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DP ruining my holiday already.

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WhatHoliday · 22/08/2019 23:18

DP has been having a hard time with his mental health recently. To exacerbate this he isn't really seeking help and has been drinking far too much. We're off on holiday with our son (18 months) tomorrow. I'm excited, first holiday together as a family.
I'm off work already, (teacher) but I have been in today to do things for gcse results, but I've also organised all mine and Ds's packing, cancelled the milk, got insurance, euros and made a bag of fun for DS in the plane.

"D"P has just come home at 8pm, dropped the fact that he hasn't washed any of his clothes and needs to do that and pack still, and has basically faffed around for 3 hours, drinking and looking for 1 t shirt. I wanted him to be on baby duty for a couple of hours so I could have a bath, shave my bloody legs and if I was lucky smush a bit of fake tan on. He's done nothing, he's sat here saying he feels that he doesn't deserve the holiday and he's stressed and anxious. I've carried on sorting and packing and now he's "gone out for a pint" so I'm still unbathed, non shaved, pasty white and bloody angry.

His behaviour is so erratic, self-involved and depressing. I read the thread recently about the woman on holiday with her Husband who was behaving horrendously but also had mental health issues and I'm just dreading going.

Not even sure there's an answer for this. Last time he went out at this time he was on a bender for 24 hours, so maybe I'll get to go alone anyway!

OP posts:
Poochandmutt · 23/08/2019 16:01

Well,you earn x3 what he earns ,so you don’t need him
Boils down to do you want him?

hellenbackagen · 23/08/2019 20:19

Hoping you went regardless op

My dp ruined mine within 2'hours of landing. . Was great. Not

JudgyPantsAndAMartyrBra · 23/08/2019 21:10

Thank you to the pp who has inspired my new username. Wasn't expecting it be available 😀

@WhatHoliday I hope you're on holiday enjoying the sun, without or without your partner.

NameChangerAmI · 23/08/2019 21:14

Another one here wishing you well , OP.

Here's hoping that you and your DC are settled down for the first night of your holiday, and that you've had a lovely day.

Ohmygoodnessreally · 24/08/2019 01:13

Hope you’re having a lovely time op

HighNetGirth · 24/08/2019 01:48

Why thank you, JudgyPantsAndAMartyrBra.

MsKhan · 24/08/2019 02:35

@Mileysmiley my dh would have a hissy fit in I went anywhere near his suitcase Grin

Nope, everything has to be rolled to perfection then placed gently inside.

Freak Grin

Op, I'm so sorry you are so tense before your holiday.

I read the thread you are referring to as well but I have to point out, that sounded like an absolutely unique case - we have no idea what was going on with that man, but it was clearly something serious.

On the bright side , I think the fact that your dp is communicating with you is a good sign.

I hope it all goes well and you all have a wonderful holiday.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 25/08/2019 14:23

everything has to be rolled to perfection then placed gently inside

Are we married to the same man MsKhan?

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