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DP ruining my holiday already.

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WhatHoliday · 22/08/2019 23:18

DP has been having a hard time with his mental health recently. To exacerbate this he isn't really seeking help and has been drinking far too much. We're off on holiday with our son (18 months) tomorrow. I'm excited, first holiday together as a family.
I'm off work already, (teacher) but I have been in today to do things for gcse results, but I've also organised all mine and Ds's packing, cancelled the milk, got insurance, euros and made a bag of fun for DS in the plane.

"D"P has just come home at 8pm, dropped the fact that he hasn't washed any of his clothes and needs to do that and pack still, and has basically faffed around for 3 hours, drinking and looking for 1 t shirt. I wanted him to be on baby duty for a couple of hours so I could have a bath, shave my bloody legs and if I was lucky smush a bit of fake tan on. He's done nothing, he's sat here saying he feels that he doesn't deserve the holiday and he's stressed and anxious. I've carried on sorting and packing and now he's "gone out for a pint" so I'm still unbathed, non shaved, pasty white and bloody angry.

His behaviour is so erratic, self-involved and depressing. I read the thread recently about the woman on holiday with her Husband who was behaving horrendously but also had mental health issues and I'm just dreading going.

Not even sure there's an answer for this. Last time he went out at this time he was on a bender for 24 hours, so maybe I'll get to go alone anyway!

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Mileysmiley · 23/08/2019 06:42

@penmanship

You are entitled to your opinion as am I

I have worked in a male only environment (building firm) and also a mainly female department (NHS Department)

TanteRose · 23/08/2019 06:42

I think they need to look at others on this thread who I beleive have multi accounts

well you need to report if you think that.

However, PP are right in that it's not on to start derailing threads - not good form - just start one of your own Smile

HollysTeflonSeptum · 23/08/2019 06:43

Miley I defended you on another thread thinking you meant no offence with your title but you really are coming across as quite unhinged now.

Repeat to self:

This is not my thread. It's not all about me.
This is not my thread. It's not all about me.
Ad Infinitum.

I hope things work out for you OP, whether he makes it or not.

FattyPeddledFuriously999 · 23/08/2019 06:44

Hope you have a good holiday OP, let us know how it goes! Flowers

Mileysmiley · 23/08/2019 06:44

I will leave it to others to report it and the mods are probably looking at it anyway.

I will repeat I am just a normal woman killing time on an internet forum because I don't sleep much. I do have a busy life offline and won't be on here 24/7

Mileysmiley · 23/08/2019 06:44

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TanteRose · 23/08/2019 06:45

OP, hope you are on your way to your holiday destination Flowers

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Northernsoullover · 23/08/2019 06:50

Miley you said you were leaving the thread?
You are very boring indeed. I hope the OP gets away ok.

whereisthebloodylunchbox · 23/08/2019 06:51

Why on earth would the thread be gone? The only problem on the thread is you. Op should no lose her thread because you.

ukgift2016 · 23/08/2019 06:52

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FermatsTheorem · 23/08/2019 06:56

Christ, what's with the invasion of the Stepford wives?

OP if you come back, I hope you have a nice holiday with or without your husband.

NiteWotcha · 23/08/2019 06:58

FFS will you lot behave?!!!
hiding some obvious troll hunting...Angry

LadyOfTheCanyon · 23/08/2019 06:58

Miley, you were on a thread I was watching about the sexiest song ever. You posted with 70 (!) links to videos which in a thread of 376 posts, is 20% of the content. I counted the number because I thought "surely someone should have self awareness that on a thread that asks for "the .... EVER" there are not 70 contenders. It just comes across that you have no boundaries and not much idea of how forums like this work.

You are free to derail threads of course, ( and get reported for doing so) but some awareness of good thread protocol will work in your favour. Start your own threads and reign in the stream of consciousness postings about sweet FA on other people's.

You don't want your username to become synonymous with "better leave the thread because here comes old judgeypants to bore on for the majority of the thread" - which is why people are suggesting that you might be the artist previously known as Crumbs.

Mileysmiley · 23/08/2019 06:59

@NiteWotcha

I am off to work now Smile

CuriousaboutSamphire · 23/08/2019 06:59

Morning mods Smile

Mileysmiley · 23/08/2019 07:00

@LadyOfTheCanyon

Why would you count posts that seems obsessive?

I usually post on youtube so I will post my music on there from now on

CuriousaboutSamphire · 23/08/2019 07:02

THAT seems obsessive? Grin

LadyOfTheCanyon · 23/08/2019 07:03

I counted them because I actually wanted to know the % of the thread you'd taken up. I like to have the facts to hand before I accuse them of something.

NiteWotcha · 23/08/2019 07:04

morning Curious Brew Grin

Marmozet · 23/08/2019 07:04

Did he come back?

euro23451277 · 23/08/2019 07:04

@WhatHoliday has he turned back up Op? Will you and DC manage to leave on time?

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CuriousaboutSamphire · 23/08/2019 07:06

Can I add one more PUSH? Pretty please Grin