your room key. Give them the booking number and they'll give you a key.

[ifeelgreat]

What tennis said, say you came out for brekky and can't find the key. Just say your Mrs (booking name) and take a shot of confirmation on your phone

[cp2016]

I think you need to check up if that's your gut feeling, but you need him not to find out you have done that in case he is telling the truth. If he is, you don't want to come out the bad person in this. But you need to put your mind at rest so go and wait but keep out the way until you see what you need to see. Good luck

[Kyvia]

This is a really odd situation. Why would he even book a room for his friend - can the friend not book his own room? Does your DP have frequent flyer type perks it makes sense for him to make the booking?

My DP will share a room with his best friend when they’re away at conventions for their hobby if I’m
not there, usually twin room but on occasions the bookings have been messed up and they’ve shared a bed, same as I would with my best friend or my mum etc if needs must, doesn’t have to mean they’re having sex in it.

I guess the weird thing is here is it’s not needs must is it!

It sounds like your marriage is in a heap of trouble no matter what is happening in that hotel room, OP. Sorry you’re going through this. At the end of the day you don’t need any dramatic gotcha as a reason to end things. Whatever the explanation for this hotel thing, do you want to stay in this marriage anyway?

[Cecilandsnail]

He's the world's worst cheater if he is, knowing that you know exactly where he is and going anyway. He must be supremely fucking stupid!

[AmIThough]

Did friend come back to yours with DH?

[LionKingLover]

Good luck op. X

[Dillydallyalltheway]

Let us know what happens please

[Mary1935]

Op still asleep!!!

[coconuttelegraph]

Did you see the recent slightly similar thread about the husband going to a wedding - it turned out that he was going to a hotel to take drugs, could that be what's happening?

[Morgan12]

Sounds gay to me.